Has your child been bullied? Do you find out or did they tell you? How do you know if they are dealing with bullying or if it’s general conflict that they can resolve?
It’s vital that children understand the difference between bullying and general conflict so they can properly navigate each scenario wisely.
Parents often teach their children to resolve conflict, but the problem is bullies aren’t interested in resolution. They are interested domination and intimidation. They seek to hurt or harm others by their actions.
As parents we need to learn and teach our children the characteristics of a bully.
Characteristics of a Bully
Aggressive
Repeated
Power Imbalance
Other Key Points
Two important action steps you must do if you think your child is being bullied.
What we must do to protect our child.
How to create a place where your child feels safe: use words like we and us, work together to help your child discern the next steps. Your child needs to know if they are being bullied it’s not their fault.
*If you know someone being bullied or someone who is bullying others don’t ignore it. Contact the proper authorities before the matter escalates. And if your child has been bullied find a trained mental health professional who can help your child work through what happened.
About Candice Duggar
Candice Duggar is the founder of Bullied, Broken, Redeemed, and a nationally recognized anti-bullying expert, author, speaker, and trainer. Candice and her team specialize in equipping leaders, parents, and youth on all aspects of Gen Z Bullying. These life-changing programs use interactive activities and projects to motivate and empower effective anti-bullying warriors. Candice has been seen on NBC, CBN, FRC on top of training fortune 100 companies. She is also regularly featured as a keynote at events nationally and international conferences.
On top of being an anti-bullying warrior, Candice is passionate about helping families transition from public school to homeschool. Her “Coming Home” Series of talks and workshops are a blessing for those trying to navigate the sometimes difficult transition. She is also the co-founder of the Reimagine Education Conference, specializing in helping families transition to homeschooling. This conference is an annual event and has now grown to an international presence with over 80 speakers and 100 talks.
Have you or your child been on the receiving end of bullying? If so, you know how emotionally traumatic it can be for your child. Bullying is a repeated pattern targeted at someone weaker, younger, or more vulnerable. So, how do you handle bullying?
What is bullying? The act of bullying is an intentional behavior designed to hurt another person by wanting to intimidate or get their way. Anti-Bullying warrior Candace Duggar and I discuss how to identify and deal with bullying.
How to Handle Bullying
Bullying v Conflict Resolution
How to help a child being bullied
At what age to discuss bullying
How to handle bullies
Steps a parent needs to take to help their child
Bullies can’t bully without a victim. Teaching your child to avoid and learn to stand up to bullies is the focus of this conversation.
About Candice Duggar
Candice Duggar is the founder of Bullied, Broken, Redeemed, and a nationally recognized anti-bullying expert, author, speaker, and trainer. Candice and her team specialize in equipping leaders, parents, and youth on all aspects of Gen Z Bullying. These life-changing programs use interactive activities and projects to motivate and empower effective anti-bullying warriors. Candice has been seen on NBC, CBN, FRC on top of training fortune 100 companies. She is also regularly featured as a keynote at events nationally and international conferences.
On top of being an anti-bullying warrior, Candice is passionate about helping families transition from public school to homeschool. Her “Coming Home” Series of talks and workshops are a blessing for those trying to navigate the sometimes difficult transition. She is also the co-founder of the Reimagine Education Conference, specializing in helping families transition to homeschooling. This conference is an annual event and has now grown to an international presence with over 80 speakers and 100 talks.
* If you know someone who is being bullied or is bullying others contact the proper authorities before the matter escalates. And if your child has been bullied find a trained mental health professional who can help your child work through what happened.
Misty Phillip joins me for part II of our conversation on how to listen and trust God’s leading in your life. Today we focus on the steps she’s learned about waiting that will help you learn how God is working in your life as you wait for his lead.
In this episode, Misty shares valuable wisdom on how to wait on the Lord. She says, “Trusting God to lead can be hard. But, His timing is good.”
Trusting God to lead can be hard. But, His timing is good. — Misty Phillip
Listen and Trust God’s Leading
Live your season well
Know you limits
Move when God says go
Enjoy your season
Journal your emotions
Be Obedient
Nothing is wasted. God uses every part of your story.
Wait on His timing, and He will bless
Misty Phillip Bio
Misty Phillip is a podcaster, speaker, author, and entrepreneur who is passionate about helping you spark your soul message. Founder of the Spark Christian Podcast Conference, Founder of The Rocket Podcast Community, and host of the By His Grace podcast show. Misty inspires through her leadership, speaking, and mastermind groups. She currently serves as the Houston Connect Leader for Christian Women In Media. Misty is the author of The Struggle is Real: But So is God Bible Study and Spark Podcast Planner 2020.
Learning to listen and trust God’s leading takes intentionality and practice. These are disciplines Misty Phillip put into practice early in her life. She joins me to discuss how God led her from corporate work to homeschooling to writing and speaking and then to creating a podcast conference for Christian podcasters.
During our conversation, Misty and I chat about her decision-making progress and how she has learned that listening and trusting God’s leading helps her avoid stress and wrong decisions.
Listen and Trust God’s Leading
Waiting during the hidden years
Taking heart for God is with you
Understanding your gifts and talents
Being in His Word
Knowing God doesn’t have second best for you
Misty Phillip Bio
Misty Phillip is a podcaster, speaker, author, and entrepreneur who is passionate about helping you spark your soul message. Founder of the Spark Christian Podcast Conference, Founder of The Rocket Podcast Community, and host of the By His Grace podcast show. Misty inspires through her leadership, speaking, and mastermind groups. She currently serves as the Houston Connect Leader for Christian Women In Media. Misty is the author of The Struggle is Real: But So is God Bible Study and Spark Podcast Planner 2020.
When I saw other children publicly act up or act out, I thought my child would not do THAT. My children knew right from wrong. Have you thought that, too?
While it is true that children do the darndest things, we never expect our children to disobey, be unkind, lie, or steal. Those aren’t acceptable to the Lord or us.
As a young mom, I was certain that my kids would behave properly. I convinced myself that if I parented well, my child would not do that. That was until I realized my faulty thinking. Why? Because they are children, and children aren’t perfect! The truth is, they are fully capable of doing things we never imagined.
The sooner we realize our children could and sometimes do wrong, the better we will be at parenting.
My Child Would Not Do THAT…
Here are a few unacceptable actions children might do:
Steal the candy bar from the grocery store
Lie to you with a straight face
Say mean and hurtful words to you and others
Make poor choices
Embarrass you with their actions
If you think your child is guilty of doing something that is not permissible or is accused of wrongdoing, I encourage you to pray and then consider the following ideas to resolve the matter while preserving your relationship.
Things to Consider
Don’t assume my child would not do that
Don’t overreact
Make the consequence fit the offense
Create appropriate consequence
Remember, children learn from their poor choices
Should you find yourself dealing with a child’s unwelcome behavior, deal with the situation and then move on. Don’t let your thoughts dwell on the matter longer than necessary. Your children will go in and out of phases throughout their childhood. Search for the godly attributes within your child and express those verbally. Remember them as a work in progress.
Tis the holiday season to be jolly! A season full of thanksgiving and joy and family. While many people are welcoming this season with great anticipation, there are an awful lot of people experiencing hurt and heartbreak over the holidays—an empty seat at the table, a painful relationship, a wayward child.
I know the world is preparing for the holiday season. House lights are up, trees are decorated, and menus are planned, but you struggle to muster up the enthusiasm this year? What can you do with your feelings? How can this be a season of joy and not sorrow for you?
In this episode, we will specifically deal with hurt and heartbreak during the Christmas season.
Points to Remember About Hurt and Heartbreak Over the Holidays
God is near the brokenhearted.
Disappointment is real.
Rejection hurts.
Unresolved conflicts are causing anguish.
Don’t look around at what others have and compare your hurt or heartbreak to others.
Consider the other side as you work through your emotions.
Tell yourself the truth.
Don’t allow your mind to dwell on the hurt or heartbreak.
Allow the Lord to change your perspective.
Don’t focus on the empty seat.
Don’t withdraw; seek to find areas where you can connect in meaningful ways.
When we focus on the truths found in God’s Word, we can work through the hurt and heartbreak over the holidays, turning dread or sadness into joy and excitement because hope believes all things!
