Raising Boys (Re-Air)

Do you wonder how to raise boys to become strong, godly men? Men who will one day lead their family, a company, a community, or maybe even a country? Raising boys to be risk-takers, adventurers, innovators, and creative is hard when we live in a culture that does more to confuse boys than help them.

This topic was so popular that I decided to re-air Raising Boys with Mark Hancock of Trail Life USA.

How can we raise boys to be men when society has lost its way? As a mom of three boys, I understand how important raising boys is to our society’s future. That’s why I invited Mark Hancock, CEO of Trial Life USA, to join me to share what parents, grandparents, coaches, and ministry leaders can do.

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Too many boys are turning to virtual worlds of television, video games, digital media, and the internet to find realms they can conquer and areas where they can excel. The result of this virtual conquest is often apathy, apparent rebellion, or outright resistance to real-world challenges. But you can shape and guide your boys in their journey of becoming a man.

In this honest look at raising boys, we lay out essential principles for raising boys to become godly, responsible men of integrity, honesty, and determination. We share invaluable insights and practical wisdom gleaned from years of experience mentoring and guiding young men toward a fulfilling life filled with meaning and purpose.

Raising Boys of Integrity and Honesty

Lead by Example: Boys learn a great deal from observing the behavior of adults, particularly their parents and other influential figures. Model honesty and integrity in your own actions and interactions. Be transparent about your own mistakes and demonstrate how to take responsibility and make amends when necessary. By consistently embodying these values, you provide a powerful example for boys to emulate.

Encourage Open Communication: Foster an environment of open communication where boys feel safe to express themselves honestly and without fear of judgment. Encourage them to openly share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences and actively listen to what they have to say. Engage in discussions about moral dilemmas, ethical decision-making, and the importance of honesty in relationships. Promoting open dialogue creates opportunities for boys to develop a deeper understanding of integrity and honesty and how these values apply to various aspects of their lives.

Navigating Challenges in Today’s Culture

Boys need to develop determination and resilience by setting achievable goals and persistently working towards them. To support this, we guide them in breaking down larger goals into smaller, manageable tasks, and we celebrate their progress along the way. By encouraging a growth mindset, we help them view challenges as opportunities for growth rather than obstacles to success. Instilling a sense of purpose and direction enables boys to stay focused and resilient, even when faced with setbacks.

Promote Resilience and Problem-Solving Skills: Equip boys with resilience and problem-solving skills to effectively navigate challenges in today’s culture. Encourage them to view setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning. Teach them coping strategies for managing stress, adversity, and peer pressure, such as deep breathing, positive self-talk, and seeking support from trusted adults. By fostering resilience and problem-solving skills, parents empower boys to face challenges with confidence, adaptability, and perseverance.

Raising Boys to Godly Men

Boys need a father or fatherlike figure in their lives to look up to and show them what it means to be a man. Study after study backs that up. Boys learn how to be persistent by providing supportive feedback and encouragement.

Boys need to develop determination and resilience by setting achievable goals and persistently working towards them. We guide them in breaking down larger goals into smaller, manageable tasks and celebrate their progress along the way. Encouraging a growth mindset helps them view challenges as opportunities for growth rather than obstacles to success. By instilling a sense of purpose and direction, boys learn to stay focused and resilient, even when faced with setbacks

We need to offer boys supportive feedback and encouragement to foster determination and resilience. Recognize their efforts and progress, emphasizing their strengths and resilience in overcoming obstacles. Encourage them to reflect on their experiences, identify lessons learned, and celebrate their achievements, no matter how small. By providing a nurturing and affirming environment, boys develop the confidence and resilience to persevere through difficulties and pursue their goals with determination.

About Mark Hancock

Mark T. Hancock began his career founding an advertising agency that grew to national prominence over fifteen years. His conversion to Christ led him into ministry as a Youth and College Pastor, Associate Pastor, Homeless Ministry Director, and Global Event Director for an international ministry, organizing events on five continents.

An author, award-winning writer, and conference speaker, he serves as Chief Executive Officer of Trail Life USA and lives near Greenville, SC, with his wife of over 30 years. They have two sons.

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Raising Creative Children Part 1

Have you ever wondered how to encourage and develop your child’s creativity without overwhelming them or stifling their natural curiosity? I have. Raising creative children taught me so much about how creative/artistic kids see and engage in the world around them that I started speaking on this topic years ago. This topic is so valuable to parents that I decided to dedicate two episodes: Raising Creative Children Part 1 and Raising Creative Children Part 2.

During this episode, I will share practical tips to help you cultivate a nurturing environment that allows your child’s imagination to flourish. Whether your child loves to paint, dance, write, or invent, they need you to guide and celebrate their creative journey. So, grab a smoothie, relax, and let’s embark on this exciting adventure together! 🙂

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Before we talk about nurturing a creative child, you need to know how they think, feel, and experience the world. If you take time to learn some simple characteristics, you’ll enjoy the rewards of watching them grow and develop their craft.

Creative Children View Life Differently

A creative child views the world through a lens of endless possibilities, where every ordinary object holds the potential for extraordinary transformation. They see patterns, colors, and stories in the most mundane settings, turning every day into a canvas for their imagination. Their perspective is rich with curiosity and wonder, constantly seeking to explore, understand, and reinvent the world around them.

Common Characteristics of a Creative Child

Creative children often display a unique set of traits and behaviors that distinguish them from their peers. I could list many characteristics of a creative child, but these will help you identify the common characteristics :

  • Vivid Imagination: Creative children frequently have rich imaginations and enjoy inventing stories, games, and scenarios.
  • Curiosity: They often ask a lot of questions and show a keen interest in exploring and understanding the world around them.
  • Energetic: Creative children are usually energetic and enthusiastic, particularly when engaged in activities they are passionate about.
  • Resilience: They are often persistent and resilient, willing to tackle challenges and learn from failures.
  • Self-Directed: Creative children often prefer working independently and may resist conventional instructions or routines.
  • Depth of Emotion: They often experience and express deep and complex emotions through their creative outlets.

When we pay attention to what our creative children need, we can better nurture their creative potential effectively.

Supplies for Creative Children

By providing the right resources, environment, and encouragement, you can help your artistic children hone their skills and develop their unique creative voices. It’s about progress over perfection, nurturing imagination, and learning to fail and keep going.

  • Basic Supplies: Keep a stock of essential items like paper, pencils, paints, brushes, and clay.
  • Specialty Items: Occasionally introduce more specialized materials such as canvases, charcoals, or digital art tools.
  • Books and Tutorials: Invest in art books, online tutorials, and classes that cater to your child’s interests.

Your children look to you not just for basic needs but also for emotional and spiritual support. They need you to protect them from harm, teach them right from wrong, love them unconditionally, serve them with a joyful heart, and play with them. All these actions create lasting memories.

Practical Examples to Encourage Creatives

Encouraging your creative child doesn’t have to be complicated; small, everyday actions can make a significant impact. Here are some practical examples to help nurture and inspire your child’s creativity at home.

  • Provide creative space. Creative children need time and space to think and dream.
  • Encourage exploration and experimentation: Allow your child the freedom to experiment with different art forms, materials, and techniques, encouraging them to take risks and embrace mistakes as valuable learning experiences.
  • Celebrate effort, not just results. Creative children tend to be more sensitive to failure, and they thrive when we praise their progress.
  • Create diverse experiences: Encourage your child to explore various activities and environments, such as visiting museums, attending art workshops, or spending time in nature to broaden their creative horizons.
  • Encourage collaboration and sharing

When you add practical examples for your children, you will foster a supportive environment that nurtures and develops a child’s creative abilities.

Supporting children’s artistic journey not only fosters their talents but also contributes to their overall personal development. By encouraging exploration, offering support, and celebrating their efforts, you are not only helping your child develop their creative talents but also instilling confidence and resilience that will benefit them throughout their lives.

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Reduce Kids School Year Stress

You can reduce kids school year stress so they can enjoy this season of life. Most kids experience stress when faced with end-of-year exams, graduation, and other requirements. Helping children learn how to manage their stress levels will allow them to finish their year with excellence and gain confidence in the process.

While the end of the year can be an exciting time, it doesn’t come without a measure of stress. I mean, trying to juggle assignments, final exams, and graduations can put a lot of pressure on your children. So, what can you do to help your children manage it all? How do you know if your kids are getting overwhelmed?

Last week, I discussed When Children Move Out on Equipped To Be. This week, we are discussing Reducing Kids School Year Stress. While obstacles and stress are common, kids have to learn some principles that can help them navigate them well and possibly change their future.

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Many experts believe there are signs parents should look for as the school year comes to a close. That’s why I’m excited to share this episode with you and your family. I want you to know how to help your kids manage stress so they can know what they can do in future situations.

What Should Parents Look For

Are they acting up or lashing out? Are they struggling to get sleep or trying to stay up all night to study? Do they fear failing? Pay attention to the words they say and their body language. When kids are under stress, their actions will tell us how they feel.

When you know how your child thinks, feels, and processes life’s challenges, you have an opportunity to encourage them in a way they will understand and appreciate.

I like to begin by gathering as much information as possible about the circumstances. The more you know about their schedule the more relevant your instructions can be.

  • When are the exams? What time of day? Find out how they feel about the subject matter.
  • Tell your child they are learning valuable life management skills, not just academics, during this period of time.
  • Help your children put the time in context. Tell them to think of this as a sprint, not a marathon. Using visuals helps some kids understand better. For kids, having a grasp of time can reduce anxiety and stress.
  • Pray and ask the Lord to give you wisdom as you teach your children.

The benefits of carefully identifying what they need from you are that your help will be better for them. Once you have all the information, I recommend assessing their sleep, daily schedule, study habits, fears, and whether additional tutors are needed.

Reduce Stress with Sleep and Schedule

Parents know the importance of sleep, but kids don’t fully understand that. Which is why they often stay up too late and get up early to prepare for a final exam. But learning to shut things down at a decent hour so they can get sleep will improve their performance. How can we do this?

  • List what needs to be done. Then, prioritize them.
  • Silence cell phones and/or put them in another room. This will remove the temptation to scroll on social media or talk with friends when one should be sleeping.
  • Set an external alarm that reminds them what they are supposed to be doing at specific times. I use one word: focus, math, science, reading, etc. Doing this helps them get back on track if they get distracted.
  • Create a schedule and put it on the refrigerator. This will make the schedule the enforcer, not you.

I’m sure you and your child can add more things they can do to get enough sleep and create a workable schedule.

Don’t Ask Too Many Questions

Asking some children too many questions can actually increase their stress. Simple checking in with questions like “How are your studies going?” or ” How are you holding up?” can be just enough to let you know you are interested and available if they need you. Saying confident boasting statements can also help.

  • I know you’ll do your best.
  • I believe in your ability to handle the pressure.

If you have specific concerns or see your child not making the effort to do well, you can speak up. But first, remember your goal and how they will receive what you say.

Overreacting Increases A Child’s Stress

Wanting kids to excel in their studies is good, but if we aren’t mindful of our expectations, we can show disapproval if they don’t achieve our standards. Keep in mind the goal during this season. We want kids to learn how to manage stress when they are under pressure to perform. If they don’t get the grades or pass the exam with what they or you wanted, don’t immediately start telling them what they did wrong. That won’t help them. Most of the time, they already feel bad.

Here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • Tell yourself the truth about a situation. You didn’t fail your child.
  • Tell your child the truth about the situation. Your child will learn from this failure and do better next time.
  • Ask the Lord to help you find what your child did right. Don’t make your child feel worse than they already do because they know what they did or didn’t do.
  • Remind your child that God has a plan for them, and it is for their good.

Doing this takes practice. I’ve had to watch my kids work through failing, missing the cut, not putting in enough effort, and not managing their time well, but they learn valuable lessons every time.

Help Them Improve Their Grades

It’s not uncommon for kids to struggle in some subjects. Expecting them to be superior in every school subject would be unrealistic. If your child expresses concern, ask them if they think a tutor would be helpful. Or, if you know the subject well, offer to be a study partner or do flashcards or other creative ways to learn and retain the information that is needed.

Most Important: Ask Them How They Feel

Asking a child how they feel makes them feel loved and cared for. When I was writing Parenting Beyond the Rules, my research showed that most kids don’t think their parents are interested in what they are learning. And their number one complaint was that their parents didn’t listen to them. Oddly enough, most parents don’t feel like their kids want to talk to them.

So, if you show interest in what they are doing, ask the right questions, help them create a schedule, get enough sleep, and avoid overreacting if they underperform, your relationship will flourish, and they will learn how to manage future stress when life gets challenging.

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When Children Move Out

Welcome to our heartfelt discussion, in which most of us are never really prepared to let go of our children. We can remember toddler days, middle school meltdowns, and high school proms. But what about when children move out? It’s a pivotal moment that every parent faces. I wasn’t prepared for the wave of emotions that would overwhelm me when our first child moved out.

Today, I’m focusing on the profound act of letting go and releasing our kids with grace into the world. As we navigate this transition, we’ll explore what it means to step back while lovingly holding a supportive space. This episode is filled with insights and stories to guide you through the emotional nuances of watching your children carve their own paths. I pray this episode will be of help to you as you learn how to embrace this bittersweet milestone with open hearts and a generous spirit.

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Many experts believe there are signs parents should look for as the school year comes to a close. That’s why I’m excited to share this episode with you and your family. I want you to know how to help your kids manage stress so they can know what they can do in future situations.

Reshaping Our Connection

Letting go of our children as they venture into adulthood is a bittersweet journey that all parents must face. This essential transition involves understanding that our children naturally seek independence, a vital part of their development.

As parents, our role evolves from being hands-on guides to supportive advisors. It’s also a time to redefine our relationships with them, transitioning to an adult-to-adult dynamic. This process isn’t just about stepping back—it’s about reshaping our connections to respect their new-found autonomy while continuing to offer love and support from a new perspective.

Understanding the Transition

Navigating the journey from childhood to adulthood is a pivotal aspect of both parenting and a child’s development. Understanding the nuances of this transition is essential for maintaining a healthy and evolving relationship as children grow into independence.

The Natural Progression

The Natural Progression:
Children’s pursuit of independence is a natural, healthy part of their growth. From the early days of asserting their preferences in clothes and food to making significant life decisions such as choosing a college or a career path, this drive for autonomy is crucial. It prepares them to face the world with confidence and resilience. As they grow, this need for self-sufficiency becomes more pronounced, manifesting in their desire to explore, make their own mistakes, and learn from them. Acknowledging this progression is essential for parents to understand that stepping back is not a sign of losing connection but rather a necessary phase of development that supports their child’s journey toward becoming a well-rounded adult.

The Parent’s Role

The Parent’s Role
As children edge toward independence, the parental role must undergo a transformation. The transition from being the primary decision-maker to a guide on the sidelines can be challenging. Parents need to shift from hands-on management to offering advice and support when asked. This doesn’t mean parents become less important; instead, their involvement becomes more strategic. It’s about knowing when to step in and when to let children navigate their own paths. This advisory capacity helps build trust and respect in the relationship, showing children that while their parents are always there for support, they also believe in their ability to make decisions.

Redefining Relationships

Redefining Relationships
As children mature, the dynamic between parent and child must also evolve to reflect an adult-to-adult relationship. This redefinition is crucial for maintaining a healthy, respectful bond. Parents and children need to learn to interact on more equal grounds, discussing life’s challenges and successes without the hierarchical implications that typically define a parent-child relationship. This might involve setting new boundaries and finding new ways to communicate that respect both the parent’s wisdom and the child’s autonomy. Successfully navigating this shift can lead to a richer, more fulfilling relationship that continues to thrive as both parties acknowledge and adjust to their evolving roles.

This evolving relationship paves the way for discussing specific examples that illustrate how you can effectively guide and support your children as they navigate the complexities of adulthood.

Strategies for Letting Go

As your child grows and steps into the world as an independent adult, you must adapt and embrace this new phase of life as a parent. Here are some heartfelt strategies for letting go that can help ease the transition and foster a positive transformation in both your life and your child’s.

Seek Community

You’re not alone in this journey. Many other parents are experiencing similar feelings as they adjust to their children growing up and moving out. Connecting with others who understand what you’re going through can be incredibly comforting and enlightening. Whether it’s joining a support group, participating in community activities, or simply sharing stories and tips with friends, building a network of support helps lighten the emotional load and provides a broader perspective on the transition.

Practice Self-Care

As you navigate this chapter of letting your child step into independence, it’s crucial to remember to take care of yourself, too. Prioritize your own well-being, both emotionally and physically. It’s not just about finding peace with the changes around you but also about replenishing your spirit and strength. Whether it’s through meditation, a new hobby, or regular exercise, nurturing yourself ensures you have the energy and positivity to support your child—and embrace your own journey of growth and rediscovery.

Keep Perspective

It’s vital to keep perspective on what letting go truly means. Remember, releasing your grip doesn’t signify an end—it’s an important part of fostering independence in your child. By letting go, you’re not losing a relationship but transforming it. This is a time to celebrate the role you’ve played in your child’s journey to becoming a confident, self-reliant adult. Embrace this as a natural, positive step in life’s cycle that opens up new possibilities for you and your child. Embracing these strategies not only helps you let go with grace but also enhances your ability to enjoy and appreciate this new stage in your relationship with your child. It’s a journey worth celebrating, filled with growth, love, and new beginnings.

Final Thougths

As you prepare for a new season of life, it’s important to hold close to the beautiful truth that letting go isn’t about losing a part of our journey with our children but rather an essential step in their growth and ours. Celebrate the amazing individuals your children are becoming—their resilience, successes, and the paths they are carving for themselves. Remember, while your role as a parent evolves, it remains profoundly significant. Your ongoing support continues to be a cornerstone in their lives, adapting to meet the needs of this new chapter. Embrace this change with a heart full of pride and a spirit ready to support them in new ways. Let’s look forward to the wonderful things ahead, cherishing every moment of this transition.

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Overcoming Obstacles

Does overcoming obstacles seem nearly impossible? They sure have for me. But, I’ve learned practical ways to overcome obstacles and find a path to getting unstuck that might help you and your children.

We all encounter obstacles, but not everyone has the tools to turn these challenges into stepping stones. With faith, a positive outlook, and a few actionable steps, you can learn how to overcome obstacles that can keep you stuck. Whether you’re struggling with work, your personal life, or your child is struggling, there’s a way to gain forward movement.

While obstacles are common, learning to overcome them can change your future. Challenges don’t have to defeat us or keep us stuck. That’s why consistent time with the Lord and a community of friends can change that.

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We all encounter obstacles, but not everyone has the tools to turn these challenges into stepping stones. That’s why I’m excited to share this episode with you and your family. I want you to learn not only how to get unstuck but also how to run your race with excellence.

Overcoming Obstacles by Identifying and Assessing

We can’t overcome obstacles if we don’t understand the problem. Which is why you have to be honest with yourself.

I like to begin by gathering as much information as possible about the circumstances, feelings, behavior, and thought patterns that are keeping me stuck. You can do this too.

  • Pray and ask the Lord to give you insights
  • Ask trusted friends or your family what they have observed about me
  • Write down why you feel the way you feel
  • Carefully examine where your thoughts and beliefs are coming from that you are believing about yourself.

The benefits of carefully assessing and identifying why you can’t overcome obstacles using these steps can be eye-opening. Once you or your child has completed these steps, I recommend looking for triggers and patterns that you might not realize are happening.

Understanding Triggers and Patterns

Learning to get beyond struggles that might be holding you back, requires identifying triggers and noticing patterns of thought and behavior.

  • What specific situation causes you to feel stuck?
  • What is your emotional reaction?
  • Do you have recurring thoughts and behaviors that cause you to pause?

By spending time on reflective listening, we can identify triggers and patterns of thought and behavior. The words we think and believe about ourselves are powerful, which is why we must not focus on addressing them.

Overcoming Obstacles Through Reflecting Listening

The purpose of reflective listening is to help one understand any deeply held beliefs about oneself or the world. When you take the time to pay attention to what you think or say, you can start to construct a plan that will move you forward.

  • I’m not good at ______?
  • I lack self-confidence.
  • What if I fail?
  • Fear of failure

Our underlying beliefs can cause internal frustration and emotional paralysis. The next step in getting unstuck is to identify where our thoughts, beliefs, and patterns are coming from.

Acceptance and Skills Development to Overcome Obstacles

Learning to accept where you are is a pathway to knowing what skills you need to develop to move forward. To do this well, we need to learn practical problem-solving skills to deal with specific situations that might be causing us to get stuck. Here are a few

  • Tell yourself the truth about a situation. Being honest with yourself is essential to learning.
  • Remind yourself that no one can make you feel or stay stuck. Others may say or do things that knock you down. They don’t have the power to keep you there.
  • Pray: Ask the Lord to help you develop problem-solving skills. Trying to get around obstacles on your own makes any situation more difficult. God has a plan for your obstacle; you need to know the plan.

Every new skill requires practice. I encourage you to write down the behavior you need to improve, the thoughts you want to change, and the patterns you want to challenge. Remember this: When God instructs us to lay something down, we are told what to pick up. It is easier to replace old habits with new ones. That takes practice.

Evaluate and Readjust

Throughout your life, you will be faced with many obstacles. For this reason, make it a habit to evaluate and readjust as needed. Consider what is working and change what isn’t. There is freedom in the pivot. Your approach to overcoming obstacles will change as you and your children grow and mature.

My prayer is that you can gain insight into the processes you need and learn effective ways to overcome obstacles so that you can move forward. I encourage you to tailor these tips to your specific needs and circumstances. The goal is to equip yourself with skills and tools that you can use when obstacles present themselves.

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Overcoming Rejection

Overcoming rejection is possible when we focus on our emotional actions, mental actions, physical actions, and spiritual actions! I don’t like to be rejected. And chances are you don’t either? Honestly, no one likes to be rejected, but overcoming rejection is a part of life that we must learn to do well. Today, we’ll continue our topic on rejection. Last week, we focused on navigating rejection. While navigating rejection is vital to understanding what is happening in your child, overcoming rejection helps us protect the bond during the healing process.

It is possible to overcome the sting of rejection and experience the joy of restoration.

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Overcoming rejection can be tough, but there are several action steps you can take to heal emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Here are a few suggestions to help you move forward and regain your balance:

To mend these breaks, try to understand the source of rejection. This might take several conversations and sincere prayer, but it does help your hurting hearts mend and see relationships restored. It isn’t easy, but it is worth every step.

Emotional Actions to Overcome Rejection

Understanding these manifestations of rejection is the first step in a long journey of healing and restoration. Verbal rejections cut deep, but they often spring from a place of frustration or a child’s need for autonomy. Physical withdrawal and the pursuit of privacy signal a natural progression towards independence, while criticism and embarrassment reflect their budding self-identity and social consciousness.

Allow Yourself to Feel: Acknowledge your emotions without judgment. It’s okay to feel hurt, disappointed, or frustrated after being rejected. Allowing yourself to truly experience these feelings can actually help us process them more naturally.

Express Your Feelings: Talk about what you’re going through with someone you trust. Expressing your feelings can lighten your emotional load and help you gain insights into your personal experience. Sometimes, just hearing yourself talk can help you understand more about what you need to heal.

Seek Professional Help: If your feelings of rejection are overwhelming, consider talking to a pastor or counselor. They can offer professional guidance to help you work through your emotions constructively.

While all forms of rejection are hurtful, learning to stay focused on your relationship goals will help you overcome the rejection with hope and healing.

Mental Actions to Overcome Rejection

I’ll be honest: being rejected by your child is painful regardless of the type of rejection you experience. The path to restoration is paved with open conversations, where listening is just as critical as talking. It involves acknowledging your child’s feelings without dismissing your own, creating a safe space where vulnerability could lead to understanding.

Challenge Negative Thoughts: Pay attention to and challenge any negative thoughts that arise from rejection. Replace thoughts like “I’m not good enough” with “I am good enough, but this wasn’t the right fit for me.”

Focus on Growth: Use the experience as a catalyst for self-improvement. Whether it’s enhancing skills, expanding your knowledge, or simply cultivating a new mindset, focusing on growth can turn rejection into a stepping stone.

Practice Mindfulness: Engage in mindfulness exercises such as prayer or deep breathing techniques. These practices can help center your thoughts and reduce the rumination often associated with rejection.

While practicing emotional and mental steps to overcoming rejection, there are physical actions your can take that will help you navigate the conflict.

Physical Actions to Overcome Rejection

Stay Active: Engage in regular physical activity. Exercise releases endorphins, which can improve your mood and reduce feelings of stress and sadness.

Maintain a Healthy Routine: Ensure you get enough sleep, eat nutritious foods, and maintain a regular schedule. A healthy body can support a healthy mind, making you more resilient.

Do Something You Love: Engage in hobbies or activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Whether it’s painting, hiking, reading, or cooking, doing things you love can provide a great emotional lift and a positive distraction.

It was through prayer that I found the grace to release my pain and embrace hope, trusting that the strength of our relationship could weather the storms of rejection. God uses the rejection we experience from our children to cause us to read the Word and trust the Lord to help us work through the struggles.

God Will Help You Overcome Rejection

Remember, rejection is a part of life that everyone faces at some point. It’s not a reflection of your worth or capabilities. With these practical steps, you can nurture your relationship and overcome rejection. Someday, you will look back on those moments of heartache and learn to see them not as scars but as landmarks of our journey toward healing.

You might wonder what my relationships with my adult children are like. Well, they are deeper and more profound because of the challenges we’ve overcome. It’s a testament to the faithfulness of the Lord, of the love we cultivated over the years, and the transformative power of forgiveness. And it can be for you, too.

To any parent walking through the shadow of rejection, know that this is not the end of your story. With time, prayer, and a heart willing to heal, what was once broken can be made whole. The journey may be fraught with challenges, but it is also filled with opportunities for growth, understanding, and an even deeper connection with your child. Remember, the echoes of rejection can eventually lead to the harmonies of reconciliation and love.

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