When I read about the Proverbs 31 woman I see a life well lived. For many women, they interpret this passage as something that must be done all in one day or season. Truth is, this describes a woman’s life in totality… not a day.
Let’s begin by defining “consider.”
: to think about carefully in order to make a wise choice or decision
: to take into account to gaze on reflectively
: come to judge or classify
There are, however, key principles a wise woman practices on a daily basis. She… (more…)
A friend once said, “Busy always seems to find you.”
Does busy seem to find you, too?
We hear, “Don’t be too busy now”, or “you’re too busy.” These statements can cause inner turmoil for many. How can someone know if you are too busy? Could it be that we have different callings, drive levels, and interests? What one person feels is too busy may be the perfect balance for someone else. After all, God has equipped us with individual passions, skill sets, and drive.
Busy for the sake of being busy accomplishes little. The key is not so much. Are you too busy, but are you busy with the things God has called you to do? Or are you busy trying to avoid dealing with something in your life? Hurt, conflict, unmet needs, or neglect, maybe? Are you busy chasing after a career or a relationship? (more…)
Many of you have friends or relatives that homeschool, and are perhaps considering it for your own family. Allow me to assist you while I unpack some of the most common questions I am asked:
1) What exactly is homeschooling?
Home education, as defined by Florida law, is “sequentially progressive instruction of a student directed by his or her parent or guardian in order to satisfy the requirements of Statute 1003.21 and 1002.41.” The law is broad, giving parents quite a bit of freedom to direct their child’s education. Children of all ages are home educated across the state, and many are entering college straight from their courses of study at home.
2) How do I legally homeschool in Florida?
Home education is one of five ways to satisfy Florida’s compulsory attendance law. Statute 1003.01 (13) gives parents the choice of achieving regular school attendance through one of these provisions:
• Public school
• Parochial, religious or denominational school
• Nontraditional private school
• Home-education program
• Private tutoring program
Four of these options are in the private sector — ultimately, parents choose the setting, curriculum, opportunities and educational experiences. In all cases, a child turning 6 before February 1 of the school year is subject to compulsory attendance and must attend school regularly the entire term.
Parents who choose to homeschool their children may not realize all the opportunities they have at their disposal. One of the options our family took advantage of was the world of virtual classes, also known as online classes.
When I began our homeschooling journey, my children were young and the lessons were easy to complete. Math could be learned in the kitchen while we baked cookies or in the driveway using sidewalk chalk. Over the years the dynamics changed as my kids grew and I began seeing unique skills, talents and passions emerge that required careful consideration as to what would be the best type of classes for them.
I found many of these needs could be met through online learning. While I could list many reasons to enroll your child in online classes, for me it really boiled down to three:
Peace of mind when I wasn’t comfortable teaching certain subjects.
A different learning environment for my children.
Gave me more time to work with other children who needed me.
The desire to continue homeschooling meant being creative and finding solutions to ever-changing demands. As my children got older there were certain classes I did not feel capable of teaching, like calculus or chemistry, so I searched for options. This search led me to Florida Virtual School. They provided the security of knowing my child would get the teaching needed to achieve our educational goals without me having to figure it out. This was especially helpful with my older son, who was considering pursuing a degree in engineering. The upper-level math classes were outside my comfort zone, but they were a must for this type of career choice. I didn’t want my weakness to hold my child back from learning something that was their strength. Thankfully it doesn’t have to!
Women (like yourself, I presume) have always had to juggle many titles and positions. The various roles we must fill, if not guarded and balanced, can cause us to lose a sense of who we are at our core: uniquely female. Moms who choose to homeschool, a unique role indeed, often run a greater risk of allowing themselves to be defined by what they do and at times are subjected to scrutiny by peers, friends, and even family.
During the different seasons of my life, there have been five things that have helped ensure I remain the woman I was created to be:
Be Intentional
Get to know and understand yourself. Whether you are a wife, mother, homeschooler, volunteer, or business owner, there are certain expectations (job descriptions, if you will) required of you. Although the expectations may be well-founded, problems arise when you realize those expectations might not be what you’re all about. For example: my children, now adults, were recently surprised to learn I do not enjoy cooking. They had no idea! Creating food that could win awards is not something I aspired to. But feeding my family nutritious meals and creating memories required cooking, so I was happy to do it. I was working toward the goal of building a family. Meals times are a big part of that.
Knowing who you really are is the beginning of staying true to yourself. You must discover what you do well and build on that base. Every woman has been given strengths and talents unlike anyone else. Your strengths and talents fit perfectly with the life you get to live and the people you are doing life with. (more…)
