Dealing with Changes – ETB #188

Dealing with changes in life can be difficult. Whether we like it or not, dealing with changes is essential to our personal, spiritual, and professional growth. We learn how to navigate situations by dealing with changes healthily. Instead of trying to avoid changes, we should learn to trust the Lord and embrace them. In this episode, we will address the common reasons that make change seem daunting and learn some ways you can navigate whatever change comes your way.

Why Dealing with Changes is Challenging

While there are many reasons we try to resist change, I want to cover the most common ones and provide ways to help you address them so you can move forward. Fear of the Unknown Habits and Behavior Lack of Motivation Past Failures or Trauma

Fear of the Unknown

Fear of the unknown can be paralyzing. It’s the idea that if you don’t know something, you’re missing out on some important knowledge or experience. Rather than feel paralyzed by this fear, use it as a motivator to learn more and become more comfortable with uncertainty. The uncertainty and predictability of change can be intimidating. And fear of failure can stop us from making changes. What can we do? Face the fear. Ask yourself questions like: What do I need to know? How can I get the answers? We often resist changes because we fear what we don’t know. So we can educate ourselves and list the pros and cons of a decision. Start by gathering information, then set realistic expectations, and ask for help from friends and family members. Part of dealing with changes is removing fear, not avoiding it.

Lack of Motivation

Most of us know change requires effort and can be uncomfortable. Indeed, we can’t predict an outcome or be in control, but that should not be used as an excuse to change. But if we lack motivation to change, we may struggle to try something new or continue making changes once we start. What can we do? Identify a compelling reason or purpose for the change. Understand the benefits it can bring to your life, and set clear, achievable goals. Breaking the change into smaller, manageable steps can also make it feel less overwhelming, increasing motivation.

Habits and Behaviors

People tend to stick to familiar routines and habits, even if they know they don’t serve them well. It’s common, but it is something we can change. With the right help and guidance, it can be easier to break away from old habits and create positive new ones. What to do: Start by identifying the habits that need to change and work on gradually replacing them with new, healthier ones. Consistency and repetition are key to forming new habits. It can be helpful to create reminders, set specific triggers, or enlist the support of friends or professionals to hold you accountable.

Past Failures or Trauma

Previous experiences of failure or trauma related to change can create resistance to trying again. It is important to recognize that change can be scary, and provide ways for people to work through their fears before attempting something new. This could include encouraging them to talk about their traumatic experiences and helping them explore how those experiences have shaped their view of change, especially as it relates to trying new things. What can you do? Talk with a family member or trusted friend. If you don’t get positive results, consider talking to a mental health professional. Mental health professionals such as counselors, social workers, psychologists or psychiatrists can provide talk therapy and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you work through your problems and learn new coping skills.

Dealing with Changes Builds Confidence

It’s important to recognize that these reasons for avoiding change are natural human responses and can be valid in certain contexts. However, addressing and finding ways to manage these concerns is essential for personal growth and will help you gain confidence to embrace new circumstances. It’s also worth noting that while change can be challenging, it often brings new opportunities, personal development, and positive outcomes.