Knowing Your Strengths Part 4 – ETB #74

Why does knowing your strengths, talents, and the domain order matter?

If you missed episodes #71, #72, or #73, go back and listen to those first before jumping into this episode.

Knowing Your Strengths Part 4 - ETB #74

Here are three reasons why you should utilize the Talent Theme Domains.

  1. It gives an individual another way to think about their talents. If you know the underlying motivation, you can communicate more effectively. We can better understand why we do what we do. Believing God has given you and others unique talents, gifts, and strengths allows you to use words and phrases intentionally.
  2. It gives an individual more confidence in mitigating their weaknesses. Rather than focusing on their bottom Talent Theme, the individual can look at the Talent Theme in the same domain that is highest in their sequence and determine how to use that talent to achieve the result the results they are looking for. You gain more confidence when you learn how to manage your weaknesses regarding Talents. Now, I want to remind you there are no bad strengths. One strength is no better than another. The purpose is to see what is good and right about you. I’m just going to repeat this. I think I’ve said it in every episode. But it needs to be repeated because we tend to see what’s wrong with us and others, which causes anxiety and strife. The purpose of this series is that I want to help you know what is good and right about you. God formed and fashioned you; he made you exactly as he wanted you to be. Should you work on areas of your life? We do because we need to; we’re not perfect. We are in the process of being polished and refined, and that takes intentionality.
  3. It gives you a way to look for gaps and learn how you speak to others to get people moving in a specific direction. For example, to get your children to do what you’re asking them to do or get them to talk about something important to them. If you learn how to utilize the Talent Theme Domain buckets, you can motivate your children or even yourself to move towards that goal. 

Invite your friends to tune in. You should also go back and listen to the first three parts of the Strengths series on Knowing Your Strengths. I hope and pray that this is a huge blessing to you and helps communicate with your children, spouse, friends, co-workers, and ministry leaders better. It’s just so important to learn to pause for a moment and think about how others will hear what you say. 

If you’re a note-taker, press pause for a second. I want you to write something down: It’s not about what you say. It’s about what someone else hears that matters.  

For example, you can communicate a request thinking others know the intent behind your words, but it comes off as a command to the hearer. On the other hand, not thinking first can cause a simple request to fold the laundry to come across as an abrupt or demanding void of empathy or compassion. We want others to hear our words to land in a tender place of someone’s heart. So we can’t be harsh or reckless with our words.

Focusing on your Talent Themes and where they place in the order of dominance can make a huge difference in your relationships. The Gallup Organization puts talents into four domains: The Relating Theme, Impacting Theme, Striving (Executive) Theme, and Thinking Theme. 

We can use the knowledge of Talents to identify negative labels as clues to a talent. In addition, learning to use negative labels as clues can positively benefit those we love. 

Four Talent Theme Domains

Relating Talents—used to create, develop, and sustain relationships effectively. Prompt how a person reaches out to others and responds to those who reach out to them.

  • Adaptability
  • Developer
  • Connectedness
  • Empathy
  • Harmony
  • Includer
  • Individualization
  • Positivity
  • Relator

Influencing Talents—contained in themes used to motivate others to action. Prompts a person to set a course for individuals and groups to follow and then get them moving along that course. Stimulate others to be more productive, reach for excellence, and fulfill personal potential. 

  • Activator
  • Command
  • Communication
  • Competition
  • Maximizer
  • Self-Assurance
  • Significance
  • Woo

Striving Talents—contained in the themes used to push the self towards results motivates a person to get things done, then seek greater accomplishments. Distinctive motivations that influence individuals to do the same task differently. Striving themes are the fuel that propels people to excel, take risks, and set high expectations.

  • Achiever
  • Arranger
  • Belief
  • Consistency
  • Deliberative
  • Discipline
  • Focus
  • Responsibility
  • Restorative

Thinking Talents—the way people gather, process, and make decisions with information and mental images. People think in the past, present, or future. Thinking themes influence one’s view of the world, the way they treat others, interpret current events, solve problems, and create opportunities.

  • Analytical
  • Context
  • Futuristic
  • Ideations
  • Input
  • Intellection
  • Learner
  • Strategic

Words to Use When Describing Negative Labels.

Use those labels as clues to see the positive side of their characteristics:

  • Controlling say In-Control
  • Bossy use Assertive, Determined
  • Doormat use Flexible
  • Obstinate use Persistent
  • Anti-social use Inner-directed
  • Uncooperative, antagonistic use Independent thinker
  • Smart-aleck use Clever
  • Nosey use Curious
  • Not a team player use Self-motivated, Inner-directed

Think about the positive attributes of negative words. Our words have the power to build up or tear down. By taking the time to think before we speak, we will be heard and understood more clearly. 

God uses people to accomplish his will. He expects us to engage with the world around us in an understanding way. Furthermore, we are to teach and train our children in the way they should go. Leading our children by speaking in a way they hear can have a dramatic impact on your relationship.

God has uniquely wired people to complete their assignments.

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Thank you for joining us and be blessed!

Xoxo, Connie

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**If you have a tween or younger teen, I recommend that they take Strengths Explorer. It is geared for kids ages 10-14.

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Tips for Running a Business and Homeschooling with Ashley Wiggers Part 1 – ETB #51

Are you among millions of parents trying to run a business and homeschooling your children? You’re not alone. Millions of parents are faced with the tension that comes with juggling deadlines, making sure the kids are doing school, planning meals, and spending hours in the kitchen.

Tips for Running a Business and Homeschooling with Ashley Wiggers Part 1 - ETB #51

Whether you’re working a few hours or full-time, the challenge to fit it all in is real. The guilt and frustration from day-to-day can leave you discouraged and worn out.

Running a Business and Homeschooling

Today, Ashley Wiggers is joining me on the podcast. She is a second-generation homeschool graduate whose parents were pioneers in the homeschool movement. Greg and Debbie Strayer were respected leaders, mentors, speakers, authors, and magazine owners/editors. Ashley grew-up watching them juggle the demands of running a business and homeschooling.

We discuss some of the lessons she learned as a homeschool graduate and how she plans to follow their example.

Tips for Your Journey in Business and Homeschooling

  • Being fully present
  • Plan memorable moments
  • Set realistic goals
  • Create a love of learning
  • Trust the Lord
  • Protect what matters most

About Ashley Wiggers

Ashley Wiggers speaks at homeschool seminars, serves as Public Relations Director for GeoMatters, and is the author of the Profiles from History series. She also joins Homeschooling Today magazine as a co-executive editor and writes the column, Lessons My Mother Taught Me.

Ashley grew up in the early days of the homeschooling movement. She was taught by her parents, Greg and Debbie Strayer, who are authors of numerous homeschooling materials and were part of the founding group of Homeschooling Today magazine back in 1992. As a homeschool graduate, Ashley has a deep appreciation for the opportunity to homeschool and the need for encouragement and support of homeschooling families.

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Foster Respect Between You and Your Teen – ETB #49

Fostering a foundation of respect between you and your teen requires time and intentionality. The good news is that your investment now pays off in the long run as you show your child respect.

Foster Respect Between You and Your Teen - ETB #49

Respecting each other is not just a good idea to help your relationship grow stronger, but God requires that we show respect. In I Peter 2:17 (NIV), the Bible says, “Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.”

In this episode, I share ways you can foster respect between you and your child.

Ways to Foster Respect Between You and Your Teen

  • Understand your child’s point of view.
  • Remember, every person is made in God’s image.
  • Let your child feel seen and heard.
  • Look at your teen in the eyes
  • Serve one another
  • Monitor how you speak to each child

Over the years, I’ve seen well-intentioned parents who believed respect wasn’t a two-way street. They demanded to be respected by their child but failed to understand their responsibility to show respect to their child. When you take the time to show your child respect, your child will start to mirror your example.

Bible References to Ponder

  • Genesis 1:27
  • Philippians 2:1-8
  • Romans 12:2
  • I Corinthians 11:1

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How To Teach Children Well – ETB #47

People often ask me how I taught my children. I love it when I get the opportunity to share how we homeschooled our kids. But what I love even more is helping parents teach their children! Let’s talk about how to teach children well!

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Parents have been led to believe that one needs a degree or some special training to be a good teacher. I wrestled with feeling like I didn’t have what it takes to be a teacher for many years. I had neither an education degree nor special training. What I did have was a desire to provide an excellent education for my children. But that didn’t mean there weren’t times I felt inadequate for the job. Honestly, I’ve never met a parent who didn’t question themselves from time to time. The truth is education isn’t a mystery.

In today’s episode, I’ll unpack three key strategies that will help you teach your children.

How To Teach Children

  • Know your child.
  • Encourage them to try.
  • Manage your expectations.

We must keep in mind that children have a natural desire to learn. The key is for us to nurture their curiosity and not drive it out of them.

How to Nurture Curiosity

  • Create a positive attitude about school.
  • Look for signs of readiness.
  • Work toward mastery, not a completed worksheet.

How We Can Help Our Kids

  • Show them we believe in them.
  • Allow them to pursue their interests. (This doesn’t mean they don’t have to do subjects they don’t like.)
  • Let them observe success being modeled.
  • Be available when help is needed.
  • Match readiness with a subject
  • Let them experience what they are learning in real life.
  • Provide plenty of activities for them to explore.

We run into trouble when we forget learning new concepts takes a lot of brainpower. You need to know how to help a child who struggles with staying focused and isn’t ready to move forward.

You don’t have to have a degree in education or special training to teach children well!

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Listen to Resolve Conflict – ETB #17

Do you want to resolve conflict with your teen or others? Learning to listen is the first step to working through all conflicts. And when you practice your listening skills you will help your teens learn to be better communicators too.

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7 Tips to Improve Listening to Your Teen – ETB #16

You don’t listen me. You always correct me. You rush to judgement. Are these the words your teen says when they try to talk to you? Implementing these 7 tips to improve listening to your teen will help your teen want to talk to you!

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