The new school year is upon us. If you’re like most families, there’s some upheaval going on as you figure out new routines and rhythms for meals and bedtime, and more. As you work on getting everyone back into the swing of things again, developing resilience is key to smooth days. What is resiliency and why is it important?
I’m asked frequently when I travel and speak about routines and rhythms. I speak regularly about developing resilience and being resourceful. It doesn’t matter if you’re a public, private, or homeschooler, everyone goes through an adjustment period at the beginning of a new school year.
What’s the goal? What’s the schedule? I’m not personally one that plans comprehensively because by 8:05 am my plans had gone out the window, but, I do like having order. During this adjustment period, it is helpful for you to manage your expectations of your kids and help manage their expectations.
Your children need to learn that when needed, they should pivot and adjust. This is being resilient. When you get knocked down, you get back up. It’s learning how to figure things out and overcome obstacles. Some of your kids are naturally resilient. When something happens, they stay positive and optimistic. Other children are leveled when something doesn’t go right and they have a hard time figuring out how to cope. These kids need a little more support in learning how to be resilient.
Remember that we’re talking about your child’s life. You can’t fix every situation for them, nor should you. As their parent, you should help, guide, and lead them. Help them develop problem-solving skills. Also remeber that choosing your words carefully in these situations also improves your relationship with them.
Communication is key and relationship is the end goal. You want to be the voice that your child seeks out when they face set backs. Developing resilience in them now will stick with them well into adulthood.
As I’ve traveled this summer, I’ve heard many people talk about being tired and overwhelmed. Just like you, I can’t get everything on my list done in a day! As a part of a recent conference, I participated in a retreat. So today I’m sharing with you the importance of retreating, just as Jesus did in the Bible. There is an urgent need to retreat! Let’s talk about this need for finding quietness and rest amidst the chaos of life and how retreating can provide strength, joy, and a renewed connection with God.
Sometimes quiet is something that we have to make happen. This act of retreating keeps us steady in the midst of chaos and near the heart of God.
“In quietness and rest is your strength.” – Isaiah 30:15
I’ve learned that if we don’t make time for this quiet and stillness, sometimes it is thrust upon us. It is vital that we retreat so we have the needed quiet to allow our minds to be still. God provides strength to us when we retreat. Rest moves us from burnout to breakthrough. Our lives are so busy, and these things are robbing us of the time that we need to be in God’s presence.
When I say retreat, I’m not talking about activities that require money or days away. I’m referring to the simple daily time alone with God.
In Genesis, God modeled the practice of rest after He finished creating. In the Gospels, Jesus modeled getting away from the crowds. If God Himself rested and retreated, it seems that we should follow His example. It is a lifeline for us!
“But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” – Luke 5:16
Exactly how you do this will look a little different from another person. Maybe you do this by taking a walk, sitting on the porch, or a chair where you can sit alone. You might be able to retreat for a minute or ten minutes or an hour.
Also, remember that your children are watching you. They will see how you take this time away with God and how you make spending that time a priority.
Things to consider:
Where can you retreat?
How long can you retreat?
What does God want to say to you?
More Verses to Ponder:
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28
“He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he refreshes my soul.” – Psalm 23:2-3
“Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him.” – Psalm 37:7
“Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, ‘Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.'” – Mark 6:31
“Return to your rest, my soul, for the Lord has been good to you.” – Psalm 116:7
“The Lord replied, ‘My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.'” – Exodus 33:14
As the fall season approaches, I encourage you to incorporate retreating into your daily lives. I challenge you to add a time of retreat to your calendar. Guard that time like you do taking your children to their various activities. By carving out moments for stillness and communion with God, we can find strength, joy, and direction in the midst of life’s chaos.
I met Doris Swift a few years ago, shortly before we both started our podcasts. I’ve been a guest on her show and I’m delighted to introduce you to her in this episode. She’s an author, podcaster, and founder of Fierce Calling Ministries. Listen in as we talk about embracing your fierce calling in using your gifts, navigating challenges, and embracing the seasons in your lives.
This episode is sponsored by BJU Press Homeschool. Visit bjupresshomeschool.com for trusted educational resources from a biblical worldview.
Doris and I discuss:
Doris’ passion for encouraging and equipping women to walk deeper in God’s word and use their gifts to impact the world for Christ.
Being grandparents
What if I’m missing my calling?
The importance of embracing different seasons of life, including motherhood
The importance of not comparing ourselves to others
Facing trials and challenges, such as the destruction of Doris’ home by a hurricane
Finding strength and joy in Christ
The need for community and supporting one another in difficult times
The story behind Surrender the Joy Stealers, a 6-week Bible study
How we don’t know the depth of the stories of the people we cross paths with
I hope this episode inspired and equipped you to seek out the “joy stealers” in your life!
About Doris Swift
Doris Swift is an author, speaker, founder of Fierce Calling Ministries, and podcast host of the award-winning Fierce Calling Podcast. In ministry for more than thirty years, Doris is passionate about encouraging and equipping women to walk deeper in God’s word, take action where their passion, compassion, and conviction intersect, and use their God-given gifts to impact the world for Christ.
She is the author of Surrender the Joy Stealers: Rediscover the Jesus Joy in You, a six-week Bible study rooted in John 15, which was released in May 2023 by Elk Lake Publishers, Inc.
Doris’s writing has been featured on popular sites and in magazines such as (in)courage, Just Between Us Magazine, Life Letter Café, Thrive Global, Purposeful Faith, Arise Daily, and Spark Media Magazine. Doris contributed a chapter to the award-winning book compilation We May Be Done But We’re Not Finished by author Deb DeArmond, published by Elk Lake Publishing, Inc. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Interdisciplinary Studies from Liberty University in Christian counseling, psychology, and business.
Doris currently resides in Florida with her awesomely supportive husband Brian, is mom to two amazing grown-ups and a daughter-in-love and son-in-love, and gammy to six wonderful grandkids she adores.
John Lovell, the inspiring force behind the Warrior Poet Society, is joining me on the podcast. John’s remarkable background as a former Army Ranger and special operations soldier, combined with his passion for masculinity and fatherhood, has propelled him to become a sought-after speaker and mentor. John is on a mission to redefine what it means to be a man in today’s world so we can start embracing masculinity again. We dive deep into the balance between strength and sensitivity, the importance of being a protector and provider, and the invaluable role of fathers in shaping the next generation.
This episode is sponsored by BJU Press Homeschool. Visit bjupresshomeschool.com for trusted educational resources from a biblical worldview.
In this episode, John and I discuss:
Meeting John at a homeschooling conference
Impact of technology and social media on daily life
Importance of living in the real world and not being consumed by screens
Balancing technology usage and spending time outdoors
The negative effects of cell phones on joy and relationships
What is a warrior?
What is a poet?
How to be a warrior AND a poet
Embracing masculinity and the role of men in the family
Instilling strong character, a love for reading, and physical strength in children
The importance of letting husbands lead and embracing their role as men
“Men make men.”
Acknowledging the challenges of single parents and seeking God’s guidance
John’s new book, The Warrior Poet Way
I hope my conversation with John encouraged you in raising and interacting with your boys and all of the men in your life!
About John Lovell
John Lovell is the Founder and CEO of the Warrior Poet Society — a values-based community dedicated to physical protection, the pursuit of truth, and living for higher purpose. His message has garnered over 100 million views across social media and streaming platforms. John is a former war veteran and Special Operations soldier, having served in 2nd Ranger Battalion. After his military service, he served as a Christian missionary in Central America full-time. Today he is a video content creator, public speaker, firearms trainer, and homesteader. John lives on a small farm in Georgia with his wife and two sons.
I had the opportunity to meet up with my long-time friend Michael Farris at the National Religious Broadcasters convention a few weeks ago. He graciously agreed to have a conversation with me to share with you here at Equipped To Be. Michael has such a breadth of experience and knowledge in the areas of homeschooling, the Constitution, free speech, and legal defense of these topics. We spent some time talking about the cultural shifts that are being seen in our country and what we as Christians can do about it.
This episode is sponsored by BJU Press Homeschool. Visit bjupresshomeschool.com for trusted educational resources from a biblical worldview.
Michael and I talk about:
Michael’s background, including his involvement in the homeschool movement, the founding of HSLDA, and his leadership roles in various organizations focused on protecting families and promoting the gospel of Christ.
The importance of delegating and empowering others to shine for long-term success.
The cultural shifts in America: those who hate God vs those who love God
The importance of the 1st Amendment: Totalitarianism and control of what you think
The dangers of suppressing dissenting opinions
Being open about your faith, your homeschooling, your lifestyle, etc.
The fight for our families, our children, our grandchildren, and our future.
Michael’s new project coming this fall
Stand up, Show up, Speak up.
I hope that my conversation with Michael has inspired and equipped you. These cultural shifts are happening all around us. What will you do next to stand up, show up, and speak up?
About Michael Farris
Former President & CEO Alliance Defending Freedom (2017-2022)
Farris was also founding president of both the Home School Legal Defense Association (1983), Patrick Henry College (2000), ParentalRight.org (2009), Convention of the States.
In 2022, Farris accepted a post at the NRB.org in the Office of General Counsel.
Farris has specialized in constitutional appellate litigation. In that capacity, he has argued before the appellate courts of 13 states, eight federal circuit courts of appeal, and the U.S. Supreme Court, where in 2018 he successfully argued NIFLA v. Becerra, resulting in a free speech victory for California’s pro-life pregnancy centers.
Farris has testified many times before both the House and Senate. He was an executive committee member of the Coalition for the Free Exercise of Religion that successfully lobbied Congress for the passage of the Religious Freedom Restoration Act of 1993. He also has substantial experience in international religious freedom advocacy.
Farris is the author of over 15 books, as well as law review and other scholarly and popular articles. He and his wife, Vickie, have 10 children and many grandchildren.
Do your children have summer jobs? Do they have a part-time job or work as an intern or volunteer somewhere? Fox 35 Orlando asked me to speak on this topic of teens and summer jobs and I always have so much more to say on these topics than I can fit into a short morning show segment. A lot of learning happens with summer jobs, so let’s talk about the benefits of a summer job for your teen!
This episode is sponsored by BJU Press Homeschool. Visit bjupresshomeschool.com for trusted educational resources from a biblical worldview.
I was speaking at a conference and walked into the lobby of the hotel to find a sign that said, “Workers are scarce. The whole country is facing a worker shortage. Be nice to those who show up.” I’m a strong advocate of rest, play, and learning to use boredom, but I also see that learning happens on the construction site, in an office filling papers, or volunteering at a non-profit organization. There’s value gained in these experiences for your teens working at a summer job.
Benefits of a Summer Job for Teens
Summer jobs can teach children and teens a lot of valuable life lessons and skills. Some of these include learning:
The value of work from a financial perspective – Your teen’s job can show them the value of work and how to separate income from their personal worth. They can also earn cash that can go towards savings, college, or personal interests. This is also an opportunity for parents to talk with and teach children about pay, negotiating raises, and other financial skills.
Useful hard and soft skills – Summer jobs can give your child the opportunity to hone a particular skill in an area of interest or show them that they don’t like working in a particular field. Beyond that, there are soft skills like problem-solving that are gained along the way.
How to work with a variety of people – These summer and part-time opportunities put your child into situations where they have to interact with people of all different ages, life stages, personalities, and more. They can gain valuable experience in learning to serve and get along with all kinds of people, some of whom they might not normally come into contact with or from whom they might have differing beliefs.
Summer Job Ideas
What kinds of jobs can your children and teens get this summer? Here’s a list to help you get started thinking about the possibilities:
Construction, pool cleaning, lawn maintenance, lifeguard, parks and recreation
Online: video editing, virtual assistant, learning software tools, graphic design, social media ads creator
Creative: production crew, tradeshow designs
In-Office: receptionist, office assistant, intern
Volunteer: city events, sporting events, music and theater events, hospitals
Consider all of these benefits of and options for summer jobs for your children. Working during the summer months can help your teens develop important skills, cultivate a strong work ethic, and gain valuable experiences for their future.
