Have you ever found yourself hesitating to ask for something as simple as five minutes to drink your coffee while it’s still hot—or even a shower without someone knocking on the door? If you have, you’re not alone. Moms everywhere seek permission, often from their spouses or even themselves, to care for their most basic needs. Why is that? Why do we feel guilty for wanting a moment to breathe? In this episode, we’re diving into the heart of this growing trend—why moms feel the need to ask for self-care, how societal pressures and “mom guilt” play a role, and what we can do to break free. Spoiler: taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s survival. Let’s unpack this together.
Why do we carry this guilt like an extra piece of luggage on an already overloaded trip called motherhood? Let’s talk about it—because you deserve care too, and spoiler alert: the world will not fall apart if you take a break. (Though it might feel like it sometimes!)
The Universal Struggles of Motherhood
Motherhood is a beautiful, transformative journey, but let’s be honest—it’s also one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. Whether you’re cradling a newborn, chasing a toddler, or navigating the complex emotions of raising a teenager, the mental load of motherhood is relentless.
It’s not just about keeping up with the day-to-day tasks like feeding, cleaning, work, or scheduling activities—it’s about carrying the weight of your family’s needs, emotions, and futures. And the truth is society has set us up to believe we need to be “everything for everyone.”
Endless Mental Load
As moms, we’re not just managing logistics; we’re juggling expectations. We’re the ones remembering doctor’s appointments, planning meals, keeping track of school schedules, and anticipating the needs of everyone in the family before they even ask. And no matter how much we do, there’s always that nagging feeling that it’s not enough.
Society has reinforced this idea that “good moms” are selfless, constantly giving, and always on top of everything. It’s no wonder so many of us struggle with guilt when we even think about taking a moment for ourselves.
Mom Guilt at Every Stage
Motherhood may look different depending on the season you’re in, but the feelings of guilt and pressure remain the same.
Signs that your parenting approach might be broken:
New Moms: If you’re a new mom, you’re probably navigating sleepless nights, feeding schedules, and figuring out how to keep this tiny human alive. The world tells you that your baby should come first in every way—which makes it easy to feel guilty for even wanting a hot shower or five minutes of peace.
Moms of Multiples: The struggle multiplies if you’re raising more than one child. You’re not just managing individual needs; you’re also playing referee, peacemaker, and multitasking expert. And let’s be honest—trying to give equal attention to all your kids while keeping the household running feels impossible. The guilt of “not doing enough” for each child can be overwhelming.
Moms of Older Kids: If your kids are older, the challenges shift but don’t disappear. You’re helping with homework, driving them to activities, and supporting them emotionally as they navigate friendships, school pressures, and big life decisions. And even though they’re more independent, you may find yourself asking, “Am I doing too much or not enough?”
No matter the stage of motherhood, there’s always that pressure to measure up—to be the mom who’s got it all figured out, who never misses a beat, and who always puts her family first.
The Pressure to Be “Everything for Everyone”
This pressure isn’t something we consciously choose; it’s something we absorb from the world around us. From social media to family expectations, there’s this unspoken rule that moms should have it all together.
We see other moms posting their picture-perfect moments online and wonder why we can’t seem to manage the same. We hear well-meaning advice from others and feel like we’re falling short because we’re not doing things “their way.”
But here’s the thing—motherhood is hard for all of us. Behind every polished Instagram photo is a mom who has her own struggles, her own doubts, and her own moments of exhaustion.
You Are Not Alone
The struggles you’re facing are universal, and so are the feelings of guilt. Whether you’re up at 2 a.m. with a crying baby or worrying about your teenager’s choices, you’re doing the best you can in a role that demands so much.
You don’t have to be everything for everyone. The most important thing is that you’re there, showing up for your family in your own way. And while it’s easy to focus on all the things you haven’t done, I want to remind you of this: you’re already doing so much.
Motherhood is challenging at every stage, but you don’t have to carry the weight alone. It’s okay to take a step back, to breathe, and to give yourself the grace you so freely give to others. ❤️
The Need for Permission—Why It Happens
If you’ve ever felt guilty for taking time for yourself, you’re not alone—I’ve been there too. It’s not your fault. Our world has long told moms that we’re supposed to be everything to everyone, all the time. These societal expectations paint mothers as having to be“selfless” caregivers, implying that any act of self-care takes something away from our families. That idea? It’s exhausting—and it’s wrong. Yes, we are all those things, but God tells us to work for six days and then rest.
How Societal Norms Shape Us
From the moment we become moms, there’s an unspoken pressure to sacrifice our own needs for the sake of our families. Think about the phrases we often hear:
“A good mom puts her children first.”“Mothers are the glue that holds everything together.”
While there’s truth in the importance of a mother’s role, these messages leave little room for our humanity. They suggest that caring for yourself somehow means you’re failing as a mom.
How This Affects New Moms
For new moms, these societal expectations are magnified. You’re adjusting to a completely new life—trying to figure out how to keep this tiny human alive while navigating your own exhaustion and emotions.
And yet, the fear of being judged can feel overwhelming:
“What if people think I’m lazy for asking my partner to take over so I can nap?”
“Am I a bad mom if I need a break from my baby for just five minutes?”
The fear of being labeled as selfish keeps many new moms from even voicing their needs, let alone meeting them. This is where guilt starts to creep in, making you feel like you’re doing something wrong simply by wanting time for yourself.
How This Affects Seasoned Moms
The struggle doesn’t stop as your kids grow. For seasoned moms, it often looks like this: you’ve spent years being the go-to person for everything—meals, homework help, emotional support—and now it feels impossible to step back.
“If I don’t do it, who will?”
“My family is used to me taking care of everything. How do I let that go?”
Even when your kids are older and capable of doing more on their own, it can be hard to shift out of the mindset that your value as a mom is tied to how much you do for everyone else.
The Role of a Spouse, Family Member and Internailzed Guilt
Sometimes, it’s not just society—it’s the people closest to us. Partners or family members might unintentionally reinforce these expectations by assuming we’ll handle it all.
A partner might say, “You’re so much better at calming the baby,” which leaves you feeling like taking a break isn’t an option.
Family members might comment, “Your kids are lucky to have such a hands-on mom,” which sounds like praise but adds pressure to keep doing everything.
And then there’s the voice in your own head—the one that says:
“I shouldn’t need help.”
“Other moms seem to manage just fine. Why can’t I?”
This internalized guilt can be the hardest to overcome because it convinces you that asking for self-care is a weakness rather than a strength. Your spouse or other family members can’t read your mind. They don’t know how you’re feeling unless you tell them.
Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and ask for help! They love you and want you to be your best.
You’re Not Alone
Here’s the truth: needing time for yourself doesn’t mean you’re failing as a mom. It means you’re human. The idea that mothers have to be selfless 24/7 is a myth, and it’s okay to reject it.
Whether you’re a new mom afraid of judgment or a seasoned mom struggling to let go, know this—you’re not alone. Every mom, at every stage, has wrestled with these feelings. And it’s not your fault.
What would happen if we started giving ourselves the same grace and care we show our children? What if we stopped asking for permission to rest and simply claimed it as our right?
You don’t have to do it all, and you don’t have to do it alone. Let’s break free from the guilt together—one step at a time. ❤️
The Cost of Ignoring Self-Care
Motherhood is a beautiful, rewarding journey but can also be exhausting. Whether you’re a new mom navigating sleepless nights or a seasoned mom juggling the demands of older children, the temptation to put everyone else first is strong. But ignoring self-care doesn’t just take a toll on you—it can impact your family, too. Let’s explore why prioritizing yourself is essential for your health, happiness, and the well-being of your loved ones.
The Mental and Physical Toll of Neglecting Self-Care
New motherhood often feels like a whirlwind of joy, exhaustion, and endless to-dos. For many new moms, the pressure to meet every need of their baby—and everyone else—leaves little room to care for themselves. But mom can’t pour from an empty pitcher. We must not neglect to get some time to refresh our souls. So, what happens if we overlook self-care?
Increased Risk of Postpartum Depression and Anxiety: Without moments to recharge, new moms are more likely to experience mental health struggles such as postpartum depression and anxiety. Studies show that the lack of rest, isolation, and self-neglect can exacerbate these feelings.
Physical Depletion: Exhaustion from sleepless nights, skipping meals, or ignoring basic hygiene can weaken your immune system and overall health.
Sometimes, the hardest part is acknowledging that something isn’t working and being willing to change. A wise mom takes time to consider why she struggles to ask for help.
Seasoned Moms: Chronic Stress and the Erosion of Identity
Motherhood evolves, but the demands don’t disappear. Seasoned moms, who may have older kids or teens, face a different kind of stress—one rooted in years of self-neglect and growing responsibilities.
Burnout and Fatigue: Chronic stress builds over time, leading to burnout that can manifest as irritability, exhaustion, or even physical symptoms like headaches and body pain.
Loss of Personal Identity: Many seasoned moms feel they’ve lost touch with who they are beyond their role as a parent, leaving them unfulfilled and disconnected from their passions.
How Stress Ripples Through Family Dynamics
When moms neglect self-care, it doesn’t just affect them—it impacts the entire family.
Stress is contagious!
Wrapping It Up: You Deserve Some Self-Care
Motherhood is one of the most profound and selfless journeys you’ll ever take, but it doesn’t mean you have to pour from an empty cup. Let’s be honest—being a mom is hard work. It’s full of beautiful, messy, and deeply meaningful moments, but it’s also exhausting. And if you’re constantly putting yourself last, it’s easy to lose sight of your well-being.
Here’s the truth: self-care isn’t selfish. It’s an act of love for yourself and your family. When you take time to care for your health, mind, and spirit, you’re better equipped to show up for the people you love. You’re teaching your kids that caring for yourself is a strength, not a weakness.
So, let me ask you—what small step can you take today to prioritize yourself? Maybe it’s five quiet minutes with a cup of tea, a short walk, or simply asking for help with something that’s been weighing you down. Whatever it is, know this: you’re worth it, and your family will benefit too.
Remember: you’re doing a great job. You’re not alone, and you’re enough. Take care of yourself—you deserve it. ❤️
Do you ever feel like life is just too much? The piles of stuff on your counters, the to-do lists that seem to grow by the minute, or the nagging thoughts that keep you up at night—it all adds up. But here’s the good news: you don’t have to live overwhelmed. By learning to simplify and declutter your life, you can create space for what truly matters and start to thrive.
Let’s learn how to begin decluttering your mind, heart, and home to embrace a simpler, more joyful life.
Simplify Your Mind: Finding Clarity in Chaos
Our minds can feel like overstuffed closets, crammed with worries, ideas, and endless mental to-dos. If you’ve ever felt paralyzed or overwhelmed, you’re not alone. Simplifying your mind doesn’t mean emptying it—it means organizing your thoughts and focusing on what truly matters.
Identify Mental Clarity
Kids are natural learners, but learning often comes with challenges. Whether they’re struggling with a subject in school, navigating friendships, or learning how to manage their emotions, they’re bound to stumble along the way. Fresh starts teach them that mistakes aren’t failures—they’re opportunities to grow.
For parents, embracing the power of fresh starts allows us to approach parenting with grace. It’s easy to feel stuck in patterns of frustration or guilt, but every day is a chance to reset, reconnect, and choose a new approach.
Identify Mental Clarity
Define mental clutter as the worries, to-dos, and distractions that cloud our thinking. Give examples, like constantly replaying conversations or an endless mental to-do list.
Practical Ways to Simplify
Journaling: Encourage listeners to brain-dump their thoughts onto paper to release mental stress.
Meditation or Prayer: Suggest starting with just 5 minutes of quiet reflection each day.
Prioritize Tasks: Share tips on using tools like lists or apps to organize thoughts and reduce overwhelm.
The Power of Saying ‘No’
Saying no to the constant demands and requests frees up space to reflect on being still and listening to the Lord.
Even five minutes of quiet reflection—whether through prayer, meditation or simply sitting still—can help clear the mental clutter and give you the clarity you need to move forward.
Simplify Your Heart: Letting Go of Emotional Baggage
Life isn’t just about physical clutter. Sometimes, the things we carry in our hearts—unresolved feelings, self-doubt, or even toxic relationships—are what truly weigh us down. Simplifying emotionally is just as important as cleaning out a closet.
Realize What is Holding You Back
Think about what you’re holding onto that no longer serves you. Is it a grudge, a fear, or a regret? Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting; it means choosing to move forward.h. Hearing your stories helps them see that everyone struggles, and that’s okay.
Focus on Gratitude
One of the simplest ways to declutter your heart is to fill it with gratitude. Start each day by listing three things you’re thankful for. Gratitude shifts your focus from what’s wrong to what’s right in your life.
Nurture Positive Relationships
Simplify your social circle by focusing on the people who uplift, encourage, and support you. It’s okay to create boundaries with relationships that drain you emotionally.
Simplify Your Home: Creating a Space for Peace
Your physical environment has a powerful impact on your mood and energy. A cluttered home can leave you feeling stressed and distracted, while a simplified space can inspire calm and focus.
Start Small
Decluttering your home doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Pick one small area—a drawer, a shelf, or even your purse—and start there. Celebrate the progress you make, no matter how small.
Use the “Keep, Donate, Toss” Method
Go through your belongings and sort them into three piles:
Toss: Anything broken, outdated, or unnecessary.
Keep: Items you use and love.
Donate: Things that are in good condition but no longer serve you.
Simplify To Thrive: Benefits of Letting Go
When you simplify your life, something amazing happens: you create space for what truly matters. Here are just a few ways decluttering helps you thrive:
Mental Clarity: A clear mind gives you the focus to tackle challenges confidently.
Emotional Freedom: Letting go of emotional clutter creates space for joy and connection.
Physical Calm: An organized home fosters peace and reduces stress.
Simplifying isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. Every step you take to declutter your mind, heart, and home brings you closer to the life you want to live.
Wrapping Up: Simplify To Thrive Today
You don’t need to overhaul your entire life overnight. Start small, focus on one area, and take one step at a time. Whether it’s clearing a corner of your home, releasing an old grudge, or carving out a moment of quiet, each step you take toward simplicity will help you thrive.
What’s one area of your life you’re ready to simplify today? Share in the comments below—I’d love to cheer you on!
Remember, simplifying isn’t about having less—it’s about making room for more: more peace, more joy, and more of what truly matters. Let’s simplify and thrive together.
There’s something magical about the idea of starting over. Whether it’s a new day, a new season, or just a chance to try again, fresh starts remind us that we’re not defined by our past. This is especially true for our children, who are constantly learning, growing, and navigating the ups and downs of life. The power of fresh starts isn’t just for them—it’s a gift we can give ourselves as parents, too.
I remember walking into the kitchen to find my daughter staring at a crumpled piece of paper with frustrated tears in their eyes. “It’s ruined,” they muttered, holding up their half-finished drawing. I sat beside her, picked up a fresh sheet of paper, and said, “It’s not ruined—it’s practice. Let’s start again.” Her expression shifted from defeat to curiosity, and before I knew it, they were drawing again, this time with a little more confidence and a whole lot of determination.
That moment reminded me of the power of fresh starts—a gift we can embrace ourselves and teach our children. Whether it’s a second attempt at a project or a new beginning after a tough day, fresh starts are where growth happens.
Why Fresh Starts Matter for Kids (and Parents!)
Kids are natural learners, but learning often comes with challenges. Whether they’re struggling with a subject in school, navigating friendships, or learning how to manage their emotions, they’re bound to stumble along the way. Fresh starts teach them that mistakes aren’t failures—they’re opportunities to grow.
For parents, embracing the power of fresh starts allows us to approach parenting with grace. It’s easy to feel stuck in patterns of frustration or guilt, but every day is a chance to reset, reconnect, and choose a new approach.
How to Help Your Child Embrace The Power of Fresh Starts
Normalize Mistakes
Kids need to know that making mistakes is part of life. Kids learn from listening to our stories. Share your experiences— when you had to start over and how it led to growth. Hearing your stories helps them see that everyone struggles, and that’s okay.
Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection
Instead of focusing on what went wrong, highlight what they’re doing right. Did they try again after a tough moment? Did they approach a challenge with a better attitude? Recognizing effort helps them see the value of persistence.
Create Simple Opportunities for Fresh Starts
When you laugh with your children, you’re creating shared moments that bring you closer. Those funny, silly moments remind your kids that you’re on their side, even when things get tough.
Encourage your child to reset after a rough day. Something as simple as saying, “Tomorrow is a new day, and we can try again,” can be powerful.
Teach them to take breaks when they’re frustrated and come back with a fresh perspective.
Start new habits together, like making morning routines smoother or setting up a homework plan.
Practical Life Skills That Support Fresh Starts
Fresh starts aren’t just about mindset—they’re about building skills that help children approach challenges with confidence.
Teach the Importance of Routines
A strong routine provides structure and helps children feel in control. Even small routines, like making their bed or organizing their backpack, can create a sense of accomplishment and readiness to tackle the day.
Set Age-Appropriate Goals
Show your children how to set goals they can realistically achieve. For younger kids, it could be learning to tie their shoes. For older kids, it might be improving a grade in one subject or saving for something special. Break goals into small, achievable steps to build momentum.
Model Problem Solving
Life is full of challenges, and children learn problem-solving best by watching you. When something doesn’t go as planned, talk through how you’ll handle it. This shows them that starting over is normal—and even adults do it!
Fresh Starts Bring Joy to Parenting
Let’s be honest: parenting isn’t always smooth sailing. We all have those days where patience runs thin, and we feel like we’re falling short. But the beauty of fresh starts is that we get to try again, just like our kids do.
When I think about the power of fresh starts, I remember a moment with one of my children. It had been a rough day full of meltdowns (for both of us), and I felt defeated. But at bedtime, I hugged them and said, “Tomorrow is a new day. Let’s try again, okay?” Their little face lit up, and in that moment, I realized how much children crave the grace of a fresh start.
Wrapping It Up: Embrace The Power of Fresh Starts Today
Parenting is a journey, and each day gives us a new opportunity to guide, encourage, and grow alongside our children. By teaching them the power of fresh starts, we’re giving them a lifelong tool to face challenges with courage and resilience.
So, take a deep breath. Whether today was a win or a struggle, tomorrow is another chance to start fresh. Let’s embrace it together.
Embracing Imperfect Holidays will help you save your sanity and find joy when Christmas doesn’t go as planned.
Let’s be honest: Christmas rarely goes exactly as we imagine. We picture cozy fireside moments, perfectly behaved children in matching pajamas, and a spread worthy of a magazine cover. But what actually happens? The cookies burn, the kids argue over who gets to put the star on the tree, and you end up eating pizza because the turkey didn’t defrost.
Sound familiar?
If this is your Christmas, you’re not alone. I think most of us experience an “imperfect” holiday in one way or another. And while it’s easy to get caught up in the chaos or feel like we’ve somehow failed, I’ve learned that those messy, unexpected moments can hold the most meaning—if we let them.
Let’s look at how we can turn the hardest of situations into merry and joy while Embracing Imperfect Holidays.
The Reality of Embracing Imperfect Holidays
There have been Christmases when everything went wrong. Like the year I forgot to buy batteries for the kids’ toys (pro tip: always check the box!), or the time we got snowed in and had to cancel plans with family. Then there were heavier seasons, like the first Christmas after losing a loved one or when finances were tight, and gifts had to come second to paying the bills.
Those imperfect holidays were hard. But looking back, they also taught me something beautiful: Christmas doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. Some of my favorite memories come from those less-than-perfect years—when we laughed through the mishaps, leaned on each other, and focused on what matters.
Letting Go of the Pressure to Be Perfect
We live in a world that tells us everything has to look Instagram-worthy—the decorations, the dinner, even our family relationships. But chasing perfection will only leave you stressed and disappointed.
Here’s the truth: Nobody’s holiday is perfect. Behind every “picture-perfect” social media post is a toddler meltdown, a burned casserole, or a family disagreement. And you know what? That’s okay. Christmas isn’t about perfection. It’s about connection, love. and most importantly, about remembering the gift of grace that came wrapped in swaddling clothes.
Find Joy in Imperfect Holidays
When things don’t go as planned, it’s easy to feel discouraged. But those moments are often where the magic happens. For example, when your burnt cookies turn into a family joke or when canceled plans lead to a quiet evening of board games and hot cocoa,
Here are a few ways to embrace the imperfections and find joy this Christmas:
Reset Expectations: Let go of the pressure to have everything just right. Focus on what truly matters: being with the people you love, sharing a meal, or simply enjoying the quiet moments. Your kids won’t remember if the wrapping paper matched; they’ll remember how you made them feel.
Lean Into the Unexpected: When plans fall apart, look for opportunities to make new memories—snowed in? Build a blanket fort and watch Christmas movies. Burned the dinner? Order takeout and have a picnic under the tree. Embracing the chaos often leads to the best stories.
Honor the Hard Moments: If this season feels heavy—whether it’s grief, loneliness, or financial strain—give yourself permission to feel those emotions. It’s okay to acknowledge the hard while still finding joy in the small, meaningful moments. Light a candle for a loved one, start a new tradition, or focus on gratitude for what you have.
Remember the True Meaning of Christmas: When everything feels overwhelming, return to the season’s heart. Christmas isn’t about perfect meals, gifts, or decorations. It’s about love. It’s about grace. It’s about the Light that came into a broken, messy world to bring hope.
Connect With Others and Seek Support
If you’re feeling lonely or overwhelmed, reaching out to loved ones—even briefly—can provide comfort.
Here’s how we can guide our children toward a healthy expression of gratitude:
Call or text a friend, family member, or support group.
Consider joining a community event or volunteering, as helping others fosters connection and joy.
Embrace Imperfect Holidays with Prayer
Staying present in the moment helps reduce anxiety and sadness during stressful times.
Try deep breathing, a mindfulness app, or journaling to stay present and calm.
Focus on sensory details: the smell of a meal, the sound of a child’s laughter, or the warmth of a blanket.
Wrapping It Up: A Christmas That’s Real, Not Perfect
This year, if your Christmas feels far from what you imagined, take heart. The beauty of the season isn’t in getting everything right; it’s in showing up, loving well, and finding joy in the imperfections. Embracing imperfect holidays isn’t easy, but it is possible.
So here’s to the burnt cookies, the last-minute gift wrap, and the moments that don’t go as planned. Here’s to the laughter, the love, and the grace that fills the gaps. And here’s to remembering that the very first Christmas wasn’t picture-perfect either—but it changed the world forever.
Praying for you to enjoy peace, joy, and all the beautifully messy moments this Christmastime.
Enjoying the Holidays Without Stress is possible when we focus on meaningful traditions, manage finances, and enjoy the joys and challenges of the Christmas season.
Moms, I see you. The holidays are here, and with them comes all the excitement—and all the pressure. You’re juggling wish lists, meal plans, decorations, and family gatherings. It can feel like the weight of making the season magical rests entirely on your shoulders.
But what if, this year, you could let go of the stress? What if the holidays didn’t have to break the bank or your sanity?
Today, let’s discuss how to make that happen.
Here’s a simple, mom-tested plan for enjoying the holidays without stress or financial regret.
Shift Your Focus to What Truly Matters
The holidays aren’t about Pinterest-perfect decorations or a mountain of gifts under the tree. They’re about connection—being together, making memories, and showing love.
Take a deep breath and ask yourself: What do I want my kids to remember about this season?
The smell of cookies baking together in the kitchen.
Snuggling on the couch for a Christmas movie.
Laughing at the table during a family game night.
These are the moments that matter. Give yourself permission to let go of the rest.
Set a Budget and Stick to It
I get it—there’s always that temptation to buy “just one more thing” for your kids or say yes to one more holiday outing. But overspending now often leads to stress later.
Here’s how to take control:
Write down every holiday expense you can think of—gifts, food, travel, decorations.
Decide how much you can afford for each.
Commit to sticking to your budget.
Enjoying the Holidays Without Stress using these Money-Saving Ideas
Swap fancy gifts for heartfelt ones, like homemade photo albums or handwritten notes.
Plan simple, affordable meals your family loves.
Get creative with DIY decorations (kids love making paper snowflakes or garlands!).
Remember, your family doesn’t need “more stuff” to feel loved—they need you.
Manage Your Time and Reduce Your Stress
Moms, we’re so good at trying to do it all. But let’s be honest: no one remembers if the Christmas tree is perfectly symmetrical or if every gift is flawlessly wrapped.
Instead of chasing perfection, focus on creating joy.
These steps can help shift your perspective, restore a sense of control, and maintain emotional balance amidst chaos.
Plan a few meaningful traditions, like baking cookies, looking at holiday lights, or volunteering as a family.
Schedule time to rest—yes, rest!
Say “no” to activities that feel more like obligations than joy-bringers.
When we slow down, we make space for the little moments that matter most.
Simplify Gift-Giving
Gifts are wonderful, but they don’t need to overwhelm your budget—or your living room. Instead of buying for everyone, focus on thoughtful, meaningful giving.
Ideas to Keep It Simple
Encourage a family gift exchange or “Secret Santa” to limit the number of gifts.
Choose gifts with heart, like a framed family photo or a “coupon book” of experiences (a family movie night, breakfast in bed, etc.).
Teach your kids the joy of giving by donating toys or volunteering together.
Kids don’t need piles of presents to have a magical holiday—they need the security of love, laughter, and presence.
Enjoying the Holidays Without Stress Summary
This Christmas season, let’s stop striving for perfection and focus on what really matters: the Lord, connection, and gratitude.
Enjoying the holidays without stress is possible when you remember you don’t need to do more or spend more to make this season memorable for your family. You just need to be there. Be present. Be yourself.
God has equipped us to rise above the chaos and enjoy this holiday season without stress or overspending.
This is an important episode. In it, I share 3 Steps to Overcome Overwhelm that will bring you comfort, healing, and peace as you face all that’s happening in the world.
In today’s episode, I tackle a feeling we all know too well: overwhelm. Life can throw so much at us, whether it’s balancing work and family, managing our homes, or staying on top of commitments, and sometimes it just feels like too much. But here’s the good news—overcoming that overwhelming feeling is possible.
Today, I will walk you through three simple, practical steps to comfort your heart, find peace, and focus on what truly matters. Let’s explore these practical steps to help you move from feeling swamped to feeling steady and equipped for whatever life brings.
Step 1: Focus on What You Can Control
In times of global or personal chaos, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by events beyond your control. A key to overcoming this is to focus on the small, manageable actions you can control. This could be establishing a daily routine, managing your time effectively, or even doing something positive for yourself or others. Shifting your attention from what’s outside your control to what you can influence gives you a sense of purpose and direction.
Example: Begin your day with a simple task like making your bed or planning a small, achievable goal. This creates a sense of accomplishment and structure, even when the world feels chaotic.
Step 2: Practice Grounding Techniques to Stay Present
Often, the feeling of overwhelm comes from worrying about an uncertain future. Grounding techniques can help bring you back to the present moment. Mindful breathing, meditation, or even engaging in physical activities like walking or stretching can reconnect you to your body and mind, allowing you to let go of spiraling thoughts about the future.
Example: When feeling overwhelmed, try the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique. Name five things you can see, four you can touch, three you can hear, two you can smell, and one you can taste. This exercise calms your mind by engaging your senses.
Step 3: Limit Exposure to Srreessful Information
In today’s hyperconnected world, constant exposure to stressful news or social media can fuel anxiety. Set boundaries on how much time you spend consuming information that heightens your stress levels. Instead, seek out uplifting content or focus on activities that nourish your mental and emotional health.
Example: Set specific times during the day when you check the news or social media, and limit your exposure outside of those times. Instead, use that freed-up time to read, practice a hobby, or connect with loved ones.
These steps can help shift your perspective, restore a sense of control, and maintain emotional balance amidst chaos.
Scripture to Meditate On
1. Focus on What You Can Control
Proverbs 16:3 “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.”
Matthew 6:34 “Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
2. Practice Grounding Techniques to Stay Present
Isaiah 26:3 “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”
Psalm 46:10 “Be still, and know that I am God.”
Matthew 11:28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”
3. Limit Exposure to Stressful Information
Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
Psalm 55:22 “Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.”
Wrapping It Up: Overcoming Overwhelm is Possible
As we wrap up, remember that overcoming overwhelm is a journey—one you don’t have to navigate alone. Each small step you take to simplify, prioritize, and refocus brings you closer to a life of clarity and calm.
Embrace the changes slowly and celebrate each victory, knowing peace and purpose are possible.
God has equipped us with the tools to rise above the chaos and live each day confidently and intentionally. Take heart, stay hopeful, and know that you have the strength to overcome anything that comes your way.
