What Kind of Childhood Am I Building in a Digital World? It's a question I don't remember parents asking twenty years ago, but I think it's one of the most important questions we can ask today.
Parents are worried about screen time, social media, gaming, and now AI. We wonder if our children are spending too much time online and not enough time in the real world. Those are important concerns.
But I think there's a deeper question beneath them all:
What is technology replacing?
What Kind of Childhood Am I Building? How Screens, Social Media, Gaming, and AI Are Shaping Childhood
"You can't control the culture, but you can create a home strong enough to shape your children within it." ~Connie Albers
What Is Technology Replacing?
Childhood isn't just a season to survive.
It's a season of formation where children learn patience while standing in line.
It's where they discover creativity after saying, "I'm bored."
And it's where they learn confidence by ordering their own meal, introducing themselves to a new friend, or trying something hard and failing.
Many of these small moments used to happen naturally. Today, technology can unintentionally crowd them out.
I'm not against screens. I'm not afraid of AI. And I don't think every game or social media platform is harmful.
But I do believe children need things technology cannot provide.
They need wonder, responsibility, face-to-face conversations, family dinners, real friendships, and time outside.
They also need quiet moments when their minds wander, and their imaginations wake up.
Most of all, they need adults who understand that raising children isn't simply about giving them access to the world.
It's about helping them become the kind of people who can live wisely in it.
As a mom who has raised children into adulthood and now watches grandchildren grow up, I find myself less interested in asking:
"How do I control technology?"
What Kind of Childhood Am I Building While the Culture is Busy Building One for Me?
The goal isn't to raise children who can survive the digital world.
It's to raise children who know who they are, whose they are, and what they are equipped to be.
And perhaps the greatest gift we can give our children is not protection from every new technology.
But the kind of childhood technology can never replace.
Letting Adutl Children Go WIthout Losing Them. This is the part of parenting no one prepares you for is parenting adult children. That season when your precious little one isn't little anymore. No one tells you how strange it feels when your children become adults.
You spend years feeding them, teaching them, correcting them, praying over them, driving them everywhere, staying up late, showing up, giving up, and pouring out.
Then one day, they are grown.
You blink and they have their own homes, schedules, opinions, spouses, children and their own way of doing things.
You are still their parent, but you are not parenting them in the same way.
That transition can be beautiful. It can also feel tender, confusing, and even painful at times. Because deep down, most parents want to remain part of their children’s lives. They want to be included. They want to matter. They want the relationship to stay close.
That is normal.
But as our children grow into adults, the relationship has to mature. Letting them go does not mean losing them. Sometimes, letting go is what gives the relationship room to grow.
Letting Them Go Without Losing Them: Parenting Adult Children with Grace
When our children become adults, the relationship does not end. But the terms of the relationship must mature.
The Goal Was Always Release
When you are in the middle of raising children, it is easy to focus on getting through the day.
Get through the math lesson, discipline issue, dinner, the teen years and the hard conversation. But parenting was never only about getting through the day. The goal was always bigger than that. We are raising children who will one day live without us making every decision for them.
That means our parenting has to slowly move from control to guidance.
From managing to coaching.
From correcting every little thing to helping our children learn how to think, choose, and grow.
The daily work matters because it is building something for the future. We are not just raising children to obey us today. We are building adults who will God willing want a relationship with us tomorrow.
The Relationship Changes
When children become adults, the love does not end. But the role changes. In fact, they must change.
Adult children still need love, encouragement, prayer and a safe place to come home to. And it shouldn't surprise you when they ask for your wisdom from time to time.
But they do not need the same level of correction, instruction, or oversight they needed when they were younger.
That can be hard for parents.
After years of being responsible for so much, it can feel unnatural to step back. Parents may still see the risks and see the better way. The natural urge to help, protect, advise, and fix are still inside them. But adult relationships cannot thrive under constant correction. At some point, parents have to learn a new posture.
Less, “Let me tell you what to do.”
More, “I’m here if you want to talk.”
Less, “Why didn’t you tell me?”
More, “I’m thankful when you share your life with me.”
Less, “That’s not how I would do it.”
More, “I trust God is still working in you.”
That shift takes humility. It also takes faith. And, in my experience, it takes practice.
Being Included Is Not the Same as Having Access
One of the hardest parts of parenting adult children is learning the difference between being included and expecting access.
Parents naturally want to know what is happening in their children’s lives, I know I do. They want the phone calls, the visits, the invitations, the updates, and the shared moments. Those things matter.
But we have to be careful not to measure love only by access.
How often did they call?
Did they invite us?
Did they tell us first?
Did they include us in the decision or ask for our opinion?
Those questions can quietly create hurt if we are not careful.
Sometimes adult children are not rejecting us. Sometimes they are simply living full lives. They are working, raising children, building marriages, managing homes, paying bills, and trying to keep up with responsibilities.
In other words, they may be living the very season we once lived.
A missed phone call does not always mean distance.
A changed plan does not always mean rejection.
A decision made without us does not always mean disrespect.
Sometimes it simply means they are adults. Living a beautiful life.
Married Children Are Building a New Family
When adult children marry, another change happens.
They are still your son or daughter. That part does not go away. But they are also now a husband or wife. They are building a new family unit.
That means their spouse matters.
Their boundaries matter.
For many parents, this is where the adjustment becomes especially tender. Parents do not usually think of themselves as “extended family” to their married children. They think, “I am still their mother. I am still their father. I raised them. I sacrificed. I was there.” And that is true. But it is also true that your married child now has a new primary relationship and a new household to care for.
That is not rejection.
That is God's design.
A wise parent learns how to bless that new family instead of competing with it.
We can still love them deeply without needing to be central. We can still be available without inserting ourselves. We can still offer wisdom without managing outcomes.
When we honor the new family our adult child is building, while preserving the very relationship we built along the way.
Adult Children Need Room to Become
Our children do not become adults all at once.
They grow into adulthood through decisions, mistakes, responsibilities, conversations, and life experience. And just like we needed room to grow, they need room too.
They may parent differenlty, organize their homes differently, set their schedules, and spend money differnently than you.
You may not understand why they make choices that they do.
That does not mean we have to agree with everything. It does mean we have to be careful with how much weight we put on every difference.
Not every difference is a problem or needs a comment.
Sometimes love looks like trusting God to work in places where we no longer have control.
That may be one of the hardest parts of parenting adult children. When they were little, we could step in quickly, redirect, correct, explain, and protect. But as they grow, our influence changes.
We move from authority to influence.
From correction to counsel.
From control to connection.
They shift from expectation to invitation is subtle, but it changes the nature of your relationship.
You shouldn't be needed every day like you were once needed.
That is not a lesser role. It is a different role.
Build the Relationship You Long to Have Later
For parents who are still raising children, this matters now.
The adult relationship does not begin when your child turns eighteen, gets married, or moves out. It is being shaped right now in the way you talk, listen, correct, apologize, and connect.
If we want our children to come back to us later, they need to experience safety with us now.
That does not mean we stop teaching truth.
It does not mean we avoid correction.
It does not mean we become passive parents.
It means we remember that rules alone do not build lifelong relationships. Connection matters. Trust matters. Humility matters. Listening matters.
When children are young, we are tempted to focus only on behavior. But one day, those children will become adults who get to decide how close they want the relationship to be.
That is why the heart matters.
That is why relationship matters.
That is why we must be careful not to win the moment and lose the connection.
Build the Relationship You Long to Have Later
If you are still raising children, this matters now.
The adult relationship does not begin when your child turns eighteen, gets married, or moves out. It is being shaped right now in the way you talk, listen, correct, apologize, and connect.
If we want our children to come back to us later, they need to experience safety with us now.
That does not mean we stop teaching truth.
It does not mean we avoid correction or become passive parents.
It means we remember that rules alone do not build lifelong relationships. Connection matters. Trust matters. Humility matters. Listening matters.
When children are young, we are tempted to focus only on behavior. But one day, those children will become adults who get to decide how close they want the relationship to be.
That is why the heart and relationship matters.
We must be careful not to win the moment and lose the connection.
Letting Go Requires Faith
As Christian parents, we know our children were never truly ours to control. They were entrusted to us by God. It was our job to steward, teach, pray, guide, and love them. But we must remember, wedo not own them.
That truth becomes very real when they become adults.
When our children are young, faith often looks like asking God to help us raise them well. When they are grown, faith often looks like trusting God to keep working when we are no longer the loudest voice in the room.
Trust me, it is not easy. But it is necessary.
Letting go does not mean we stop caring. It means we stop carrying what only God can carry.
We can keep the door open and have a home that feels peaceful to return to.
I often say when I'm speaking, "Be the kind of parent our adult children want to call, not because they have to, but because they feel safe enough to do so.
Letting Go Does Not Mean Losing Them
Letting go does not mean the relationship is over. It means the relationship is changing.
It is time to stop trying to manage every outcome so we can make room for our adult children to become who God created them to be.
It means we honor their homes, their marriages, their decisions, and their season.
And yes, sometimes that can feel painful.
You may miss the days when everyone was under your roof. You may miss knowing the schedule. You may miss the noise, the ordinary conversations, and the feeling that your family life all fit around the same table.
But parenting was never meant to freeze our children in childhood.
It was meant to prepare them for life.
By God’s grace, when we release our children with wisdom, humility, and love, we do not have to lose them. We may receive something new.
Not the same relationship we had when they were little or the role we had when they were teens.
It becomes a mature relationship.
A relationship built not on dependence, but on love.
The Long Game of Parenting with Sherri Seligson is about building relationships today that will matter for decades to come.
In a culture that celebrates achievement, busyness, and keeping up with everyone else, it is easy to lose sight of what matters most. Parents spend countless hours helping children succeed in school, sports, activities, and hobbies. While those things have value, they are not the foundation of a strong family.
The foundation is relationships.
That is why a summertime slowdown can be one of the most valuable gifts you give your family.
Building the Family You Want Later with Sherri Seligson
"Years from now, your children may not remember every activity they participated in. But they will remember how it felt to belong." ~Connie Albers
Family Culture Matters
Every family is building a family culture whether they realize it or not.
Family culture is created through the habits, values, traditions, and relationships that shape life inside the home. It influences how family members communicate, solve problems, celebrate milestones, and support one another through challenges.
The good news is that family culture is not built through perfection. Instead, it is built through ordinary moments repeated over time.
Family dinners.
Conversations in the car.
Weekend adventures.
Shared responsibilities.
Laughter around the table.
These seemingly small moments help create a family culture that children carry with them into adulthood.
Sibling Friendship Is Worth Investing In
One of the greatest long-term benefits of a healthy family culture is sibling friendship.
When siblings learn to enjoy one another, support one another, and work through conflict, they develop relationships that can last a lifetime. While parents cannot force friendship, they can create opportunities for connection. And over time those connections build a friendship.
Summer often provides the time and space needed for siblings to build stronger relationships. This can happen when they play togegether and solve problems together. Each encounter creates memories that strengthen their bond.
Over time, these experiences help transform siblings from simply sharing a home into sharing a meaningful relationship.
Not every day will be peaceful, and not every disagreement is a problem. Learning to navigate differences is part of how sibling friendship grows.
The Value of a Summertime Slowdown
Many families enter summer feeling exhausted.
After months of schedules, commitments, deadlines, and activities, children and parents alike need time to recover.
A summertime slowdown allows families to reconnect without the constant pressure of performance. This does not mean doing nothing. It means creating margin.
Time for conversations to happen organically.
Opportuniities for creating new family traditions.
Margin for spontaneous adventures.
A place for relationships to deepen.
Sometimes the most important growth happens when life slows down enough for people to simply enjoy being together.
Looking Beyond the School Years
The parenting years move quickly.
One day you are teaching your child to tie their shoes. Before you know it, they are preparing to launch into adulthood.
That is why it helps to keep the end in mind.
Years from now, your children may not remember every lesson, activity, or accomplishment. However, they will remember the family culture you created. They will remember whether home felt safe, connected, and enjoyable.
The long game of parenting is not about doing everything perfectly. It is about building relationships that stand the test of time.
This summer, consider how a simple summertime slowdown, intentional family culture, and opportunities for sibling friendship might help you build the kind of family relationships that last long after the school years are over.
About, References, and Links
Sherri Seligson, M.Ed., is a marine biologist, middle/high school science curriculum author, and apologist. She also produces instructional video courses taking students around the world to see God’s fingerprints in science. An international conference speaker, Sherri also loves to encourage women and mothers – she considered motherhood a promotion from marine biologist!
June hits, and suddenly the calendar goes quiet, and somehow that feels more overwhelming than when it was full.
If you’re a mom staring at a blank summer, wondering how to do it all (the catching up, the connecting, the memories, the chores, the growth), this is for you.
Here are the summer parenting tips I wish someone had handed me: a permission slip and a plan, wrapped into one.
Mama, breathe.
Summer can be a gift.
It can be a chance to slow down, reconnect, and notice what your family actually needs, not what the highlight reels say it should need.
The school year asks everything from families: lessons, schedules, activities, decisions, emotions, and expectations that never seem to stop. By the time June arrives, most moms are already carrying an invisible list of everything they think they should do next.
Before you rush into another plan, pause.
Your children may not need more pressure. They may need rest.
Your home may not need an overhaul. It may need a simple rhythm.
And you may not need to fix everything. You may need permission to focus on what matters most.
So as summer begins, let’s talk about four summer parenting tips that can change everything.
What Every Parent Needs to Hear Before Summer Begins
Your Kids Don’t Need More; They Need to Rest
Children are not machines.
That sounds simple, but we forget it. During the school year, children are often expected to produce, perform, answer, complete, improve, and keep up. They move from one assignment to the next, one activity to the next, one expectation to the next. And I have found this to be true even among homeschool families.
The Bible reminds us: “Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28
God knew we would need this reminder. Summer might just be His way of offering it.
Children need time when they are not being graded, measured, corrected, or rushed. They need time to sleep longer, move more slowly, think freely, and let their minds wander.
Sometimes what looks like laziness is really recovery. And what looks like boredom can be the beginning of creativity. Sometimes what looks like “doing nothing” is a child finally having room to breathe.
We live in a culture that praises constant output. Even childhood can start to feel like a résumé-building project. But childhood was never meant to be one long performance.
Children need time to play, wonder, explore, read, create, laugh, and just be. That kind of time is not wasted. It helps them grow.
So before you fill every open space on the summer calendar, ask yourself: Does my child need more output, or does my child need recovery?
That question alone can change the way you enter summer.
The Summer Schedule Tip That Actually Works: Rhythm Over Pressure
Rest does not mean chaos.
Most families still need some structure. Children do better when they know what to expect. A simple rhythm can help the home feel peaceful and steady.
But there is a big difference between rhythm and pressure.
Pressure says, “We have to make every day count.”
Rhythm says, “Here is how our days will flow.”
Pressure makes everyone tense. Rhythm gives everyone something to hold on to.
You do not need a perfect summer schedule. You do not need every hour planned. A simple summer rhythm might include a few steady anchors:
Morning chores
Reading time
Outdoor time
Quiet time after lunch
Family dinner
A weekly library trip
One simple outing
Time with friends
That is enough.
The goal is not to recreate school in a summer format. The goal is to give your children enough structure to feel secure and enough freedom to grow.
Think in terms of anchors, not a rigid schedule. Maybe your anchor is reading after breakfast or taking a walk in the evening. Perhaps it’s cooking together on Fridays.
Simple is not weak. Simple is often what helps families breathe again.
Summer Is Your Invitation to Reconnect With Your Child
This is the part I don’t want you to miss.
Summer is not just a break from school. It is a chance to notice your child again.
During the school year, parents can easily move into management mode. We manage lessons, schedules, attitudes, chores, activities, meals, appointments, and emotions. And when we are managing so much, we can forget to slow down and study the child in front of us.
Summer gives us space to pay attention. Before you plan next year, study your child. Get to know the child you have, not the one you think they should be.
Ask yourself:
What is my child drawn to right now?
What lights them up?
Where are they growing, and where are they weary?
Where do they need more responsibility — and where do they need more tenderness?
Every child is different. One may need more challenge. Another may need more confidence. One may need deeper conversations. Another may need more time beside you.
And some children simply need to enjoy their parents without every conversation becoming a correction. That can be hard to admit, but it is true.
Sometimes the relationship needs laughter, not lectures. Sometimes it needs sitting on the porch and letting the conversation come slowly.
Rules may control behavior for a season, but relationships shape hearts for a lifetime. Summer gives you time to build those relationships in ordinary ways. Do not underestimate ordinary. The ordinary moments often become the ones your children remember most.
You Don’t Have to Fix Everything This Summer (Permission Granted)
Now let’s talk to the mom who already has the list.
You want to catch up on math. Organize the house. Deep clean every room. Start a new meal plan. Fix the family schedule. Read aloud every day. Plan next year. Reduce screen time. Get everyone outside. Train the children in chores. Strengthen sibling relationships. Work on attitudes. Create fun memories. Exercise. Rest.
And somehow still feel like you’re enough.
Friend, that is too much.
Summer is not your make-up exam for everything that felt hard during the school year. It is okay to choose a few things that matter most. In fact, that is wisdom.
Ask yourself: What does our family need most right now?
Do we need rest?
Do we need a deeper connection?
Do we need better habits?
Do we need more laughter?
Do we need to rebuild trust with one child?
Do we need to simplify?
Most moms already know the answer. Deep down, you can feel what your family needs. The hard part is giving yourself permission to focus.
God doesn’t call you to do everything. He calls you to be faithful in the things He’s placed right in front of you.
So pick one or two priorities for summer. Not ten. Not fifteen. One or two.
Focus on rest and reading. Or family meals and less rushing. Maybe helping your children learn basic life skills. Maybe it is about reconnecting with a teen.
Let that be enough. You are allowed to have a simple, quieter summer.
This summer doesn't have to look impressive online, but it deeply nourishes your family.
That counts.
You Do Not Have To Do Everything
You can slow down, simplify, choose rest over constant output, create rhythm without pressure, reconnect with your child, and focus on what matters most.
The walk matters. The read-aloud matters. The quiet morning matters. The shared meal matters. The simple conversation matters. The moment you choose connection instead of criticism matters.
These are the small things that shape a family.
And sometimes the most important work of summer is not adding more. Sometimes it is making room for what your children needed all along.
“Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28
This summer, may you have eyes to see what your family truly needs — and the courage to say no to everything else.
Ask One Better Question This Summer
Before summer gets away from you, ask this: What does my family need most? Not what is everyone else doing or what looks impressive. Try not to think, "What will make me feel like I am finally caught up?"
Then ask the same question about each child. Who needs more structure, more sleep, more encouragement, or more correction? When you ask better questions, you make better decisions, and you don’t have to make those decisions from panic. Choose to base your decision on wisdom.
What does your family need most this summer? Start there. Just there.
Don’t Let Mom Overload Crush You is a message every weary mom needs to hear when life feels too heavy, the schedule is too full, and the pressure keeps building.
Mom overload is real.
It can happen when you are homeschooling children, managing a busy home, caring for everyone’s needs, working, volunteering, keeping up with meals, trying to be emotionally present, and wondering why you feel so tired all the time.
It can happen when you are raising children, managing a busy home, caring for everyone’s needs, working, volunteering, keeping up with meals, trying to be emotionally present, and wondering why you feel so tired all the time.
Stop Mom Stress
Most moms don’t wake up one morning and say, “I’m burned out.”
It usually happens slowly.
One more responsibility. One more interrupted night of sleep. One more child who needs you. One more mess to clean. One more problem to solve. One more thing you feel guilty for not doing well enough.
Before long, your heart feels tired, your mind feels scattered, and your body starts telling you what your schedule refused to admit: you cannot keep carrying everything without rest.
But here is the hope: you are not alone, and you do not have to stay overwhelmed.
Why Mom Overload Feels So Heavy
Motherhood has always required sacrifice, but many moms today are carrying more than previous generations ever imagined.
You are not just raising children. You are managing calendars, emotions, education, meals, technology, friendships, household responsibilities, aging parents, work demands, church commitments, and the quiet pressure to keep everyone okay.
That is a lot.
And because moms love deeply, they often keep pouring out long after they are empty.
You say yes when you want to say no or keep moving when your body needs rest or you whisper, “I should be able to handle this.” Feeling guilty when you need a break is not a healthy response to an emotional need.
But needing rest does not mean you are weak. It means you are human.
God did not create you to live in a constant state of hurry, pressure, and exhaustion. He created you to depend on Him, walk with Him, and receive strength for the work He has placed in front of you.
Matthew 11:28 reminds us, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”
That invitation is not just for everyone else. It is for you, too.
Signs You Might Be Experiencing Mom Burnout
Burnout often shows up before we have words for it.
You might feel emotionally drained, like you have nothing left to give. You may notice you are more irritable than usual, snapping over little things that normally would not bother you. You may be exhausted but unable to sleep because your mind keeps racing.
Sometimes burnout looks like losing joy in things you used to love. Other times, it looks like brain fog, forgetfulness, headaches, stomach issues, muscle tension, or a constant feeling that you are failing, no matter how much you do.
Those signs are not character flaws. They are warning lights.
They are your body, mind, and soul saying, “Something needs to change.”
And friend, that does not mean you need to overhaul your entire life overnight. It means you need to start paying attention and make small, faithful changes before stress breaks you down.
Start by Giving Yourself Grace
One of the first steps to easing mom overload is admitting you were never meant to do everything perfectly.
You are not a machine, a superhero, and you are not responsible for being everything to everyone.
You are a mom who loves her family, but you also need care, rest, support, and the strength of the Lord.
Some days, the homeschool lesson will not get finished. No one will judge you if the laundry sits in the basket until tomorrow. It's okay if dinner is cereal or leftovers. Some days, all you can do is show up with a tired heart and a willing spirit. And that is enough.
That still counts.
Your children do not need a perfect mom. They need a present, Mom, a steady Mom, a Mom who is learning how to trust God with what she cannot carry alone.
Set Realistic Expectations
A lot of mom stress comes from expectations that are too heavy.
We expect ourselves to teach well, cook healthy meals, maintain the home, nurture every child’s heart, support our husbands, serve others, keep up with work, and still have a peaceful attitude at the end of the day.
That is not realistic.
A healthier question is not, “How can I get everything done?”
The better question is, “What matters most today?”
Some days, what matters most is connection, rest, getting one important task done, apologizing, and starting again.
When you lower unrealistic expectations, you are not lowering your standards. You are learning wisdom.
Create More Margin in Your Day
A packed schedule leaves no room to breathe.
When every moment is filled, even small interruptions feel overwhelming. One spilled drink, one child melting down, one unexpected phone call, and suddenly the whole day feels like it is falling apart.
Margin gives you breathing room.
That might mean leaving fifteen minutes between activities. It might mean building quiet time into your homeschool day. It might mean keeping one evening a week free. It might mean choosing not to add another co-op, commitment, or activity in this season.
Margin is not wasted time. Margin is protection.
It gives your nervous system time to settle. It gives your children time to decompress. It gives your home room to become peaceful again.
Learn to Say No Without Guilt
Saying no is hard for many moms because we do not want to disappoint people.
But every yes costs something.
When you say yes to something that overloads your schedule, you may be saying no to peace, rest, patience, or connection with your family.
It is okay to say:
“That sounds wonderful, but I can’t commit right now.”
“Thank you for thinking of me, but my plate is full this week.”
“We’re going to stay home and have a quiet weekend.”
You do not have to explain every no. You do not have to justify needing space. You do not have to carry guilt for protecting what God has entrusted to you.
Sometimes the most faithful thing you can do is say no so you can say yes to what matters most.
Ask for Help Before You Hit Empty
Moms often wait too long to ask for help.
We tell ourselves everyone else is busy. We assume we can handle it. We minimize how tired we are until we are running on fumes.
But asking for help is not failure. It is wisdom.
Ask your husband to take something off your plate. Ask a friend to pray for you. Ask an older mom for perspective. Ask your children to help with age-appropriate responsibilities. Ask God to show you what you are carrying that He never asked you to pick up.
First Peter 5:7 says, “Cast all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”
That means you do not have to carry your worries alone. You can bring the pressure, the fear, the exhaustion, and the guilt to the Lord. He cares for you in the middle of it.
You Can Stop Stress Before It Breaks You
Mom overload does not have to crush you.
You can pause, breathe, and reassess what is happening in your home and make necessary adjustments for your well-being.
You can release unrealistic expectations, create margin, and start leaning on the One who already is.
Motherhood will have demanding seasons. There will be days when you feel stretched thin and unsure how much more you can carry.
But you are not alone in the hard places.
God sees you. He cares for you. And He will give you wisdom for the next step, strength for today, and grace for the moments when you feel like you are not enough.
So take a deep breath, mama.
You do not have to do it all. You do not have to carry it all. And you do not have to let mom overload crush you.
