Managing the Mental Load of Motherhood: How to Lighten What You’re Carrying. Before we discuss solutions, we need to identify what we’re dealing with. The mental load encompasses all the behind-the-scenes thinking that keeps your family running smoothly. It’s the grocery lists, birthday gifts, dentist appointments, shoe sizes, emotional needs, and that mental note that your child hates blue cheese.
It’s like tabs in a browser that never close.
You’re not just feeding your kids, you’re keeping track of what’s in the pantry, who has soccer at 5, and if anyone mentioned a class party tomorrow.
And here’s the kicker: this load is mostly invisible. Others benefit from it, but rarely notice it. That’s what makes it so exhausting.
The mental load isn’t only about task execution; it’s about task management. You’re the one thinking 10 steps ahead. And that level of constant preoccupation? It’s mentally and emotionally draining.
Why Does the Mental Load Weighs Mom Down
You didn’t sign up to be the household CEO, therapist, chauffeur, scheduler, and chef, but somewhere along the way, the roles just… stuck. And that isn’t a bad thing unless it gets out of balance.
And when we do speak up about it, the response we often get? “Why didn’t you just ask for help?”
But the mental load includes remembering what help to ask for. It’s not just the task; it’s the planning behind the task.
The Invisible Weight of Constant Planning
The burden isn’t just about logistics; it’s about responsibility. And when we carry the full load, it leads to some serious side effects:
Decision fatigue (You can’t even choose dinner; you’re so tapped out.)
Irritability or resentment (You love your family, but you feel invisible.)
Loss of identity (You’re “Mom” 24/7, but where did you go?)
It’s no wonder so many of us are running on empty.
But what if you didn’t have to carry it all?
How to Examine Your Mental Load
The first step toward change is awareness.
Grab a pen or open your Notes app, and list every invisible task you carry out in a week. Think broadly. From checking the weather to packing the diaper bag. From scheduling checkups to managing moods.
I promise this isn’t to overwhelm you. It’s to validate what you’re carrying.
Here’s what many moms discover during this exercise: You are doing more than you realized. And no, you’re not overreacting. You’re overloaded.
This kind of mental audit is like turning the lights on in a cluttered room. Once you can see what’s there, you can start sorting.
Now that you’ve seen it, what will you do about it?
Learn to Share the Mental Load
Let’s be honest: delegating is hard. It requires vulnerability, communication, and sometimes letting go of control. Don’t be surprised if you struggle with letting go of certain things, especially if you want to maintain control over them.
Learning to ask for help and receive it can be a game-changer in managing the mental load you are carrying.
Sharing the mental load is essential if we want to thrive as women and moms.
Talk to Your Spouse or Partner
This isn’t a blame session—it’s a clarity session.
Try saying: “I’m not asking for help with my responsibilities. I’m asking us to rethink how we share them.”
You may even want to do the mental load audit together. Sometimes, our partners don’t realize how much we’re tracking. Not because they don’t care, but because they’ve never had to carry it. Tom was busy working on his task list and didn’t realize I needed extra help.
Asking for help takes the pressure off us to carry a load that is too heavy.
Involve Your Children
Children can—and should—contribute. Not because you’re overwhelmed, but because it teaches responsibility and life skills. Whether it’s loading the dishwasher or managing their school bags, kids rise to the challenge when given the chance.
Plus, shared responsibility grows family unity. When everyone carries a little, no one crumbles under the weight
Let Go of What Isn’t Yours
This is the step that catches most moms off guard.
We assume that if something needs to be done, it must be our job to do it. But that’s not true.
Not every classroom party needs homemade cupcakes. You don’t have to respond to every email with a same-day reply. Not every child’s disappointment means you failed.
Sometimes, we carry things out of guilt, expectation, or fear of what others might think.
But here’s the truth: You are not a better mom because you do more. You’re a better mom when you do the right things with peace.
So, what can you take off your plate today?
Create Simple Systems That Serve You
Systems might sound cold and businesslike, but when done well, they free your mind.
Think of systems as tools to reduce stress and save decision-making energy.
Practical Ideas for Easing the Mental Load:
Shared family calendar (Google Calendar or a big wall one)
Daily routines (morning/evening flow for the kids)
Meal templates (Meatless Monday, Taco Tuesday)
Auto-renew prescriptions, groceries, or bills
Use checklists for school bags, bedtime, or travel
Remember: systems don’t have to be rigid. They’re here to serve you, not the other way around.
The goal isn’t perfection. It’s margin. Because when your mind isn’t cluttered, your heart has room to breathe.
Replace the Lies with Truth
The mental load is heavy not just because of the work but because of the weight of our thoughts.
We believe lies like:
“I should be able to do this.”
“If I were a better mom, I wouldn’t be so overwhelmed.”
“Asking for help means I’m weak.”
Let me speak truth over you, Mom.
You are not weak.
You are not failing.
You are doing the work of many, often without a break, often without a thank-you.
But here’s what God says:
“Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28
You were never meant to carry all of this alone. His grace is sufficient, even for the undone laundry and forgotten library books.
The Heart of the Matter: You Matter, Too
You’re more than your lists. More than your output. More than your mental tabs.
You are a daughter of God, a woman of worth, and a mom who is doing her best even on the days you feel like you’re falling short.
Managing the mental load of motherhood isn’t about achieving balance or becoming superhuman. It’s about recognizing your limits, leaning on others, and living in grace.
The truth is that motherhood will always involve a certain level of responsibility. But it shouldn’t break you. And it doesn’t have to define you.
One Thing to Release Today
Before you go back to your day, take one simple action: Choose one thing on your list… and let it go.
Perhaps it’s a task that should be delegated. A worry to release. A standard to lower.
And if you’re ready for deeper encouragement, I invite you to listen to my podcast episode on this very topic:
Final Encouragement
From one mom to another — I see you. I’ve walked those weary days, too. You’re not alone, and there’s hope on the other side of overwhelm.
Motherhood is a high calling. But it’s not a solo mission.
Let’s stop pretending we can do it all. And start learning how to carry what truly matters together.
Feeling Weary? You’re Not Alone. As a mom, recognizing Mom Burnout and Navigating it Through Faith is our lifeline to living a joyful life.
If you’ve ever woken up feeling like you have nothing left to give, even though you love your family deeply, you’re not alone. Many moms, especially those striving to raise their families in faith, experience seasons of burnout. It’s more than just feeling tired; it’s a deep emotional, physical, and spiritual exhaustion. But there is hope! Burnout isn’t a failure. It’s an invitation to return to the One who refreshes our souls.
Today, I’ll share the five signs of burnout, why Christian moms are especially vulnerable, and how to navigate each challenge through the truth of God’s Word.
“The world says hustle harder. Jesus says, ‘Come to Me and I will give you rest.’” Matthew 11:28
Recognizing Mom Burnout and How Faith Helps You Heal
Burnout is more than just being tired after a long day. It’s a deeper, more persistent feeling of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion. It’s when your heart feels heavy, your mind feels foggy, and even simple tasks feel overwhelming. We can fall into the trap of giving and giving without taking time to be refilled by God. Before we know it, we’re operating on an empty tank, feeling disconnected from the very One who gives us the strength to do all things.
Burnout isn’t a sign that you’re a bad mom or a bad Christian. It’s simply a warning light — a signal that something needs attention. So what should we watch for? What signs tell us we might be moving toward burnout? Let’s talk about the key indicators you shouldn’t ignore — and how recognizing them early can help you find your way back to peace and joy.
The Signs of Mom Burnout
Sometimes burnout doesn’t announce itself with flashing lights. It often slips in quietly, little by little. Recognizing the signs early can help you course-correct before complete exhaustion sets in. Shifting from a mindset of “What’s in it for me?” to “How can I serve my spouse?” radically transforms the dynamics of your relationship.
Here are the most common signs of mom burnout:
Emotional Exhaustion
You feel emotionally drained most days. Even minor frustrations can feel overwhelming, and you may find yourself either crying easily or feeling emotionally numb, like you have nothing left to give.
Irritability and Impatience
You notice you’re snapping over little things — a spilled cup, a child asking the same question again, or a noisy house that feels louder than usual.
Physical Symptoms
Your body often signals what your heart is feeling. Frequent headaches, muscle tension, persistent tiredness even after sleep, and trouble falling asleep can all point to burnout.
Spiritual Dryness
You might open your Bible and feel like the words aren’t reaching your heart. Prayer might feel difficult or mechanical. Worship feels distant.
Loss of Joy
Activities and moments that once brought you deep joy — reading to your kids, family dinners, even quiet moments with the Lord — start feeling like just another obligation.
Now that we’ve identified the warning signs, how do we navigate each one with wisdom, grace, and faith? Let’s walk through some simple, faith-filled steps you can take when you notice burnout creeping in.
Steps to Navigate Each Sign of Mom Burnout
Recognizing burnout is only half the battle. Knowing how to navigate it through faith is what brings true healing and renewal.
Here’s how you can address each sign of burnout with faith-based, practical steps:
When You Feel Emotionally Exhausted → Run to Jesus First
When You Feel Irritable and Impatient → Pause and Pray
When You’re Physically Drained → Honor Your Need for Rest
When You’re Experiencing Spiritual Dryness → Stay Connected to the Vine
When You’ve Lost Your Joy → Ask God to Restore It
Next, let’s look at a few practical strategies you can build into your daily life to not just recover from burnout, but to prevent it from taking root again.
Practical Strategies for Daily Renewal
Recovery from burnout isn’t about doing more — it’s about doing the right things that restore your body, mind, and spirit in Christ.
Here are some simple, powerful strategies you can weave into your everyday life:
Start Your Day with Even a 5-Minute Prayer Time
Build Mini-Rest Moments into Your Day
Set Realistic Expectations for Yourself
Find or Build Community
Give Yourself Permission to Step Back
When you focus on daily renewal, the Lord will strengthen you and renew your energy and desire to keep going.
Burnout Isn’t Failure, It’s a Signal
When you find yourself burnt out, overwhelmed, and weary, it’s easy to believe the lie that you’re failing — but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
It’s your heart and body’s way of saying: “You are running low. You need to return to the Source of life.”
Remember, growing weary doesn’t disqualify you — it shows you’re human, and even the strongest among us need rest and renewal. It’s not a lack of love for your family, your homeschool journey, or your calling. It’s simply that you are a vessel that needs to be filled again.
Scripture to Meditate On
“Even in your weary moments, God’s strength is made perfect.” 2 Corinthians 12:9
“As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him. For he knows our frame; he remembers that we are dust.” Psalm 103:13-14
“Joy isn’t manufactured — it’s a fruit of abiding in Christ.” John 15:4-5
“The world says hustle harder. Jesus says, ‘Come to Me and I will give you rest.’” Matthew 11:28
“Two are better than one… for if they fall, one will lift up his fellow.”Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
Now that we know how to renew ourselves practically, let’s focus on this truth: Burnout isn’t the end — it’s simply a signal that God is inviting you to rest in Him and be renewed by His love.
Wrapping Up
As we close, let’s review some simple, life-giving truths to hold onto when burnout tries to creep back in.
Friend, if you’re feeling burnt out today, remember — burnout is not a badge of failure. It’s simply a loving nudge from the Lord, calling you to slow down, reconnect, and rest in Him.
You don’t have to keep carrying it all on your own. Take a deep breath, whisper a prayer, and trust that God is ready to renew your strength, moment by moment, day by day.
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Raising Godly Kids is a desire for many Christian parents. But what should you do if your children’s faith path drifts? You may have done your best to teach biblical values, live out your faith authentically, and create a home centered on Christ. Yet, despite your best efforts, you may find that some of your children embrace their faith while others seem to walk away. This can be confusing and heartbreaking. Understanding why this happens can offer encouragement, perspective, and hope. Let’s look at some biblical reasons why children from the same home may follow different spiritual paths and how you can respond in faith.
Today, I share how to face this challenging question: How to Raise Godly Kids When Faith Paths Drift. Why do some children from the same home follow God while others do not? You are not alone in this struggle, and I will unpack what Scripture says, what practical insights we can glean, and most importantly, how you can keep hope alive.
“Raising godly children isn’t about perfect outcomes—it’s about faithfully planting seeds of truth and trusting God to grow them, even when your child’s faith path drifts in a direction you didn’t expect.” Connie Albers
Individual Free Will: A Matter of Personal Choice
One of the most significant reasons children from the same home may choose different paths is their free will. The Bible clearly teaches that each person must make their own choice regarding faith. In Joshua 24:15, Joshua declares, “Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve.”
Even in the most faith-filled homes, each child has a personal responsibility to choose whether to follow God or not. This concept is powerfully illustrated through the story of Cain and Abel (Genesis 4). Although they grew up under the same parenting, Cain chose a path of jealousy and violence while Abel chose to honor God.
It’s important to remember that no parent can control their child’s heart or decisions. While you can model faith, pray, and guide, each child will ultimately make their own choices. Accepting this truth allows you to continue loving your children unconditionally, regardless of their spiritual journey.
The Condition of the Heart: Different Responses to the Same Truth
Another crucial factor to consider is the condition of your child’s heart. In the Parable of the Sower (Matthew 13:1-23), Jesus describes how the same seed (the Word of God) falls on different types of soil (hearts), producing different outcomes. Some seeds grow and flourish, while others are choked out or wither away.
Similarly, siblings raised in the same Christian environment may have hearts that respond differently to biblical teachings. One child may eagerly accept God’s truth, while another may resist or struggle to believe. This difference does not necessarily reflect poor parenting; rather, it reveals each child’s unique spiritual condition.
Understanding that heart readiness varies helps reduce parental guilt and reminds you to pray specifically for God to soften the hearts of your children who may be struggling.
Personality and Temperament: Uniquely Wired for Faith
As you consider why children from the same home follow different spiritual paths, it’s to acknowledge their unique personalities. Psalm 139:14 reminds us that each person is “fearfully and wonderfully made.” While one child might naturally lean towards spirituality, another may be more analytical or even skeptical.
Take, for example, the biblical twins Esau and Jacob (Genesis 25:27). Though raised in the same environment, Esau was impulsive and focused on the present, while Jacob was more thoughtful. Their distinct temperaments influenced their choices, including their relationship with God.
Recognizing personality differences helps you understand why one child might be drawn to worship and prayer while another questions and challenges. Rather than feeling discouraged, view these differences as opportunities to approach faith discussions in ways that resonate with each child’s unique wiring.
External Influences: The Power of Peers and Culture
In addition to personality differences, external influences also shape your children’s faith. The Bible warns in 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” As much as you may protect your children from negative influences, friends, mentors, media, and life experiences still impact their beliefs.
For instance, a child who grows up in a godly home may still be influenced by secular ideologies at school or through friendships. This can lead to spiritual struggles, doubts, or even rebellion. We are all influenced by our surroundings, so parents must pay attention to who their children spend time with.
Awareness of these influences allows you to have honest, open conversations with your children about what they are experiencing and how it may impact their faith. By maintaining a safe, non-judgmental environment for dialogue, you help them process their thoughts with biblical guidance.
Fighting for Your Child’s Faith
Sometimes, despite a parent’s best efforts, spiritual warfare plays a role. The Bible reminds us that we battle not against flesh and blood but against spiritual forces (Ephesians 6:12). This unseen struggle can profoundly affect your child’s faith journey.
One sibling may feel spiritually attacked in ways that others do not, leading to doubts or a desire to pull away from God. A child’s unique vulnerabilities may make them more susceptible to these spiritual battles. Trust me, this is extremely difficult for a parent because we want our children to be strong and able to withstand attacks and temptations.
As a parent, prayer is your greatest tool to fight spiritual warfare, asking God to protect your children’s minds and hearts. Equip them with spiritual armor (Ephesians 6:10-18) and teach them to stand firm against spiritual attacks.
Trusting God’s Plan Your Child Drifts
While parental guidance is significant, each child’s faith journey is ultimately part of God’s sovereign plan. Romans 9:15 says, “I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion.” This means some children may take a different path despite your best efforts.
Think of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32). Although the same loving father raised both sons, one chose to leave and live recklessly. Yet, the father’s unwavering love remained constant, and when the son returned, he was embraced with open arms.
Trusting God’s sovereignty helps you release the burden of controlling outcomes and instead focus on loving your children through their journey, regardless of where they are spiritually.
What Can You Do as a Parent?
Pray Without Ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17): Never underestimate the power of persistent prayer. Ask God to work in your child’s heart, especially when they are resistant.
Model Faith Authentically (Deuteronomy 6:6-7): Live out your faith daily, showing your children the practical and relational aspects of following Christ.
Love Unconditionally (Luke 15:20): Whether they are walking with the Lord or not, show them that your love remains steadfast.
Trust God’s Timing (Isaiah 55:8-9): God’s ways are higher than ours. Be patient and hopeful as you wait for His work in your child’s life.
Even though we can’t control our children’s choices, we’re not powerless—there are still meaningful, faith-filled ways we can parent with purpose and hope.
Closing: Hold On to Hope
Seeing your children take different spiritual paths can be both confusing and painful. However, understanding that each child has free will, unique personality traits, and various external influences can bring some clarity. Remember that God is at work even when it seems like nothing is happening. Your role is to model faith, pray fervently, and trust God with the outcome.
Continue to love your children where they are, keep the door open, and never give up hope. God’s grace can reach even the most distant hearts, and He specializes in bringing prodigals home.
If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend who needs to hear these words today. And remember, you are doing a great job, even when the results aren’t what you hoped for. God sees your faithfulness, and He cares deeply for your children.
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In RVL Discipleship: The Study, join renowned teacher and Bible scholar Ray Vander Laan as he examines what it means to follow Christ through the cultural, historical, and otherwise contextual lens of Scripture. The Study is a four-season video Bible study for small groups and individuals to consider the question: What did it mean to be one of the original disciples of Jesus, and what does that mean for us today?
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Access all 4 seasons – 39 episodes that are 10-12 minutes long
In this episode of Mom Overload: Stop Stress Before it Breaks You, we’re diving into what so many of us feel but rarely say out loud — mom burnout is real. Whether you’re juggling homeschool lessons, managing a busy home, or simply trying to keep up with life, the pressure can feel overwhelming.
But here’s the good news: you’re not alone and don’t have to stay stressed.
If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, take a deep breath. You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s talk about how you can stop stress before it breaks you. There are simple, faith-filled ways to ease the pressure, regain your peace, and breathe again — even in the middle of motherhood’s busiest seasons.
I remember a season when I was homeschooling, running on little sleep, and feeling like I was failing my kids. One day, I broke down in tears in the laundry room. I sat on the floor, surrounded by piles of unfolded clothes, and whispered, “God, I can’t do this anymore.”
At that moment, I heard God whisper, “You don’t have to do it all.” I realized I didn’t have to be everything to everyone. I needed to give myself grace and lean into God’s strength instead of my own.
Why Moms are Stressed and Overloaded
Motherhood today feels heavier than ever. Between homeschooling, managing the house, keeping up with meals, schedules, emotional needs, and maybe even working or volunteering, moms constantly pour themselves out. We carry the weight of everyone’s needs and often put our own at the bottom of the list. We say yes when we want to say no, we hustle to meet every need, and we feel guilty if we stop to rest. No wonder we’re exhausted, emotionally drained, and teetering on the edge of burnout.
The more we try to juggle everything in our strength, the faster we wear ourselves down — and that’s exactly where burnout begins.
So, how do you know if you’re heading toward burnout? Let’s look at the warning signs many moms miss — and what they might be trying to tell you.
Recognizing the Signs of Mom Burnout
One of the hardest things about stress and burnout is that they sneak up on you. It’s not like one day you wake up and realize, “I’m burned out.” It’s more like a slow leak—you don’t notice it right away, but over time, the pressure builds until you’re emotionally and physically drained.
You might tell yourself this is just how motherhood is, but there are clear signs that you’re overloaded and need to change.
Let’s talk about some key signs that you might be on the edge of burnout:
Emotional Exhaustion– You feel like you have nothing left to give — not to your spouse, your kids, or even yourself.
Increased Irritability – You snap at your kids or spouse more easily over small things.
Trouble Sleeping – Even when you’re exhausted, your mind races and you can’t rest.
Lack of Joy – The things that used to make you happy now feel like obligations.
Feeling Like You’re Failing – No matter how much you do, it feels like it’s never enough.
Brain fog – trouble focusing, forgetting things, or feeling scattered.
Physical symptoms– headaches, stomach issues, and muscle tension that impact your daily productivity.
But here’s the truth: you are enough. Just showing up matters. Even when you’re tired and don’t have all the answers, being there is an act of love and courage.
💡 Scripture Encouragement: “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28 (ESV)
Practical Strategies to Stop Stress Before Your Break
Recognizing burnout is the first step, but managing stress requires action. You don’t need to overhaul your entire life to feel better. Small, intentional changes can make a huge difference in managing stress and protecting your energy.
💡 Scripture Encouragement:“Cast all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:7 (ESV)
Here are five practical strategies to help you regain balance:
1. Set Realistic Expectations
You are not a superhero, and you don’t have to be. Sometimes the stress we feel comes from expecting too much of ourselves.
If you don’t finish the whole homeschool lesson today, it’s okay.
If the laundry doesn’t get folded until tomorrow, everyone will survive.
If you have cereal for dinner one night, your kids will think it’s fun!
Example: Instead of thinking, “I need to get through this whole lesson plan today,” shift to, “My goal is to help my kids engage with learning — and if we don’t finish everything, that’s okay.”
I remember days when I felt utterly depleted emotionally and physically, but somehow, I’d find the strength to keep going. That’s the power of the Lord. It’s not glamorous; it’s steady and quiet, and it matters.
2. Create Margin in Your Day
A packed schedule leaves no room to breathe — and that’s a recipe for stress. You don’t need to fill every moment with activity.
Build in quiet time or downtime for yourself and your kids.
Give yourself permission to rest — it’s productive!
Try to keep a 15-minute buffer between activities to reset.
Example: Schedule “free time” into your daily homeschool routine. It helps you and your kids reset emotionally.
Reflection Question: Where can you create extra margin in your day this week?
3. Learn to Say “No” Without Guilt
Saying “no” isn’t selfish — it’s essential. You can’t do everything, and when you try to, you end up exhausted and resentful.
“That sounds great, but I can’t commit now.”
“Thanks for thinking of me, but my plate is full this week.”
“We’d love to join, but I need a quiet weekend at home.”
Example: If a friend invites you to a homeschool co-op that would add stress to your week, it’s okay to say no. You don’t have to justify it or feel guilty.
Reflection Question: What’s one thing you need to say “no” to this week?
4. Include Your Kids in Household Chores
You are NOT supposed to do it all. Get your children to help with age-appropriate tasks—it’s good for them to learn responsibility.
Let them fold towels — even if they’re not perfect.
Have them help with meal prep or clean-up after school work is done.
Ask your spouse to take over bedtime — even if it looks different than how you’d do it.
Example: Including your kids in meal prep and clean-up not only lightens your load but also gives them a sense of ownership and teaches valuable life skills.
5. Build in Self-Care (Without Feeling Guilty!)
Self-care isn’t selfish — it’s necessary. You cannot pour from an empty cup.
Start small:
10 minutes of quiet prayer in the morning.
A walk around the block after dinner.
Listening to worship music while doing dishes.
Example: If you feel overwhelmed during the day, pause and pray: “Lord, I feel overwhelmed. Please give me peace and help me trust that You are enough.”
Now that you’ve developed some strategies for managing stress, let’s discuss the next step: making these habits stick so you don’t slide back into burnout.
How to Prevent Mom Overload Before It Starts
Managing stress is necessary, but true peace comes from creating rhythms and boundaries that prevent stress from building up in the first place. Reducing stress isn’t about making the “perfect” schedule or life — it’s about finding a rhythm that allows you to thrive.
Jesus gives us a beautiful model for this. He served tirelessly but also took time to retreat and rest. He wasn’t in a constant state of hurry, and you don’t have to be either.
Let’s walk through some practical ways to establish a sustainable rhythm and prevent burnout before it starts: you don’t get it right. It’s recognizing that love is still present even on the hard days.
💡 Scripture Encouragement:“Be still, and know that I am God.” – Psalm 46:10 (ESV)
1. Establish Healthy Boundaries
Setting boundaries is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself and your family. When you say “yes” to everything, you’re saying “no” to your peace and health.
Start setting boundaries around:
Your time – Guard your rest and personal time.
Your energy – Don’t overcommit to activities or obligations.
Your mental load – Stop carrying what isn’t yours to carry.
Example: If a friend asks you to volunteer at a church event, but you know it will create stress for your family, say: “I appreciate you asking, but I can’t commit to that right now.”
Saying “no” does not mean rejecting others—it’s a way to protect your capacity to serve your family well.
2. Limit Comparison and Perfectionism
One of the fastest ways to burn out is to compare yourself to other moms. Social media makes it look like everyone else is homeschooling perfectly, making organic meals, and raising kids who never fight. Let me tell you — that’s not real life!
Give yourself permission to live a life that works for your family, not someone else’s highlight reel.
If your homeschool day doesn’t look Pinterest-worthy, that’s okay.
If you’re not doing fancy crafts — guess what? Your kids will survive.
If you’re more of a “chicken nuggets and frozen peas” mom than a “from-scratch sourdough bread” mom, that’s just fine!
Example: Instead of feeling guilty because you’re not doing it all, remind yourself: “I’m doing what’s best for my family, and that’s enough.”
3. Stay Close to the Lord
When life gets busy, quiet time with God is often the first thing to go. But staying spiritually grounded is essential for managing stress and finding peace.
Make it simple:
Start your day with a short prayer.
Keep a Bible verse on a sticky note where you’ll see it during the day.
Turn on worship music while you cook or clean.
Invite God into your daily life — even in the small, mundane moments.
Example: If you’re feeling overwhelmed during the day, pause and pray: “Lord, I feel overwhelmed. Please give me peace and help me trust that You are enough.”
God isn’t asking you to do this alone — He wants to carry the load with you.
💡 Scripture Encouragement:“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.” – Isaiah 26:3 (ESV)
4. Check In with Yourself Regularly
Burnout doesn’t happen overnight—it builds gradually. That’s why it’s essential to check in with yourself regularly to see how you’re feeling emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
Try this simple weekly check-in:
How am I feeling emotionally?
Am I getting enough rest?
Am I connecting with God?
What’s working well — and what needs to change?
Example: If you feel emotionally drained, it might be time to cut back on commitments or take a rest day from homeschooling. That’s not quitting — that’s being wise.
5. Build a Sustainable Rhythm (Not a Schedule)
Schedules are rigid, but rhythms are flexible. A rhythm gives you structure, but it also allows for life to happen.
Think of your day in terms of “flow” rather than a strict timetable:
Start the day with prayer and a quiet moment with God.
Create blocks of time for homeschooling, chores, and rest.
Build in intentional moments of connection with your kids.
End the day with gratitude — focus on what went right.
Example: Instead of stressing about a 9:00 a.m. start time for school, aim to start between 9:00 and 9:30. That gives you grace and flexibility.
When you create a rhythm that works for your family and stay connected to God’s peace, you’ll have more emotional margin, and burnout will lose its grip. In the closing, I’ll remind you of the key takeaways and encourage you to carry them into your week.
💡 Scripture Encouragement:“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1 (ESV)
Encouragement
Friend, I want you to hear me clearly—you are not failing, you’re not falling behind, and you’re not supposed to have it all together all the time. Mom overload, but stopping stress will keep you from breaking.
Motherhood is hard, and juggling the many tasks you are responsible for adds another layer of complexity, but you are not alone.
The truth is, you were never meant to do it all. God doesn’t expect you to be perfect — He expects you to lean on Him. And when you stop trying to hold everything together by your own strength, you make room for God’s grace to carry you.
So, if you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, it’s time to stop striving and start surrendering. You don’t have to say yes to everything, have a spotless house, or have a perfect homeschool day. Your value as a mom isn’t measured by how much you accomplish but by the love you pour into your family.
Remember:
Say “no” without guilt. Ask for help without feeling weak. Rest without shame.
God has called you to motherhood, but He has not called you to burnout.
💡 Scripture Encouragement:“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9 (ESV)
Final Thoughts
If this message resonated with you, I encourage you to share it with another mom who may be feeling the weight of burnout. You’re not alone and don’t have to carry this alone. God has equipped you with everything you need for this season, and I’m cheering you on every step of the way.
The Heart of Caregiving is found in the quiet, unseen moments — the late nights, the tired mornings, and the endless cycle of giving without expecting anything in return. Jess Ronne joins me today for an honest conversation on caregiving.
Caregiving is not just about meeting physical needs; it’s about pouring love, patience, and strength into someone else’s life, even when your cup feels empty.
Amid exhaustion and uncertainty, a quiet strength comes from knowing you are not alone. This is the heart of caregiving — a place where grit and grace meet, sustaining you through even the hardest days.
“The heart of caregiving is found in the quiet, unseen moments — the late nights, the tired mornings, and the endless cycle of giving without expecting anything in return. I know this because I’ve been there. Caring for my mom taught me that true strength isn’t loud; it’s found in the quiet acts of love and patience when no one is watching.” Connie Albers
The Heart of Caregiving
The heart of caregiving is found in the quiet, unseen moments — the late nights, the tired mornings, and the endless cycle of giving without expecting anything in return. I know this because I’ve been there. Caring for my mom taught me that true strength isn’t loud; it’s found in the quiet acts of love and patience when no one is watching. It’s in the middle-of-the-night wake-ups, the doctor’s appointments, the hard conversations, and the moments when you wonder if you have anything left to give. Caregiving is hard, holy work — and it changes you in ways you never expected.
The Challenges of Caregiving
Caregiving stretches you in every possible way — physically, emotionally, and mentally. There’s the exhaustion that comes from sleepless nights and long days. You pour out everything you have to meet someone else’s needs, often putting your own aside. And it’s not just the physical toll — it’s the emotional weight too.
It’s hard watching someone you love struggle. You wish you could fix it, make it better, take away the pain — but you can’t. The constant decision-making can be overwhelming. Did I do the right thing? Should I have spoken up more at that appointment? Am I doing enough? These thoughts can weigh you down, leaving you feeling like you’re never quite enough.
But here’s the truth: you are enough. Just showing up matters. Even when you’re tired and don’t have all the answers, being there is an act of love and courage.
Finding Strength in Grit
Caregiving requires grit — that daily resolve to keep going even when it’s hard. You show up, not because it’s easy, but because you love the person in front of you.
Grit is getting out of bed when you’d rather stay under the covers. It’s figuring out complicated medical instructions and staying calm when everything feels like it’s falling apart. It’s knowing that you might not see the rewards of your labor — but choosing to serve anyway.
I remember days when I felt utterly depleted — emotionally and physically. But somehow, I’d find the strength to keep going. That’s the power of grit. It’s not glamorous; it’s steady and quiet. And it matters.
Finding Peace in Grace
But grit alone isn’t enough. That’s where grace comes in. Grace is what carries you when you’re too tired to stand.
Grace means allowing yourself to be human. You don’t have to be perfect to be a good caregiver. You can get frustrated and feel exhausted and still be doing enough. Grace is knowing that it’s okay to take a break—that rest isn’t failure; it’s necessary.
It’s also about offering grace to the person you’re caring for. They might not always express gratitude. They might lash out because they’re hurting. Grace reminds you that they’re struggling too. And it helps you respond with patience instead of resentment.
Grace is forgiving yourself when you don’t get it right. It’s recognizing that love is still present even on the hard days.
The Scrared Calling of Caregiving
Caregiving is hard — but it’s also sacred. There’s something profoundly beautiful about loving someone through their hardest moments.
It’s easy to think of caregiving as a chore or an obligation. But it’s more than that. It’s an act of devotion. Every meal prepared, every hand held, every encouraging word — these are reflections of God’s love. Even when you feel unseen, God sees you.
You might not hear “thank you” as often as you’d like, but your work matters. You are standing in the gap for someone who needs you. That’s sacred.
When I was caring for my mom, there were moments when I felt invisible — like no one saw the hard work I was doing. But God saw. And He gave me strength when I had nothing left. That’s the gift of caregiving — you’re not doing it alone.
Practical Encouragment for Caregivers
I know firsthand how easy it is to neglect yourself when you’re focused on someone else’s needs. But you can’t give from an empty cup. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish — it’s necessary.
Prioritize Rest. Even if you can only grab 10 mins. of quiet, take it. Your body and mind need to reset.
Set Realistic Goals. You won’t get it right all the time, and that’s okay.
Ask for Help. People might not know you need anything, so be willing to ask. Lean on your community, family, and even professional support.
Conclusion: The Heart of Caregiving
The heart of caregiving is found in the tension between grit and grace — showing up when it’s hard and trusting that you are not alone. Caregiving will stretch you, challenge you, and sometimes break your heart — but it will also grow you in ways you never imagined.
If you’re in the middle of caregiving right now, I want you to know this: You are doing holy work. You are seen. You are enough. And you are not alone.
References, Related Shows, and Links
Jess Ronne is no stranger to caregiving. As the eldest of eleven siblings, Jess was responsible for their care during her upbringing. Her commitment to caregiving continued after she married and received the medical news that her son Luca would be born with significant disabilities requiring lifelong care.
She then faced the devastating news that her thirty-one-year-old husband was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer, leaving her to raise four children alone. Her life took another remarkable turn when she met Ryan, a widower with three children. They blended two families and welcomed another child together.
Jess leads the Lucas Project, a nonprofit outreach organization committed to supporting individuals with special needs. Alongside her husband, Jess established Hope Farm, a residential facility that assists the needs of her son and other young adults with disabilities.
Milestones, Memories, and Moments: 5 Years of Equipped To Be. My how time flies. Let’s take a look at the Challenges that almost made me quit, the lessons I’ve learned, and the wins that kept me going.
When I first started Equipped To Be, I had no idea where this journey would lead. I simply wanted to encourage and equip parents, helping them navigate life with confidence and faith. But what started as a small step of obedience has turned into five years of life-giving conversations, shared wisdom, and stories of transformation.
Still, the journey hasn’t always been easy…
Lamentations 3:22-23 – “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” This reminds us that every day, every episode, every year is by God’s grace and mercy.
The Challenges: When I Wanted To Quit
Podcasting is an incredible way to connect with people, but let me tell you—it comes with its fair share of obstacles. I’ve faced seasons of slow growth, lost valuable team members, and wrestled with moments of doubt.
There were times I questioned if this was what God still wanted me to do. Times when I thought, Is anyone really listening? Is this making a difference?
But every time, God reminded me: faithfulness is the goal, not fast results.
And that faithfulness led to some of the most unexpected blessings…
💡 James 1:2-4 – “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” God uses challenges to refine and strengthen us—even in podcasting!
5 Lessons From 5 Years
If I could sum up everything I’ve learned in this journey, it would be these five lessons:
Consistency is key – Even when growth feels slow, the real impact comes in showing up. Galatians 6:9 – “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” God’s timing is perfect—even when growth feels slow.
You’re never really ready – “If I waited until I felt ready to launch, I’d still be waiting.” Ecclesiastes 11:4 – “Whoever watches the wind will not plant; whoever looks at the clouds will not reap.” If we wait for the “perfect” moment, we may never start at all!
Faith over fear – Trusting God’s plan, even when results aren’t immediate. 2 Timothy 1:7 – “For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” Fear should never stop us from walking in our calling.
Serving over numbers – The shift from focusing on downloads to focusing on impact. Colossians 3:23-24 – “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” Impact is about obedience, not numbers.
It’s okay to evolve – “The podcast today is different from when it started, and that’s a good thing!” 📖 Isaiah 43:19 – “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” God grows and refines our calling over time.
💡 But beyond the numbers and downloads, what truly matters are the lessons learned along the way…
The Wins: The Most Impactful Moments
Despite the challenges, the impact of Equipped To Be has been undeniable. Over the past five years, I’ve received heartfelt messages from listeners sharing how an episode spoke directly into their lives—giving them the encouragement they needed in the exact moment they needed it.
Some episodes resonated deeply, becoming listener favorites. Others surprised me with their reach and impact. And every single conversation reminded me why this mission matters.
1 Corinthians 15:58 – “Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.”
Let’s Celebtrate the Milestone, Memories & MomentsTogether
Whether you’ve been here since episode one or you’re just discovering Equipped To Be, I want to thank you for being part of this journey. This podcast wouldn’t be what it is without YOU!
“If you’re working on something—whether it’s raising kids, homeschooling, starting a business, or maybe even your own podcast—let me remind you: keep going.”
“It’s not about perfecting the journey—it’s about being faithful in the calling.”
Thank you for your support and messages and for being part of this journey.
We have some exciting things coming for Equipped To Be in year six! Stay tuned!
💬 Did this episode encourage you? I’d love to hear from you! Share your favorite Equipped To Be moment on Instagram or Facebook and tag me. Let’s celebrate together!
Final Encouragement Verse: Hebrews 10:36 – “You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.” Perseverance in our calling brings God’s blessings.
