When teens stop liking their parents, it hurts. Do you know what I mean? Have you ever looked into your teenager’s eyes and felt like a stranger? As a mom, nothing stings quite like realizing that the child who once clung to you now seems to tolerate your presence barely.
It’s a heartbreaking shift that leaves many of us feeling lost, questioning our worth, and wondering where we went wrong. But take heart—you are not alone in this struggle. While it may feel like the bond you once had is slipping away, there is hope and a path forward to healing and understanding.
When your teenager seems to push you away or act like they don’t like you, it’s easy to feel hurt and react out of frustration or fear. However, there are some key things you should avoid doing during these challenging times to prevent further damage to the relationship. Here are five actions to steer clear of that can help keep the door open for healing and connection, even when it feels like your teen is shutting you out.
What To Do When Teens Stop Liking Their Parents
Acknowledge the Hurt
Acknowledge the deep emotional pain and confusion that come when a child who was once so close becomes distant. Although this phase may feel overwhelming and never-ending, it’s important to remember that it’s just that—a phase. With patience, understanding, and a steady hand, you and your teenager can navigate this season and emerge with a stronger, more resilient bond.
It’s okay to feel down, but you can’t stay down. God is in control and continues to work all things out for His good and His glory.
What You Need To Know?
Understanding the Teenage Mindset
Humanizing the Pain: A Mom’s Perspective
Practical Steps to Take
Finding Support
Holding on to Hope
Understand A Teens Mindset
To make it through these tough moments, it helps to step into your teen’s shoes and understand what they’re really going through. The teenage years are a rollercoaster of emotions, independence, and self-discovery. By understanding their mindset, you can approach them with more empathy and patience, helping to keep your connection strong, even when things feel rough.
Hormonal and Developmental Changes: Hormone changes and brain development can affect a teenager’s mood and behavior. The hard part for parents is that many teens don’t fully understand what is happening to their bodies, which makes communication much more difficult.
Desire for Independence: As teens try to establish their independence, they may push away from their parents as a part of this process. We want our kids to gain independence so they can handle adult life, so being able to observe what is happening will help you.
The Role of Peer Influence: Peer relationships can become more important, often overshadowing family relationships. We must discern how influential friends are on our child and help them become strong and confident in who God made them to be.
Romans 12:18 – “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”
Humanizing the Pain: A Mom’s Perspective
A NormalExperience: I want to remind you that feeling hurt is normal and that you are not alone in this experience.
The Power of Vulnerability: Acknowledge your feelings and possibly even share them with their teenager calmly, non-confrontationally.
Psalm 147:3 – “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
Practical Steps to Take
Stay Consistent in Love and Support: Continue to show love, even when it feels unreciprocated.
Create Open Lines of Communication: Keep communication open by actively listening, not interrupting, and validating feelings.
Respect Their Space and Independence: Giving teens the space they crave while being present and available shows your teen respect and understanding.
Finding Support
Lean on Your Community: Don’t be afraid to contact friends, family, or support groups who understand what you’re going through.
Consider Professional Help: Consider seeking help from a counselor or therapist for your teen or yourself. Sometimes, getting outside help gives you insights into what can be done to make the situation less stressful.
Holding on to Hope
We have to remember to have hope. God is at work. Your child is not going to feel this way forever. Even during the toughest times with their teenager, there’s always a reason to stay resilient and patient.
The Power of Time: Like many phases, this too shall pass. Teens grow up, mature, and often return to a closer relationship with their parents. 🙂
Encouragement to Persevere: I want to encourage you to continue your unwavering love and patience, which can make a profound difference.
Malachi 4:6 – “And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers; lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction.”
Scripture for Strained Relationships
Ephesians 6:4 – “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”
This verse highlights the importance of nurturing and guiding children without causing unnecessary conflict or resentment.
Colossians 3:21 – “Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.”
Encourages parents to avoid actions or words that may lead to bitterness or discouragement in their children.
Proverbs 22:6 – “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
It suggests that a strong foundation, even if met with resistance during the teenage years, will have lasting effects.
Scripture For Healing and Reconciliation
Healing and reconciliation offer hope that strength will be renewed through patience and reliance on God.
Isaiah 40:31 – “But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.”
Corinthians 5:18-19 – “All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.”
James 5:16 – “Therefore, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
Wrapping It Up
Watching your teenager pull away can be one of the most heartbreaking experiences as a parent. It’s tough—there’s no sugarcoating that. But take heart: you’re not alone in this journey, and it doesn’t mean you’re losing them forever.
With the Lord, patience, empathy, and a lot of love, this difficult season can be a time of growth, so hang in there—your bond is stronger than you think. God’s got you and will lead you through this season of parenting.
Did you know up to 70% of college students experience homesickness during their first few months of school? It’s true. Today, we are focusing on Helping Homesick College Kids find their way without bringing them home.
Are you a parent with a child who’s just started college—or maybe you’re about to send them off? First off, this is such a big moment, not just for your child but for you, too. The house feels a little quieter, and your heart likely feels all sorts of emotions. And so is your child. So, when we get a call from our distraught college kid asking to come home, we aren’t always sure what to do. Today, I’ll share some practical tips and a few personal stories and hopefully give you the reassurance that everything you’re child is feeling is completely normal.
It’s common for college students to feel homesick, especially in the first few weeks of school. And many kids are so overwhelmed they want to quit school and come back home. And as parents, it can tug at our hearts. But, before we say yes, there are some ways we can help them find their way without coming home.
Helping Homesick College Kids Adjust to College Life
Understanding What is Really Going On
Why did your child go from being excited to wanting to go home? While there are many reasons, the most common ones are fear of the unknown, nervousness, and anxiety. They left what was familiar and comfortable. They don’t know anyone, they don’t know their way around, and they don’t know their professors. The newness of everything can overwhelm some kids, causing them to think they’ve made a big mistake.
Rather than immediately letting them come home, parents can gently encourage their child to stick it out for a bit longer, like until the end of the first semester. This will help them gain confidence in their ability to handle new situations and grow into independence.
What Can YOU Do?
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Five Ways to Help College Kids FInd Their Way
Encourage your child to maintain strong connections with family and friends back home by scheduling regular video calls or sending thoughtful messages. These moments of connection can provide comfort and remind them that they have a support system rooting for them, no matter how far away they are.
Additionally, consider sending care packages filled with their favorite snacks, photos, or small items that remind them of home. These little gestures can bring a sense of familiarity and warmth, helping to ease the feelings of homesickness and reinforcing the bond they have with their loved ones.
Establish a Comforting Routine
Encourage your child to build a daily routine that feels comforting and familiar, something that can anchor them in this new chapter of their life. It might be as simple as starting their day with a cup of coffee just like they did at home, taking a few minutes to enjoy a hobby that brings them joy, or ending the day by watching a favorite show or reading a book. These small, everyday rituals can create a sense of stability and make the college experience feel a little less overwhelming, helping them find their footing in a new environment.
Stay Connect to Home
Encourage your child to maintain strong connections with family and friends back home by scheduling regular video calls or sending thoughtful messages. These moments of connection can provide comfort and remind them that they have a support system rooting for them, no matter how far away they are.
Additionally, consider sending care packages filled with their favorite snacks, photos, or small items that remind them of home. These little gestures can bring a sense of familiarity and warmth, helping to ease the feelings of homesickness and reinforcing the bond they have with their loved ones.
Encourage Social Connections
Remind your child that getting involved on campus can help them feel more at home. Joining a club, playing intramural sports, and participating in a study group can be a great way to meet new friends and build a support system. We are created for community and relationships and getting involved is an excellent way to do ease homesickness.
Find Local Support
If your child is struggling to find their way, encourage them to ask for help and find a church they can plugged into. Asking for help might make your child feel uncomfortable, but if you remind them that colleges pay people to advise and help kids just like your child, they will make them feel less self-conscious about asking for help.
By all means, try not to make your child feel like something is wrong with them. Keep it matter-of-fact. I would even suggest you do a little research and send your child some links or phone numbers to make it easier for your child to contact others.
Pracitical Self-care
College kids tend to forget about getting enough sleep, eating right, managing time, and exercising. We can gently remind them how necessary self-care is by suggesting simple mindfulness practices, like taking deep breaths or writing in a journal when they’re feeling overwhelmed. Doing some physical activity, like going for a walk or doing a workout, can also help them release stress and boost their mood. This will help them keep the proper perspective of this season of life.
Wrapping It Up
Don’t forget your child is moving towards something new, which isn’t always easy. As much as we might want to swoop in and rescue them, we must pray about what is best for our child.
Pray before saying yes to moving back. Pray about how much you help them and how you help them.
The emotional journey parents and college students face when dealing with homesickness during the first few months away from home is real, and common. I pray God gives you wisdom as you help your young adult navigate this season of change well.
Welcome to Healthy Back to School Habits Part 2 with my friend, Loisann Fowler of Coach in Tandem! As the new school year approaches, we want to ensure our children are set up for success both in and out of the classroom. Today, Loisann and I will discuss three crucial areas: exercise and movement, managing stress, and relational downtime. Let’s explore some practical, easy-to-implement tips that will make a big difference in your child’s mental and emotional well-being.
Meeting our goals can be difficult when school picks back up. That’s why now is a perfect time to consider these five easy foundational non-negotiables that we can incorporate into our homes before school starts.
In part 2 of Healthy Back to School Habits, Loisann and I focus on exercise and movement, stress management, and relational downtime. Let’s start with exercise and movement.
Healthy Back to School Habits: Exercise and Movement
What do you mean when you say exercise and movement? It’s simple. It means making sure our children get up and move around. Today’s kids are sitting for far to long and need to get up and move for optimal health. Movement nourishes your body and gives your child energy. How do we know if our children are getting enough exercise?
Movement improves academic performance. It might take a little time initially, but you will quickly see results when your children put down their devices, turn off the TV, and move their bodies.
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Physical development. Children who move and exercise on a regular basis build strong bones, increase muscle strength, and improve their quality of sleep.
Studies show that children who exercise and move perform better, think clearer, and experience a general sense of well-being.
Stress Management
Stress is part of life. Helping children learn how to manage stress well will bring peace and calmness to your children’s lives.
Establish a routine. A sense of security is provided when children have a daily routine. It also allows children to feel like they have some control over their lives.
Make time for physical activity. Physical activity releases endorphins which are natural mood lifters. Aim for 30 minutes a day, and you will see great improvements in your children.
Teach relaxation techniques. Children who learn how to relax will do better at managing stressful situations. One effective way is to teach children proper breathing techniques.
Simply practicing these three techniques will help our children stay calm under stressful situations.
Relational Downtime
Understanding why children need downtime built into their lives equips us with the knowledge we need to make this a priority.
Strengthens family bonds. Spending quality time with family members fosters a sense of security and belonging.
Enhances Emotional Intelligence. Relational downtime provides opportunities for children to express their feelings and understand the emotions of others.
Promotes relaxation and reduces stress. Unstructured, relaxed time with loved ones helps children unwind and decompress.
Encourages positive behavior. Positive interactions with family members serve as a model for appropriate behavior.
Supports Cognitive Development. Engaging in meaningful conversations and activities with family members stimulates cognitive growth.
Spending quality time with family is important for kids. It helps them feel secure and connected, knowing they have a strong support system. When families spend time together, kids learn to express their feelings and understand others’ emotions, which boosts their social skills and empathy. This downtime also gives kids a chance to relax and unwind, reducing stress and anxiety. Positive interactions during these moments teach kids good behavior and values.
Healthy Back to School Habits Matter
The little habits you implement today will yield huge rewards over time. Your children rely on you to teach and train them in the way they should go. You create an environment where they can truly flourish by creating healthy back-to-school habits, providing exercise time, managing stress, and allowing time in their day to focus on relationship building.
We are so glad you’re committed to helping your children grow and thrive. I pray our Healthy Back to School Habits series blessed and encouraged you. Remember, every small step you take makes a big difference. You’ve got this!
About Loisann Fowler
Loisann Flower is a nationally board-certified functional medicine health coach. She helps people from teens to 90-somethings uncover and achieve their highest wellness in body, mind, and spirit. There is a gap between our level of health today and where we want to be. Loisann’s coaching bridges that gap, discovering lasting practices for a strong and energetic life.
Have you ever wondered how much a child’s confidence and happiness can soar when they feel genuinely respected? Showing children respect meets a deep core need within them that causes emotional and psychological growth. When kids feel respected, they flourish, building a strong sense of self-worth and confidence.
Parents must understand that respect goes beyond just manners or obedience—it’s about appreciating your child’s thoughts, feelings, and uniqueness. By actively listening to them, validating their emotions, and including them in family decisions, we can create a loving environment where our children truly feel valued.
Understanding Respect
Respect in the context of child development means recognizing your child as an individual with their own thoughts, feelings, and opinions. It’s about valuing their perspectives and treating them with the same dignity and consideration they expect from others.
Why is respect crucial for a child’s emotional and psychological well-being? Respect fosters self-esteem, confidence, and healthy relationships. When children feel respected, they are likelier to develop a strong sense of self-worth and build strong bonds with their parents. When the core need for respect is met, the foundation of respect can lead to a lifetime of connection with us and personal relationships with others.
How to Show Children Respect
Active Listening
Valuing Their Opinions
Acknowledge Their Feelings
Be Respectful
Let’s look at practical ways to show respect to your child and make them feel valued, heard, and understood in your daily interactions.
Reasons Children Might Not Feel Respected
Understanding why children might not feel respected can make us pay more attention to our parenting.
Lack of Active Listening
Dismissive Attitude
Inconsistent Boundaries
Authoritarian Parenting Style
Public Criticism or Embarrassment
One of the best ways to meet our children’s core need of feeling respected is to point them to scripture. help While
What the Bible Says About Showing Children Respect
When we take our children to God’s Word, we can use scripture to validate their need for respect.
1 Peter 2:17 (NIV): “Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.”
Romans 12:10 (NIV): “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”
Showing Children Respect Fill a Core Need
Meeting a child’s core need to be respected is essential for their emotional and psychological development. By showing respect through active listening, valuing their opinions, acknowledging their feelings, setting respectful boundaries, and modeling respectful behavior, we can help our children grow into confident, well-adjusted individuals. Let’s continue this journey together, creating a loving environment where our children can truly thrive.
In a world that often feels disconnected, it’s crucial to teach belonging to your children. A strong sense of belonging is a feeling and a vital part of a child’s emotional and psychological development. When children feel they belong, they grow up with the confidence, security, and resilience needed to navigate life’s challenges.
At the heart of belonging is wanting to know who wants me. But it’s deeper than who wants you; it’s who wants you for who you are. Not for what you can give them but how you make them feel. During this episode, I will share practical tips to help you foster a sense of belonging to your children. So, grab a smoothie, relax, and pay close attention to what you can do to teach belonging and how our children will benefit from us taking the time to build connections your children will hold on to beyond the years of living at home.
Easy-to-Apply Techniques for Everyday Life
Incorporating simple practices into your daily routine can significantly enhance your child’s sense of belonging. Start with small, consistent actions that show love and appreciation. For example, make it a point to share meals together as often as possible. Use these times to talk about your day, share stories, and laugh together. Additionally, create small rituals, like bedtime stories or weekend outings, that your children can look forward to. Though seemingly minor, these moments build a strong foundation of connection and security.
Supporting Children Through Challenges Transitions and challenges are inevitable in life, but a strong sense of belonging can help children navigate these times with resilience. Be there for your children during difficult moments, providing consistent support and comfort. Let them know that the family is a safe haven where they can find solace and strength. This consistent support reinforces their sense of belonging and teaches them the value of familial bonds.
Before we talk about nurturing a creative child, you need to know how they think, feel, and experience the world. If you take time to learn some simple characteristics, you’ll enjoy the rewards of watching them grow and develop their craft.
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The Importance of Belonging
Belonging is more than just a warm, fuzzy feeling. It’s a cornerstone of emotional security. Children who feel they belong are more likely to develop a positive self-image and higher self-esteem. They also tend to perform better academically and have healthier social interactions. When you nurture a sense of belonging, you’re setting your child up for long-term confidence and joy.
3 Practical Steps to Foster Belonging
Creating a sense of belonging within the family is essential for a child’s emotional and psychological development. When our children feel deeply connected and valued at home, they are more likely to develop confidence, security, and resilience. By integrating practical steps into your daily routine, you can foster an environment where your children feel loved, understood, and important. Here are some simple yet effective strategies to help you build a strong sense of belonging in your family. I list several practical ways you can cultivate belonging in your children in the podcast, but below are three I want to focus on.
Quality Time: Spend regular, intentional time with your children. Engage in activities that they enjoy and that promote family bonding. This shows them that they are valued and matter.
Family Traditions: Establish and maintain family traditions. These rituals create a sense of continuity and shared experience, reinforcing the family bond.
Open Communication: Encourage open and honest communication within the family. Ensure your children feel heard and understood, which helps them feel like integral parts of the family unit.
By incorporating these practical steps into your daily life, you create a nurturing and supportive environment where your children can thrive. Fostering a sense of belonging enriches their present lives and equips them with the emotional tools they need for the future. Remember, your daily small, consistent actions can make a significant difference in your child’s sense of security and connectedness. Let’s work together to build strong family bonds and create a home where every member feels valued and integral.
Creating a Supportive Environment
Creating a supportive environment for your children means more than just providing for their physical needs. It involves fostering emotional security and open communication. This environment helps children feel safe and valued, which is essential for their overall well-being. For instance, make it a habit to have regular family meetings where everyone can express their thoughts and feelings. These meetings can be a powerful tool in making each family member feel included and important. How you create this environment will be unique to your family.
Easy-to-Apply Techniques for Everyday Life
Incorporating simple practices into your daily routine can significantly enhance your child’s sense of belonging. Start with small, consistent actions that show love and appreciation. For example, make it a point to share meals together as often as possible. Use these times to talk about your day, share stories, and laugh together. Additionally, create small rituals, like bedtime stories or weekend outings, that your children can look forward to. Though seemingly minor, these moments build a strong foundation of connection and security.
Supporting Children Through Challenges Transitions and challenges are inevitable in life, but a strong sense of belonging can help children navigate these times with resilience. Be there for your children during difficult moments, providing consistent support and comfort. Let them know that the family is a safe haven where they can find solace and strength. This consistent support reinforces their sense of belonging and teaches them the value of familial bonds.
By teaching your children belonging, you enrich their lives and equip them with the emotional tools they need for the future. These strategies and practices help build a nurturing environment where children can thrive, knowing they are a valued part of something bigger than themselves.
Have you considered AI’s impact on students? Is artificial intelligence going to be the future classroom for students’ education? How will this cutting-edge technology intersect with education? In our latest episode, I discuss the Pros and Cons of AI and how it impacts students’ learning. Is AI a powerful ally in personalized education, or is it a silent saboteur undermining critical thinking and creativity?
Join us as we unpack the pros and cons of AI in the classroom, featuring insights from educators, tech experts, and students themselves. Discover how AI is reshaping the way we learn, the potential pitfalls we must navigate, and the future of education in an AI-driven world. Tune in and get ready to consider the role of AI in your child’s education.
If you are like me, I’m not excited by the rate at which AI has taken over nearly every sector of our online world. It concerns me. What will happen to our children? Will they be negatively impacted? Are they being dumbed down? To be honest, there are pros and cons when it comes to using AI in education.
In this honest look at raising boys, we lay out essential principles for raising boys to become godly, responsible men of integrity, honesty, and determination. We share invaluable insights and practical wisdom gleaned from years of experience mentoring and guiding young men toward a fulfilling life filled with meaning and purpose.
The Promise of AI in Education
AI has been hailed as a game-changer in the educational landscape, promising to revolutionize the way students learn. Here are a few ways AI is making a positive impact:
Personalized Learning: AI can tailor educational content to each student’s learning pace and style, offering a more customized learning experience. Imagine a classroom where every student has a personal tutor that understands their strengths and weaknesses.
Accessibility: AI tools can make education more accessible to students with disabilities by providing features like text-to-speech, speech-to-text, and language translation. This opens up new possibilities for inclusive education.
Efficient Study Aid: AI can help students quickly find information, summarize content, and provide instant feedback, making studying more efficient. It’s like having a research assistant at your fingertips.
The Pitfalls of AI in Education
But wait, it’s not all smooth sailing. The integration of AI in education also comes with its set of challenges:
Over-reliance: Students might become too dependent on AI tools, which could hinder their ability to think critically and solve problems independently. Are we nurturing a generation of thinkers or button-pressers?
Privacy Concerns: Using AI often involves sharing personal data, which can raise concerns about data security and privacy. How do we ensure that our children’s information is protected? But like all online platforms, we must read the terms of service and ensure our children are protected.
Equity Issues: Not all students have equal access to advanced AI technologies, potentially widening the educational gap between different socioeconomic groups. How do we ensure that AI benefits all students equally?
Conclusion
As we navigate the uncharted waters of AI in education, it’s crucial to weigh its benefits against its potential drawbacks. Carefully consider what is right for your child and your family.
Together, we can ensure that AI serves as a tool for enhancing learning rather than hindering it.
Don’t miss out on this thought-provoking episode. Listen now, and let’s explore the future of education together!
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