Did you know up to 70% of college students experience homesickness during their first few months of school? It’s true. Today, we are focusing on Helping Homesick College Kids find their way without bringing them home.
Are you a parent with a child who’s just started college—or maybe you’re about to send them off? First off, this is such a big moment, not just for your child but for you, too. The house feels a little quieter, and your heart likely feels all sorts of emotions. And so is your child. So, when we get a call from our distraught college kid asking to come home, we aren’t always sure what to do. Today, I’ll share some practical tips and a few personal stories and hopefully give you the reassurance that everything you’re child is feeling is completely normal.
It’s common for college students to feel homesick, especially in the first few weeks of school. And many kids are so overwhelmed they want to quit school and come back home. And as parents, it can tug at our hearts. But, before we say yes, there are some ways we can help them find their way without coming home.
Helping Homesick College Kids Adjust to College Life
Understanding What is Really Going On
Why did your child go from being excited to wanting to go home? While there are many reasons, the most common ones are fear of the unknown, nervousness, and anxiety. They left what was familiar and comfortable. They don’t know anyone, they don’t know their way around, and they don’t know their professors. The newness of everything can overwhelm some kids, causing them to think they’ve made a big mistake.
Rather than immediately letting them come home, parents can gently encourage their child to stick it out for a bit longer, like until the end of the first semester. This will help them gain confidence in their ability to handle new situations and grow into independence.
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Five Ways to Help College Kids FInd Their Way
Encourage your child to maintain strong connections with family and friends back home by scheduling regular video calls or sending thoughtful messages. These moments of connection can provide comfort and remind them that they have a support system rooting for them, no matter how far away they are.
Additionally, consider sending care packages filled with their favorite snacks, photos, or small items that remind them of home. These little gestures can bring a sense of familiarity and warmth, helping to ease the feelings of homesickness and reinforcing the bond they have with their loved ones.
Establish a Comforting Routine
Encourage your child to build a daily routine that feels comforting and familiar, something that can anchor them in this new chapter of their life. It might be as simple as starting their day with a cup of coffee just like they did at home, taking a few minutes to enjoy a hobby that brings them joy, or ending the day by watching a favorite show or reading a book. These small, everyday rituals can create a sense of stability and make the college experience feel a little less overwhelming, helping them find their footing in a new environment.
Stay Connect to Home
Encourage your child to maintain strong connections with family and friends back home by scheduling regular video calls or sending thoughtful messages. These moments of connection can provide comfort and remind them that they have a support system rooting for them, no matter how far away they are.
Additionally, consider sending care packages filled with their favorite snacks, photos, or small items that remind them of home. These little gestures can bring a sense of familiarity and warmth, helping to ease the feelings of homesickness and reinforcing the bond they have with their loved ones.
Encourage Social Connections
Remind your child that getting involved on campus can help them feel more at home. Joining a club, playing intramural sports, and participating in a study group can be a great way to meet new friends and build a support system. We are created for community and relationships and getting involved is an excellent way to do ease homesickness.
Find Local Support
If your child is struggling to find their way, encourage them to ask for help and find a church they can plugged into. Asking for help might make your child feel uncomfortable, but if you remind them that colleges pay people to advise and help kids just like your child, they will make them feel less self-conscious about asking for help.
By all means, try not to make your child feel like something is wrong with them. Keep it matter-of-fact. I would even suggest you do a little research and send your child some links or phone numbers to make it easier for your child to contact others.
Pracitical Self-care
College kids tend to forget about getting enough sleep, eating right, managing time, and exercising. We can gently remind them how necessary self-care is by suggesting simple mindfulness practices, like taking deep breaths or writing in a journal when they’re feeling overwhelmed. Doing some physical activity, like going for a walk or doing a workout, can also help them release stress and boost their mood. This will help them keep the proper perspective of this season of life.
Wrapping It Up
Don’t forget your child is moving towards something new, which isn’t always easy. As much as we might want to swoop in and rescue them, we must pray about what is best for our child.
Pray before saying yes to moving back. Pray about how much you help them and how you help them.
The emotional journey parents and college students face when dealing with homesickness during the first few months away from home is real, and common. I pray God gives you wisdom as you help your young adult navigate this season of change well.
In today’s increasingly connected world, it’s nearly impossible to shield our children from political discourse. As parents, our role is to equip our kids with the tools to navigate Political Conversations with Kids Part 2 respectfully and confidently. In Part 1 of our series, we explored why political conversations matter and how to prepare your child for these discussions. In this second part, I’ll share how to handle political conversations with friends, navigate family gatherings, and encourage ongoing political conversations with your kids in the safety of your home.
Handling Political Conversations with Friends
Respect and Understanding
When it comes to politics, our kids are going to encounter different opinions, especially among their friends. It’s so important for them to learn that while we don’t always have to agree with others, we do need to respect their viewpoints. Encourage your child to listen first and think before responding. This simple approach can make all the difference in keeping conversations friendly and open. Remind them that it’s perfectly okay to say, “I see your point, but I think differently,” rather than brushing off someone else’s opinion. By teaching respect and understanding, we’re helping them build strong, compassionate relationships—even when opinions differ.
Peer Pressure
We all know how impact peer pressure can be, especially when politics enter the mix. We simply must prepare our kids for those moments when they might feel the urge to go along with their friends just to fit in.
When we talk about ways kids can stand firm in their beliefs while still being kind and respectful. Encourage them to use phrases like, “I think we just see this differently, and that’s okay,” to gracefully handle these situations. By building their confidence, we empower them to stay true to themselves, even when peer pressure is at its peak.
Real Life Political Conversations with Your Kids
To make these lessons stick, share a story from your own life or someone you know who successfully navigated a political conversation with a friend.
Real-life examples are powerful—they make the lessons more relatable and show our kids that it’s possible to stand firm in your beliefs while keeping your friendships intact.
Navigating Family Gatherings
Encouraging children to ask questions and think critically about political issues is vital. Teach them to evaluate information, consider different perspectives, and form their own opinions. Provide examples of questions they can ask, such as “Why do people have different opinions on this issue?” or “How does this law affect our community?” Role-playing scenarios where they practice discussing these questions can build their confidence and understanding.
Setting Boundaries for Political Conversations with Children
Family gatherings can be a mixed bag, especially when politics come up. It’s important to talk with your child about setting boundaries for these discussions. You might agree as a family to steer clear of politics during meals or certain family events. Setting these boundaries ahead of time can prevent uncomfortable situations and help everyone enjoy their time together. After all, gatherings should be about connection and fun, not about heated debates.
Dealing with Heated Discussions
Even with boundaries in place, sometimes political conversations can get a little heated. Teach your child how to stay calm and collected if things start to escalate. Practicing how to respond to intense comments can be incredibly helpful. Let them know it’s okay to step away from a conversation if it becomes too much. Simple phrases like, “Let’s agree to disagree,” or “Maybe we should take a break from this topic,” can be lifesavers in diffusing tension and keeping the peace.
Encouraging Ongoing Conversations
One of the best things we can do as parents is create a safe space at home and stay informed about these conversations. Let your child know that your home is a judgment-free zone where they can share their thoughts and questions without fear of being judged. This kind of environment encourages them to explore their ideas and engage in meaningful, thoughtful discussions.
Wrapping it Up
Talking about politics with our kids is an ongoing conversation that requires patience, understanding, and a commitment to open dialogue. By teaching them how to handle political discussions with friends, set boundaries during family gatherings, and keep the conversation going at home, we’re helping them grow into thoughtful, informed, and respectful individuals. Remember, these conversations aren’t just about politics—they’re about preparing our kids to navigate the complexities of the world with confidence and care.
Engaging in political conversations with kids can seem daunting, but it’s an important part of raising informed, thoughtful children. Guiding your kids in political discussions helps them understand the world around them and prepares them for their future roles as active citizens. In this first part of our series, I’ll explain why helping our children navigate political conversations matters and how to prepare your child for these important discussions.
In our fast-paced world, our kids are constantly seeing and hearing political news. As parents, it’s so important for us to help them understand what’s going on around them. By talking about politics in the home, we’re not just teaching them about their rights and responsibilities as citizens; we’re also helping them develop critical thinking skills. These skills are essential for making wise decisions throughout their lives. For example, when we explain why voting matters and how civic participation works, we’re setting the stage for them to become informed and engaged adults.
I remember one family dinner when Tom and I were discussing who we were going to vote for in an upcoming election. My ten-year-old, with that curious look in his eyes, asked, “Why is voting so important?” It was one of those moments where I realized the impact of our everyday conversations. We talked about how every vote helps choose leaders who make decisions affecting our community, like funding for schools and maintaining parks. This simple discussion sparked his curiosity about how things work and made him feel more confident and informed. I was delighted to see his interest grow right before my eyes. This was the beginning of many political conversations I had with my kids.
Preparing Your Children for Political Conversations
Age-Appropriate Political Conversations
When discussing politics with children, it’s essential to tailor the conversation to their age. Younger children need simple explanations, while older kids can handle more complex discussions. For instance, explaining voting to a six-year-old might involve comparing it to choosing a favorite ice cream flavor, whereas, with teenagers, you can explain the mechanics of elections and the impact of policies on their lives.
How to Simplify Complex Topics for Younger Kids
One of the biggest challenges in discussing politics with young children is simplifying complex topics. Breaking down information into smaller, understandable pieces can make a big difference. Use analogies and examples from their daily lives to explain difficult concepts. For example, you can describe taxes as a piggy bank where everyone puts in money to help pay for things everyone uses, like parks and schools. Visual aids like drawings and charts can also be incredibly helpful in making these ideas more tangible.
Political Conversations Teach Kids Critical Thinking
Encouraging children to ask questions and think critically about political issues is vital. Teach them to evaluate information, consider different perspectives, and form their own opinions. Provide examples of questions they can ask, such as “Why do people have different opinions on this issue?” or “How does this law affect our community?” Role-playing scenarios where they practice discussing these questions can build their confidence and understanding.
Role-Playing Scenarios
Practice makes perfect, and role-playing political conversations can be a fun and educational activity. Create scenarios where your child can practice discussing political topics respectfully and thoughtfully. This helps them prepare for real-life conversations and teaches them how to handle disagreements constructively.
Wrapping it Up
Engaging children in political conversations is a rewarding endeavor that prepares them for future civic engagement. By discussing why these conversations matter and how to approach them appropriately, we lay the groundwork for informed, responsible citizens. Stay tuned for Part 2, where we’ll delve into how children can handle political conversations with friends and family. Remember, these discussions are not just about understanding politics; they’re about fostering empathy, critical thinking, and active participation in our communities.
In a world that often feels disconnected, it’s crucial to teach belonging to your children. A strong sense of belonging is a feeling and a vital part of a child’s emotional and psychological development. When children feel they belong, they grow up with the confidence, security, and resilience needed to navigate life’s challenges.
At the heart of belonging is wanting to know who wants me. But it’s deeper than who wants you; it’s who wants you for who you are. Not for what you can give them but how you make them feel. During this episode, I will share practical tips to help you foster a sense of belonging to your children. So, grab a smoothie, relax, and pay close attention to what you can do to teach belonging and how our children will benefit from us taking the time to build connections your children will hold on to beyond the years of living at home.
Easy-to-Apply Techniques for Everyday Life
Incorporating simple practices into your daily routine can significantly enhance your child’s sense of belonging. Start with small, consistent actions that show love and appreciation. For example, make it a point to share meals together as often as possible. Use these times to talk about your day, share stories, and laugh together. Additionally, create small rituals, like bedtime stories or weekend outings, that your children can look forward to. Though seemingly minor, these moments build a strong foundation of connection and security.
Supporting Children Through Challenges Transitions and challenges are inevitable in life, but a strong sense of belonging can help children navigate these times with resilience. Be there for your children during difficult moments, providing consistent support and comfort. Let them know that the family is a safe haven where they can find solace and strength. This consistent support reinforces their sense of belonging and teaches them the value of familial bonds.
Before we talk about nurturing a creative child, you need to know how they think, feel, and experience the world. If you take time to learn some simple characteristics, you’ll enjoy the rewards of watching them grow and develop their craft.
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The Importance of Belonging
Belonging is more than just a warm, fuzzy feeling. It’s a cornerstone of emotional security. Children who feel they belong are more likely to develop a positive self-image and higher self-esteem. They also tend to perform better academically and have healthier social interactions. When you nurture a sense of belonging, you’re setting your child up for long-term confidence and joy.
3 Practical Steps to Foster Belonging
Creating a sense of belonging within the family is essential for a child’s emotional and psychological development. When our children feel deeply connected and valued at home, they are more likely to develop confidence, security, and resilience. By integrating practical steps into your daily routine, you can foster an environment where your children feel loved, understood, and important. Here are some simple yet effective strategies to help you build a strong sense of belonging in your family. I list several practical ways you can cultivate belonging in your children in the podcast, but below are three I want to focus on.
Quality Time: Spend regular, intentional time with your children. Engage in activities that they enjoy and that promote family bonding. This shows them that they are valued and matter.
Family Traditions: Establish and maintain family traditions. These rituals create a sense of continuity and shared experience, reinforcing the family bond.
Open Communication: Encourage open and honest communication within the family. Ensure your children feel heard and understood, which helps them feel like integral parts of the family unit.
By incorporating these practical steps into your daily life, you create a nurturing and supportive environment where your children can thrive. Fostering a sense of belonging enriches their present lives and equips them with the emotional tools they need for the future. Remember, your daily small, consistent actions can make a significant difference in your child’s sense of security and connectedness. Let’s work together to build strong family bonds and create a home where every member feels valued and integral.
Creating a Supportive Environment
Creating a supportive environment for your children means more than just providing for their physical needs. It involves fostering emotional security and open communication. This environment helps children feel safe and valued, which is essential for their overall well-being. For instance, make it a habit to have regular family meetings where everyone can express their thoughts and feelings. These meetings can be a powerful tool in making each family member feel included and important. How you create this environment will be unique to your family.
Easy-to-Apply Techniques for Everyday Life
Incorporating simple practices into your daily routine can significantly enhance your child’s sense of belonging. Start with small, consistent actions that show love and appreciation. For example, make it a point to share meals together as often as possible. Use these times to talk about your day, share stories, and laugh together. Additionally, create small rituals, like bedtime stories or weekend outings, that your children can look forward to. Though seemingly minor, these moments build a strong foundation of connection and security.
Supporting Children Through Challenges Transitions and challenges are inevitable in life, but a strong sense of belonging can help children navigate these times with resilience. Be there for your children during difficult moments, providing consistent support and comfort. Let them know that the family is a safe haven where they can find solace and strength. This consistent support reinforces their sense of belonging and teaches them the value of familial bonds.
By teaching your children belonging, you enrich their lives and equip them with the emotional tools they need for the future. These strategies and practices help build a nurturing environment where children can thrive, knowing they are a valued part of something bigger than themselves.
Have you considered AI’s impact on students? Is artificial intelligence going to be the future classroom for students’ education? How will this cutting-edge technology intersect with education? In our latest episode, I discuss the Pros and Cons of AI and how it impacts students’ learning. Is AI a powerful ally in personalized education, or is it a silent saboteur undermining critical thinking and creativity?
Join us as we unpack the pros and cons of AI in the classroom, featuring insights from educators, tech experts, and students themselves. Discover how AI is reshaping the way we learn, the potential pitfalls we must navigate, and the future of education in an AI-driven world. Tune in and get ready to consider the role of AI in your child’s education.
If you are like me, I’m not excited by the rate at which AI has taken over nearly every sector of our online world. It concerns me. What will happen to our children? Will they be negatively impacted? Are they being dumbed down? To be honest, there are pros and cons when it comes to using AI in education.
In this honest look at raising boys, we lay out essential principles for raising boys to become godly, responsible men of integrity, honesty, and determination. We share invaluable insights and practical wisdom gleaned from years of experience mentoring and guiding young men toward a fulfilling life filled with meaning and purpose.
The Promise of AI in Education
AI has been hailed as a game-changer in the educational landscape, promising to revolutionize the way students learn. Here are a few ways AI is making a positive impact:
Personalized Learning: AI can tailor educational content to each student’s learning pace and style, offering a more customized learning experience. Imagine a classroom where every student has a personal tutor that understands their strengths and weaknesses.
Accessibility: AI tools can make education more accessible to students with disabilities by providing features like text-to-speech, speech-to-text, and language translation. This opens up new possibilities for inclusive education.
Efficient Study Aid: AI can help students quickly find information, summarize content, and provide instant feedback, making studying more efficient. It’s like having a research assistant at your fingertips.
The Pitfalls of AI in Education
But wait, it’s not all smooth sailing. The integration of AI in education also comes with its set of challenges:
Over-reliance: Students might become too dependent on AI tools, which could hinder their ability to think critically and solve problems independently. Are we nurturing a generation of thinkers or button-pressers?
Privacy Concerns: Using AI often involves sharing personal data, which can raise concerns about data security and privacy. How do we ensure that our children’s information is protected? But like all online platforms, we must read the terms of service and ensure our children are protected.
Equity Issues: Not all students have equal access to advanced AI technologies, potentially widening the educational gap between different socioeconomic groups. How do we ensure that AI benefits all students equally?
Conclusion
As we navigate the uncharted waters of AI in education, it’s crucial to weigh its benefits against its potential drawbacks. Carefully consider what is right for your child and your family.
Together, we can ensure that AI serves as a tool for enhancing learning rather than hindering it.
Don’t miss out on this thought-provoking episode. Listen now, and let’s explore the future of education together!
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Do you wonder how to raise boys to become strong, godly men? Men who will one day lead their family, a company, a community, or maybe even a country? Raising boys to be risk-takers, adventurers, innovators, and creative is hard when we live in a culture that does more to confuse boys than help them.
This topic was so popular that I decided to re-air Raising Boys with Mark Hancock of Trail Life USA.
How can we raise boys to be men when society has lost its way? As a mom of three boys, I understand how important raising boys is to our society’s future. That’s why I invited Mark Hancock, CEO of Trial Life USA, to join me to share what parents, grandparents, coaches, and ministry leaders can do.
Too many boys are turning to virtual worlds of television, video games, digital media, and the internet to find realms they can conquer and areas where they can excel. The result of this virtual conquest is often apathy, apparent rebellion, or outright resistance to real-world challenges. But you can shape and guide your boys in their journey of becoming a man.
In this honest look at raising boys, we lay out essential principles for raising boys to become godly, responsible men of integrity, honesty, and determination. We share invaluable insights and practical wisdom gleaned from years of experience mentoring and guiding young men toward a fulfilling life filled with meaning and purpose.
Raising Boys of Integrity and Honesty
Lead by Example: Boys learn a great deal from observing the behavior of adults, particularly their parents and other influential figures. Model honesty and integrity in your own actions and interactions. Be transparent about your own mistakes and demonstrate how to take responsibility and make amends when necessary. By consistently embodying these values, you provide a powerful example for boys to emulate.
Encourage Open Communication: Foster an environment of open communication where boys feel safe to express themselves honestly and without fear of judgment. Encourage them to openly share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences and actively listen to what they have to say. Engage in discussions about moral dilemmas, ethical decision-making, and the importance of honesty in relationships. Promoting open dialogue creates opportunities for boys to develop a deeper understanding of integrity and honesty and how these values apply to various aspects of their lives.
Navigating Challenges in Today’s Culture
Boys need to develop determination and resilience by setting achievable goals and persistently working towards them. To support this, we guide them in breaking down larger goals into smaller, manageable tasks, and we celebrate their progress along the way. By encouraging a growth mindset, we help them view challenges as opportunities for growth rather than obstacles to success. Instilling a sense of purpose and direction enables boys to stay focused and resilient, even when faced with setbacks.
Promote Resilience and Problem-Solving Skills: Equip boys with resilience and problem-solving skills to effectively navigate challenges in today’s culture. Encourage them to view setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning. Teach them coping strategies for managing stress, adversity, and peer pressure, such as deep breathing, positive self-talk, and seeking support from trusted adults. By fostering resilience and problem-solving skills, parents empower boys to face challenges with confidence, adaptability, and perseverance.
Raising Boys to Godly Men
Boys need a father or fatherlike figure in their lives to look up to and show them what it means to be a man. Study after study backs that up. Boys learn how to be persistent by providing supportive feedback and encouragement.
Boys need to develop determination and resilience by setting achievable goals and persistently working towards them. We guide them in breaking down larger goals into smaller, manageable tasks and celebrate their progress along the way. Encouraging a growth mindset helps them view challenges as opportunities for growth rather than obstacles to success. By instilling a sense of purpose and direction, boys learn to stay focused and resilient, even when faced with setbacks
We need to offer boys supportive feedback and encouragement to foster determination and resilience. Recognize their efforts and progress, emphasizing their strengths and resilience in overcoming obstacles. Encourage them to reflect on their experiences, identify lessons learned, and celebrate their achievements, no matter how small. By providing a nurturing and affirming environment, boys develop the confidence and resilience to persevere through difficulties and pursue their goals with determination.
About Mark Hancock
Mark T. Hancock began his career founding an advertising agency that grew to national prominence over fifteen years. His conversion to Christ led him into ministry as a Youth and College Pastor, Associate Pastor, Homeless Ministry Director, and Global Event Director for an international ministry, organizing events on five continents.
An author, award-winning writer, and conference speaker, he serves as Chief Executive Officer of Trail Life USA and lives near Greenville, SC, with his wife of over 30 years. They have two sons.
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