Rest Before the Rush: How to Prepare Your Heart for What’s Ahead is a message I’ve lived, not just learned. Every time a busy season approaches, whether it’s the holidays, a new project, or a demanding family schedule, I feel that familiar pull between wanting to do it all and knowing I need to slow down. Over the years, I’ve discovered that true preparation doesn’t begin with another to-do list. It starts with rest.
As a wife, mom of five, and grandmother who’s weathered more than a few hectic seasons, I’ve learned that rest isn’t weakness, it’s wisdom. When we pause long enough to restore our souls, we gain clarity, peace, and the ability to pour into others from a full heart, not an empty one.
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“Rest isn’t wasted time; it’s the sacred pause that makes room for what matters most.” ~ Connie Albers
The Calm Before the Rush: Why Rest Feels Hard
Before every new season, there’s that moment when you sense life speeding up again. You can almost hear the gears shifting, commitments multiplying, calendars filling, energy thinning. I’ve been there, sitting at my desk surrounded by speaking notes, emails, and laundry piles, realizing I was already exhausted before the rush even began.
Rest feels hard because our culture prizes productivity over peace. We believe if we slow down, we’ll fall behind. But what I’ve discovered is that rest doesn’t pull you backward; it prepares you to move forward with purpose and grace.
Rest is readiness. It’s the sacred pause that allows your spirit to breathe before you give again.
Once we begin to see rest as preparation instead of indulgence, we can start recognizing the subtle signs that our hearts are running on empty.
How to Know When You’re Running on Empty
It’s easy to miss the warning signs of depletion until they spill out in frustration or tears. If you find yourself short-tempered, forgetful, or unable to rest even when you stop moving, that’s your heart waving a white flag. You may crave quiet but feel guilty for wanting it.
I’ve lived that pattern, pushing through exhaustion, convincing myself I could handle it. But the truth is, when we ignore our need for rest, we eventually pay for it in our relationships, our health, and our joy.
Listen to your life. God often whispers through weariness, inviting you to come away and rest in Him.
Once you can name your weariness, you can begin to uncover what’s draining you and start refilling your soul.
Identify What Drains You
Every mom has her unique energy leaks. For some, it’s constant noise or comparison. For others, it’s unrealistic expectations or overcommitting out of guilt.
Take a moment to create an easy Peace Inventory. On one side, list what restores your peace: morning quiet, worship music, time outdoors, laughter with your children. On the other side, list what steals your peace: scrolling social media, clutter, criticism, or trying to control what isn’t yours to carry.
When you see it on paper, the patterns become clear. Awareness helps you protect your peace before it’s gone.
Once you’ve named the drains, it’s time to refill what’s been poured out.
Restore What’s Been Depleted
Restoration isn’t about running away from life; it’s about returning to it renewed. There are many kinds of rest: physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual. Each one matters deeply.
Take short pauses throughout your day—five minutes to breathe, pray, or walk. Protect one evening a week from screens. Say “no” to something so you can say “yes” to peace. Spend time with God without an agenda.
Jesus modeled this for us. Luke 5:16 says, “But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” If even He needed time to withdraw and refocus, how much more do we?
As you begin to restore your heart, you can also prepare your home and routines to reflect that peace.
Preparing Your Heart and Home for the Season Ahead
Preparing for what’s ahead doesn’t mean doing more—it means doing what matters most. Start with prayer. Ask God to show you where to simplify, what to release, and how to make space for peace.
This might mean saying no to extra activities, letting go of perfection, or slowing down long enough to enjoy those around you. When your heart is calm, your home follows.
When you rest before the rush, you show up differently. You respond with patience, lead with gentleness, and bring peace into every room you enter. You become the calm your family needs.
The key is to make rest more than an occasional retreat. It should become a lasting rhythm.
Building Rest Rhythms That Last
Rest isn’t a one-time reset; it’s a rhythm. When you create consistent habits of stillness, your life takes on a steadier, more peaceful flow.
Try building rest rhythms into your days, weeks, and seasons:
Daily: Five quiet minutes to breathe, pray, or reflect.
Weekly: A tech-free night to connect with your family or enjoy solitude.
Seasonally: A weekend of reflection or a simple getaway to reset.
You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight. Small rhythms practiced consistently create big transformations over time.
Once you begin living in rhythm, you’ll naturally create space to reflect and realign with what truly matters.
Final Encouragement: A Season of Renewal
Rest isn’t selfish! It’s sacred. It’s where God restores your strength, renews your vision, and refines your heart for what’s ahead.
Before you move into the next busy stretch, take one small action that restores peace: sit in stillness, pray, or laugh with your family. Remember, you’re not preparing just for tasks, you’re preparing your heart.
Because when you rest before the rush, you don’t just survive the season, you walk through it with grace, peace, and strength that overflows.
As parents, we all want what’s best for our children. But sometimes, without realizing it, we start measuring their progress against someone else’s. Stop Comparing, Start Connecting: How Comparison Damages Self-Worth and What to Do Instead is a reminder that comparison may feel harmless, yet it quietly erodes a child’s confidence, motivation, and joy. The good news? You can stop comparing and start connecting in ways that build up your child’s heart rather than tear it down.
Stop Comparing, Start Connecting: How Comparison Damages Self-Worth and What to Do Instead
“Comparison doesn’t build children; it breaks their confidence. Connection is what shapes their hearts and reminds them they are enough, just as God created them to be.” ~ Connie Albers
The Danger of Comparing Children
Every parent compares at some point; it’s a natural part of human nature. You might think, She’s so much more outgoing than her sister, or He learned to read later than his brother. But even subtle comparisons can shape how your child sees themselves.
When children are compared, they begin to believe they aren’t enough. Over time, this can lead to low self-esteem, resentment toward siblings, and fear of failure. They might start avoiding challenges just to escape the possibility of falling short again.
Instead of inspiring, comparison discourages. It tells a child, “You’ll never be as good as…” rather than, “You are growing beautifully at your own pace.”
Let’s look at why we fall into comparison traps in the first place and what we can do to break free.
Why Parents Fall Into the Comparison Trap
Parents often compare because they love deeply and want to make sure their children are on the right path. But underneath that good intention, a few powerful forces are at work:
Fear of Falling Behind
From test scores to social milestones, parents worry their child might not “keep up.” Fear whispers that if we don’t compare, we’ll miss warning signs. But comparing often replaces encouragement with anxiety. Try this instead: focus on individual growth: ask yourself, “Is my child learning, improving, and becoming more confident?” That’s a healthier measure than how they stack up to others.
Social Pressure and Image
Social media feeds can make it seem like every other child is excelling. But remember: you’re seeing highlight reels, not the hard days. The more we look outward, the less we see what’s right in front of us — our own child’s unique story.
Identity and Reflection
Many parents see their child’s performance as a reflection of their parenting. If the child struggles, we feel we’ve failed. But your worth as a parent isn’t measured by your child’s achievements; it’s reflected in your love, presence, and patience.
Understanding the “why” helps us notice when we’re comparing, but next, let’s identify what that actually looks like in everyday life.
Hidden Ways Parents Compare Without Realizing It
Using Sibling Benchmarks
“You’re almost as good as your sister at math!” Even well-meaning praise can create ranking. Instead, focus on progress: “You’ve improved so much in math this month!”
Highlighting What Others Achieve
“Your cousin already got her license.” Children interpret that as, I’m behind. Replace that with, “You’ll get there soon — let’s practice together.”
Bragging or Posting Comparisons Online
Sharing milestones is natural, but if another child overhears or sees you praise one child more often, they can feel unseen. Balance your words and posts so each child feels celebrated for who they are.
Comparing Struggles
“Your brother never gave me this much trouble.” That statement may shut your child down emotionally. Instead, say, “This stage is tough, but I know we’ll get through it together.”
Even our facial expressions can convey comparison — surprise at one child’s grades, laughter at another’s effort. Awareness is key.
Once we notice these patterns, we can begin replacing comparison with connection.
How to Stop Comparing and Start Connecting
When you shift from comparing to connecting, you give your child something far more valuable than motivation — you give them security. Here are four ways to build connection intentionally:
Focus on Growth, Not Ranking
Instead of measuring success by how they perform compared to others, measure improvement. Say, “You worked really hard on that project!” or “I love seeing you grow in your own way.” Growth-based praise builds resilience and internal motivation — two traits that last a lifetime.
Celebrate Individual Strengths
Every child blooms in their own season. One might be artistic, another analytical. Celebrate their strengths equally by saying, “I love how creative you are,” or “You always find solutions no one else thinks of.” This teaches them that value doesn’t come from sameness but from uniqueness.
Create One-on-One Time
Children thrive on personal attention. Schedule moments with each child — a walk, a trip for ice cream, or simply time to talk. These one-on-one interactions communicate, You matter to me just as you are.
Speak Words of Unconditional Love
Remind your child that your love isn’t tied to grades, trophies, or comparisons. Say it often:
“You are loved for who you are, not for what you do.” Psalm 139:14 beautifully affirms this truth: “I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”
Of course, realizing we’ve compared can sting, but awareness offers a powerful opportunity for healing.
Healing After You’ve Compared
Every parent makes mistakes, and every child needs to see what humility looks like. Repairing the wound starts with honesty and love.
Acknowledge it. “I realize I’ve compared you at times, and I’m sorry.”
Affirm their worth. “You don’t need to be like anyone else. I love who you are.”
Rebuild trust. “I’m learning too, and I’m proud of how you’re growing.”
Children don’t need perfect parents; they need humble parents who are willing to learn and apologize. When you model humility, you teach them grace, both for themselves and for others.
As we move forward, let’s look at how to re-center your mindset on love, not fear.
Parenting From Love, Not Fear
Fear says, “My child might fall behind.” Love says, “My child will flourish in God’s timing.”
Fear compares. Love connects.
When you stop comparing, you start connecting. And connection builds confidence, trust, and joy that last far beyond childhood.
This week, take a moment to reflect:
“Did I compare one child to another — even in tone or body language?” “What could I say differently next time?”
Remember, you’re not just raising kids; you’re shaping hearts.
Final Encouragement
Mom & Dad, you don’t have to get it right all the time. Just start noticing. Replace comparison with curiosity. Instead of asking, “Why aren’t you like them?” ask, “Who are you becoming?”
That small shift opens the door for deeper relationship and lifelong confidence.
As 1 Corinthians 13:4 reminds us,
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy.”
When you stop comparing, you make room for your child to become exactly who God created them to be. And that is exactly what our children need.
Helping Kids Process Tragedy Without Fear begins with parents showing up—not with perfect answers, but with steady presence, listening ears, and hope-filled hearts.
When tragedy strikes, like the recent shooting of Charlie Kirk just a day before the 9/11 anniversaries, parents are left wondering how to explain the world to their children. Do you share the truth? Do you protect them from the news? Or do you simply listen?
The truth is, your children don’t need perfect answers. Instead, they need your presence, your steadiness, and your hope. And the good news is—you can give them that, even in uncertain times.
How to talk to kids about tragedy
“Even in tragedy, you can raise children who are not consumed by fear but anchored in truth, wisdom, and love.” — Connie Albers
Why Parents Matter Right Now
Children are always listening. They hear the whispers, see the headlines, and notice the heaviness in our voices. Unlike when 9/11 happened, today’s kids are flooded with instant updates, opinions, and images on social media.
Because of that constant exposure, your role as a parent matters more than ever. You don’t need to interpret the entire world—you just need to help your child process their world. Your calm presence becomes the anchor they can cling to when everything feels uncertain.
Helping Children Feel Safe After a Tragedy
At the core of every child’s worry is one question: Am I safe?
Offer Reassurance Through Words and Routines
Simple words like “You’re safe here with me, and we’ll walk through this together” go a long way. Pair that with routines—like bedtime stories, prayer, or hugs—that remind your child they are secure.
Reduce Fear By Creating a Safe Haven at Home
Even if the world feels chaotic, your home can be a sanctuary. Shielding children from endless news loops or harsh online comments allows their hearts and minds to heal. And when you intentionally limit exposure to endless news loops or harsh online commentary, you are giving their hearts and minds room to heal.
Listening Without Rushing to Fix
When kids ask tough questions—“Why did this happen?” or “Could it happen to us?”—it’s natural to want to give quick answers. But the most powerful gift is your listening ear. But this is one of those moments where less is more.
Validate Their Feelings
You might say, “It makes sense that you feel sad or scared. I do too.” This simple acknowledgment creates a safe place for children to process emotions.
Without this balance, parenting feels incomplete. And as Ephesians 6:4 reminds us: “Do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” That’s compassion and correction working together.
Show You Take Their Thoughts Seriously
Write down their questions together and promise to revisit them later. This tells your child their voice matters and that you will stay engaged in their concerns. By doing this, you’re showing your child that their voice matters and that they don’t have to carry fear alone.
Teaching Wisdom in Words
Tragedy often sparks heated opinions. Kids see this at school, hear it in conversations, and scroll past it online. That’s why now is the time to teach them how to use their words carefully and wisely.
Model Respectful Dialogue
Teach your children that words can heal or harm. Encourage them to say, “I see it differently, but I respect you.” When children learn to engage in respectful dialogue, they carry hope into divided spaces.
Practice Through Role-Play
Role-play responses with your kids so they’re prepared. If a peer says something cruel online, you can practice together how to respond with calm respect. This not only prepares them for the real world, but it also reduces their anxiety about navigating conflict.
The Social Media Factor
Unlike in 2001, when families gathered around the television, today’s kids carry the news in their pocket. Every swipe can flood them with unfiltered images and opinions.
Guide Children to Choose Wisely
Help your child understand algorithms and how platforms feed outrage to keep them engaged. Teach them they can choose what they consume and that stepping back is healthy.
Pause and Reflect Together
Scroll one post with your child and ask, “How does this make you feel? Is it helpful or harmful?” These conversations teach discernment and emotional awareness. These short conversations may seem small, but they go a long way in teaching discernment and emotional awareness.
Equipping Kids With Faith and Hope
As parents, our role is not just to ease fear—it’s to point our children toward hope. And hope doesn’t mean ignoring the pain; it means helping your kids see that there is always light in the darkness.
Anchor Them in Timeless Truths
Remind them: “God is with us. We can pray. We can be light in the darkness.” These truths steady children in uncertain times.
Create Rhythms of Gratitude
End the day with a “gratitude circle.” At dinner, invite each family member to share one good thing they noticed that day. Gratitude helps hearts heal and builds resilience. By focusing on gratitude, you’re not denying the hardship—you’re teaching your kids to see beyond it.
Final Thoughts
You don’t need to have all the answers or polished words. You simply need to be available. What matters most is that you show up.
When you reassure your child, listen deeply, guide them in wise speech, help them navigate social media, and point them toward faith, you are planting seeds of resilience.
Even in tragedy, you can raise children who are not consumed by fear but anchored in truth, wisdom, and love. And that is the legacy of hope we can leave our children. And that, dear parent, is how you leave a legacy of hope.
In 3 Reasons Moms Choose Home, I explore why more mothers are boldly stepping back from the hustle, reclaiming their time, and redefining what true success looks like for their families.
The world has changed dramatically since Covid, and so have families. Many mothers are quietly yet confidently choosing to spend more time at home. They’ve noticed the impact on their children and are no longer willing to outsource every part of family life. In this episode of Equipped To Be, I share three key reasons why moms are stepping back, adjusting schedules, or seeking more work flexibility, and why their choices matter to the well-being of their children.
I remember sitting at my kitchen table during the early days of the Covid pandemic, praying for my children and wondering if they would be okay. That moment opened my eyes to just how much they needed me, not just to manage the household, but to truly be available. I wasn’t the only mom who felt this shift. Since then, countless mothers have begun reevaluating what matters most.
Why More Moms Are Choosing To Be Home
As moms look closer at the changing world around them, one reality becomes impossible to ignore: trust in the very institutions we once depended on is rapidly declining.
Trust in Institutions Has Declined
For decades, parents relied on schools, programs, and outside organizations to provide structure and support. However, trust in those institutions has weakened. A recent Gallup survey revealed that confidence in public schools has dropped to its lowest level in history. Many schools have broken their promise to teach children the 3 Rs. Mothers see firsthand when promises aren’t kept or when children’s needs aren’t fully met, and they are unwilling to ignore those warning signs.
As a result, many mothers are deciding that the safest and most reliable place for their children is right at home. And it is a beautiful thing!
Children don’t need a perfect mom; they need a present mom.
And when moms begin to notice cracks in the systems around them, they naturally turn their attention to what’s happening inside their own home, which leads us to the next point.
Children’s Well-Being Is Suffering
One thing moms know better than anyone else is how their children are really doing. Anxiety, stress, and even loneliness have become common in kids of all ages. According to the CDC, 42% of high school students reported persistent feelings of sadness or hopelessness in 2023, a staggering increase over the past decade.
Mothers sense the subtle signs, trouble sleeping, lack of focus, or emotional outbursts. So they’re cutting back hours or rearranging schedules to be more present. Moms want to strengthen relationships, create stability, and provide steady guidance that their kids desperately need. Afterall, it is our job as mothers.
Simple Ways to Be More Present Without Quitting Work:
Create a tech-free dinner hour once a day,or daily.
Block off one morning or afternoon each week just for your kids.
Replace one outside activity with a family rhythm, like walking, reading, or cooking together.
When mothers begin to make these intentional adjustments, it naturally raises an important question: What does success really look like? That brings us to the third reason.
Redefining Family Success
Success used to be measured by promotions, paychecks, and busy calendars. Today, more families are recognizing that true success is found in connection, presence, and long-term influence. Moms are reshaping the conversation by choosing a slower pace, reclaiming time at home, and redefining what matters most. This is a pracitice I’ve had done many time over the course of raising children and one that, I beleive, keeps our realtionships close.
By making this choice, they are modeling for their children that relationships, health, and faith can take priority over constant achievement.
Your presence is not just helpful—it’s transformative.
This cultural shift is more than a passing trend; it’s a powerful reminder that the role of mothers at home is both valuable and necessary.
Final Thoughts
If you’ve been wondering whether you should scale back or create more space at home, you’re not alone. Thousands of moms are making similar decisions. And while no choice is one-size-fits-all, the truth remains: your presence matters, your influence is irreplaceable, and your decision to be home can create lasting impact in your child’s life.
For more on this topic, listen to the full Equipped To Be podcast episode, 3 Reasons Moms Choose Home. Share this article with a friend who needs encouragement, or download the free quick guide I’ve created: “3 Reasons Moms Choose Home—What It Means for Families Today.”
The Pros, Cons, and Everyday Truths of Using AI that will help you. Life, as we know it, is changing faster than we can keep up.
From writing emails to helping with homework, AI tools like ChatGPT have quickly become part of everyday life. If you’re in your thirties, you’re probably noticing how often people around you are turning to AI, and maybe you’re experimenting with it yourself. But while the benefits are real, so are the pitfalls.
The Surprising Truths About Using AI
Artificial intelligence isn’t just a buzzword anymore; it’s a daily reality. Let’s explore the how and why behind AI use. And walk through the pros, cons, and a few tips to help you use it wisely.
Why People Under 35 Are Turning to AI
Younger generations are adopting AI at a rapid rate. Did you know that nearly half of adults under 35 have used tools like ChatGPT, Google’s Gemini, and X Grok in the past month? The reasons are clear:
Convenience: It saves time with everyday tasks.
Accessibility: Answers are available 24/7 without waiting for a person.
Creativity: AI sparks new ideas for work, family, and personal projects in less time.
Whether it’s drafting a quick work email, planning meals, or even helping kids study, AI has become a trusted companion. However, just because people are using it more doesn’t mean it should replace critical thinking or asking others for advice. That’s where the conversation shifts: from why people use AI to what it can and can’t do well.
The Pros of Using AI in Everyday Life
When used well, AI can feel like having an extra set of hands that helps you save time, spark creativity, and make everyday tasks more manageable.
When AI works effectively, it can assist with various tasks. With a single prompt, it can:
Save hours by drafting documents or summarizing research
Clarify complex topics so you can understand them quickly
Brainstorm creative ideas when you’re stuck
Offer a neutral sounding board for decision-making
For busy thirty-somethings juggling work, family, and personal goals, these benefits are game-changing. Yet even as we enjoy the upside, it’s important to look at the other side of the coin.
The Cons You Can’t Ignore
AI doesn’t always get it right. I know this from experience. I once relied on AI to verify some research I was doing. It sounded confident, but the information turned out to be completely wrong. That was a humbling reminder that confidence doesn’t equal accuracy.
Some of the most common pitfalls include:
Misinformation: Outdated or incorrect answers stated as fact.
Lack of nuance: Missing the human touch in sensitive situations.
Overreliance: Outsourcing too much thinking to a tool.
Privacy risks: Sharing personal or sensitive data without realizing the implications.
Because of these risks, it’s critical to move from blind trust toward intentional use. That leads us to the practical side: how to use AI wisely.
Truths for Using AI Wisely
AI can be one of the most helpful tools in your daily life, but only if you use it thoughtfully. Too often, people either lean on it too heavily or trust it without question. To avoid those traps, here are four strategies that will help you make AI work for you instead of against you.
Always Fact Check
AI can sound incredibly confident even when it’s completely wrong. That’s why every answer it gives should be treated as a first draft or a launching point. If you’re quoting statistics, referencing a study, or sharing advice with others, take the extra step to confirm the details with reliable sources, whether that’s a trusted website, an official report, or a professional in the field. Think of AI like that enthusiastic friend who always has an answer. You appreciate their input, but you double-check before acting on it.
Use AI for Ideas, Not Decisions
AI can be fantastic for brainstorming, whether you’re stuck on a budget tracker, planning a family trip, or needing new ways to explain a math concept to your child. It can offer fresh perspectives you may not have considered. But the actual decision-making still belongs to you. Only you bring life experience, values, and discernment to the table. Let AI spark creativity, but keep yourself in the driver’s seat when it comes to choices that affect your life, family, or work.
Protect Your Privacy
It’s easy to forget that AI tools don’t operate in a vacuum. The information you type in may be stored, analyzed, or used to improve systems, and that means sensitive details could end up in places you don’t intend. Avoid sharing things like banking information, personal medical records, or identifying details about your children. As a rule of thumb, if you wouldn’t want it written on a public whiteboard, don’t paste it into AI.
Using AI wisely also means setting healthy boundaries with your data.
Teach Your Kids Safe AI Use
For many kids, AI feels like an easy button answer machine. But without guidance, they may copy responses word-for-word or accept incorrect information as truth. Use their curiosity as a teaching moment.
Sit with them, ask them to explain why an answer makes sense (or doesn’t), and show them how to cross-check information with books, teachers, or trusted resources.
By modeling safe, critical use of AI, you equip your children with skills they’ll carry into adulthood—discernment, responsibility, and integrity.
Final Thoughts: AI as a Tool, Not a Teacher
So, is AI a friend or a foe? Honestly, it depends on how you use it. When we combine its strengths with our wisdom, AI can be a powerful tool. But when we hand over too much trust, it can lead us astray.
Here’s what I’d love from you: share this episode with someone in your life who’s curious—or maybe even skeptical—about AI. Start a conversation. Because the truth is, we’re all figuring this out together.
And remember, no matter how advanced AI gets, nothing can replace the wisdom, creativity, and heart you bring to your own life.
Easing Back-to-School Anxiety: Helping Your Child Start the Year with Confidence and Peace
Every year around this time, I hear from moms who are quietly carrying a load of worry. Back-to-school season is supposed to be exciting—a fresh start, new supplies, big hopes. But behind the Instagram-worthy first day photos is often a child who’s feeling anxious, and a parent who doesn’t quite know how to help.
Whether your child is heading to school for the first time or making the jump to a new grade or environment, the emotional transition can be bumpy. They may not know how to say it, but their little hearts are full of big questions:
Will I make friends? Will I fall behind? Will I be safe? Will everything be different?
Easing Back To School Anxiety
Let’s walk through some of the most common back-to-school worries children face—and how you can ease their anxiety with intentional conversations, reassurance, and faith-led parenting.
1. Fitting In: Identity and Belonging
At the heart of every child is a desire to belong. Fitting in at school isn’t just about wearing the right shoes or having the trendy backpack—it’s about being seen, accepted, and liked for who they are.
But what if your child doesn’t feel like they belong?
That fear can show up as hesitation, withdrawal, or acting out. It’s important to remind your child that their value isn’t based on popularity or being the center of the group. They don’t have to change who they are to be liked.
💡 Try this: Role-play with your child what to say when meeting new people. Teach them to smile, ask questions, and look for someone else who might be sitting alone. When they focus on including others, they often find the confidence to step out of their own shell.
Faith reminder: Psalm 139:14 tells us they are “fearfully and wonderfully made.”
Help them own that truth.
2. Not Knowing the Information: Fear of Falling Behind
Another hidden trigger of back-to-school anxiety is the fear of not knowing the material. Maybe they didn’t grasp a concept last year. Maybe they feel “behind” other kids. Or maybe they’re simply nervous that they won’t understand the teacher.visions of smiling children and perfect weather.
This fear is more common than you think—especially in kids who are quiet or perfectionists.
Ease their mind by explaining that the first few weeks of school are typically a review. Teachers don’t expect students to know everything from day one. What matters most is having a willingness to learn and the courage to ask for help.
💡Try this: Help them come up with phrases they can say when they’re confused, like “Can you explain that again?” or “I’m not sure I understand yet.” Give them permission to be a learner.
3. Fear of Change: When the Unknown Feels Too Big
Change, even good change, can make kids feel unsteady. A new school, teacher, routine, or even classroom can trigger uncertainty.
Children thrive on predictability, so when everything feels new, it’s no surprise they may act more clingy, moody, or anxious.
Instead of rushing them to “just get over it,” try to give them a sense of what to expect. Walk them through their schedule. Visit the school if possible. Create a consistent morning and after-school rhythm so their brain doesn’t feel overwhelmed by unpredictability.
💡 Try this: Start a back-to-school countdown with small daily activities that build excitement and prepare them emotionally.
Faith reminder: Hebrews 13:8 says, “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.” In a world of change, He is their constant.
4. Safety: Physical and Emotional Protection
Let’s be honest—safety has taken center stage in every parent’s mind. Whether it’s bullying, school violence, or emotional distress, we want to know our children are protected when we’re not with them.
But safety isn’t just about locked doors and drills—it’s also about emotional security.
Talk with your child about who they can go to for help if something feels wrong. Help them name their emotions, recognize red flags, and know that no question is too silly or sm
💡 Try this: Create a “Safe Person Plan” with your child: a list of trusted adults they can go to if something feels off—at school, church, or on the bus.
Also, reassure them that while you may not be physically with them, you’re praying for them, cheering for them, and ready to listen every time they come home. This also applies when you leave your children at home while you run some errands. Children need to know what ot do in “what if” scenarios.
Final Thoughts: You’re Their Safe Place
At the end of the day, back-to-school anxiety is a normal human response to change and growing up. Your child doesn’t need a perfect start; they need a peaceful presence. And that’s you!
You are the constant in their changing world. The safe place they come home to. The one who believes in them when they’re unsure of themselves.
So as you shop for notebooks and plan lunch menus, take time to speak life into their hearts. Remind them that new beginnings can be beautiful, and a little bravery goes a long way.
You’ve got this, mama. And more importantly, God’s got them.
