Giving Your Child Privacy and Space

Giving your child privacy and space as children grow is a natural part of their development. It helps them build self-confidence, responsibility, and decision-making skills. While it is a normal part of growing up, most parents get uncomfortable and aren’t sure how to provide safety while staying connected. That’s what we will look at in this blog.

Finding the right balance between hovering and honoring their privacy needs can be tricky. If we give them too much freedom, our precious kids can be put at risk, while hovering can lead to rebellion, secrecy, and strained relationships.

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Balancing privacy with safety is about trust, not control. When teens feel respected and heard, they are more likely to share their lives with their parents willingly.

Parents can build a relationship where teens feel safe seeking guidance without fear of invasion by fostering a mutual understanding of privacy. So, how do we walk this season of parenting well?

Privacy isn’t just about personal space or privacy—it’s much more than that. Our children learn valuable skills like time management, problem-solving, and accountability.

You may find that not all of your children desire privacy. They want to be with people all the time. That’s okay. It really comes down to their temperament, personality, and learning style.

Giving teens space allows them to:

  • Make independent decisions
  • Develop self-confidence
  • Think through cause-and-effect situations
  • Build emotional resilience

Instead of treating privacy as an “all-or-nothing” issue, parents should adjust boundaries based on maturity, behavior, and trust levels.

How to Balance Privacy and Space

On the other hand, not every struggle means your parenting style is fundamentally flawed. Sometimes, it’s about adjusting things to fit your child’s unique needs or the changing dynamics of your family.

Three ways to practice this:

  • Knock on the door before entering. It shows respect.
  • Encourage journaling, prayer, or meditation – (Don’t read it) 🙂
  • Give them enough time to dream, think about their thoughts, and solve their problems.

You can add to these simple steps to make it work for your family.

Practical Steps to Giving Privacy and Space

Remembering your goal is to help your child grow and mature. These practical steps will act as a springboard to help you navigate this season of honoring your child’s needs.

Mutual Aggrement

Getting your child to agree with the terms you set up is critical to their following your instructions.

Ask yourself:

  • Is this a need or a want? Both are okay, but knowing the difference is worth knowing.
  • Does it bring peace and trust to our home or create unnecessary tension?
  • Sometimes, the hardest part is admitting that something isn’t working and being willing to change.

Sometimes, the hardest part is acknowledging something isn’t working and being willing to change.

Teaching Responsiblity

Talk to your child (in an age-appropriate way) about what is expected. Their perspective can reveal blind spots you hadn’t considered.

Also, seek counsel from trusted mentors, friends, or parenting resources to gain fresh ideas.

  • Explain how everything posted online lives online forever and can impact future opportunities.
  • Help them learn to adjust privacy settings to keep personal information safe.
  • Talk about bullying- online or in-person, and peer pressure.

As your child branches out, there will be times when you have to limit your child’s privacy and freedom.

When Privacy Should Be Limited

While we want to give our child freedom and honor their need for space and privacy, there might come a time when you need to step in to keep them safe.

  • Extreme mood changes or withdrawal (possible depression, anxiety, or self-harm)
  • Drastic drop in grades or loss of motivation
  • Signs of online bullying, inappropriate relationships, or dangerous online behavior
  • Secretiveness around substances or risky activities

If you see any changes in your child’s behavior, don’t ignore it. Pray, talk to your spouse or someone you trust, and then approach your child with concern, not accusation.

Be slow to react and quick to listen. Let them know you are there to help, not control.

Final Takeaway

Privacy should be earned through trust and given in appropriate stages based on the teen’s responsibility and maturity level.

Whether you’re parenting a tween needing some space or a teen asking for more privacy, you can use practical, grace-filled tips to guide your child while keeping your relationship strong.

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The Dangers of Forced Gratitude

Have you ever told your child to say “thank you” even when they weren’t feeling grateful? We’ve all been there, pushing for politeness in moments when our kids might be feeling anything but thankful. But what if this well-intentioned nudge towards gratitude is doing more harm than good? Could we inadvertently teach our children to mask their true feelings, leading to a future of emotional suppression and confusion? Let’s explore the complexities of gratitude and how it might not always be the virtue we think it is at face value.

As parents, we often encourage our children to be thankful – for their meals, for their gifts, for the roof over their heads. Gratitude is, after all, a virtue that can lead to a more rewarding, happier life. But what happens when this well-meaning push for gratitude turns into something that might actually be harmful? Let’s explore the nuances of gratitude, particularly the dangers of forcing it upon our children.

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Let’s look at the dark side of gratitude and how we can avoid the common pitfalls that could harm your children.

The Beauty of Genuine Gratitude

Gratitude, when it comes from the heart, is truly beautiful. It’s about recognizing the good in life, appreciating what we have, and acknowledging the efforts of others. Studies have shown that gratitude can improve mental health, enhance relationships, and even boost overall well-being.

  • Benefits for Children: Teaching kids to appreciate the small things can be incredibly grounding. It’s about fostering joy, resilience, and a positive outlook on life.

However, the transition from here to the dark side of gratitude isn’t as wide as one might think.

When Gratitude Becomes a Burden

Forced Gratitude: What Does It Look Like?

Forced gratitude happens when we expect or demand thankfulness from our children, regardless of how they truly feel. It’s the “Say thank you!” command without considering the child’s actual emotions or the context of the situation.

  • Emotional Dishonesty: This can lead to children suppressing their true feelings, teaching them to wear a mask of false positivity. Over time, this can hinder their ability to express genuine emotions, leading to confusion or even resentment.

The Dark Side of Gratitude

Gratitude isn’t always a straightforward path to happiness. Here’s where it can take a turn:

  • Toxic Positivity: When gratitude is used to dismiss or minimize negative emotions, it can become toxic. If children learn to only express thanks and never sadness, anger, or disappointment, they might struggle with emotional regulation.
  • Guilt and Shame: When children aren’t feeling grateful, but are told they should be, this can lead to feelings of inadequacy or shame. They might feel there’s something wrong with them for not feeling the “right” emotions.

Real-Life Implications for Our Kids

When you laugh with your children, you’re creating shared moment that bring you closer. Those funny, silly moments remind your kids that you’re on their side, even when things get tough.

Example:
Your child struggles with math homework and starts to get upset. You say, “I could help, but last time I tried, I think I broke the calculator!” Your lighthearted comment shifts the energy, and suddenly, tackling math doesn’t feel so overwhelming. Use something that your child can relate to.

Real-Life Implications for Our Kids

Imagine a scenario where your child is upset about a situation, but instead of acknowledging their feelings, we urge them to be grateful for unrelated blessings. While well-intentioned, this can alienate them from their own emotional experiences.

  • Suppression of True Feelings: This might lead to a child who grows up afraid to show vulnerability or who doesn’t know how to deal with life’s more challenging moments because they’ve never been allowed to experience them fully.

Balancing Gratitude in Our Homes

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Here’s how we can guide our children toward a healthy expression of gratitude:

  • Mindful Gratitude: Encourage moments of genuine thankfulness. Maybe it’s the joy of a sunny day or the comfort of a family movie night. Let these moments be about sincere appreciation.
  • Emotional Literacy: Teach your children that all emotions are valid. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or frustrated. Gratitude can coexist with these feelings, not replace them.

Tips to Avoid the Dangers of Forced Gratitude

  • Lead by Example: Show your children how you practice gratitude, but also how you handle other emotions. Share your feelings openly.
  • Create Space for Reflection: Instead of demanding thankfulness, encourage reflection. “What was a good part of your day?” can be a starting point for genuine gratitude.

Wrapping It Up: Love, Gratitude, and Emotional Growth

As loving parents, our goal is to raise well-rounded individuals who can navigate life with resilience and joy. Gratitude is a part of that journey, but it must be approached with care. Let’s teach our children to be thankful when they feel it, but also to embrace and express the full spectrum of their emotions. This balance is where true emotional growth and happiness lie.

In our homes, let’s foster an environment where gratitude enhances our lives without overshadowing our humanity. Here’s to raising children who understand the value of all emotions, making them truly equipped to show gratitude and honor the Lord.

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Humor Defuses Tense Parenting Moments

How Humor Defuses Tense Parenting Moments. It is true using humor is something you can use everyday to reduce challenges between you and your child.

Parenting is messy, unpredictable, and sometimes downright overwhelming. From toddler tantrums to teenage sarcasm, the challenges can quickly turn into stress-filled moments. But here’s the good news: laughter can save the day! Humor isn’t just about making things funny—it’s a tool that can defuse tension, strengthen connections, and help you navigate even the trickiest parenting situations with grace and a smile.

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Let’s look at how humor can turn those tense parenting moments into opportunities for connection, laughter, and growth.

Why Humor Matters in Parenting

Parenting is a high-stakes job, and it’s easy to feel the weight of trying to “get it all right.” But here’s the thing: you don’t have to be perfect to be a great parent—you need to show up, be present, and sometimes, laugh at the craziness of it all.

Humor lightens the load and reminds you (and your kids) that not every moment has to be so serious. When you bring laughter into the mix, you:

  • Break the tension under challenging moments.
  • Show your kids how to manage emotions positively.
  • Create shared memories that strengthen family bonds.

Let’s break down how humor works.

How Humor Defuses Tense Parenting Moments

Laughter Breaks the Tension

Humor is like a remote control that defuses stress and breaks the emotional cycle of frustration or anger. Whether your toddler is throwing a tantrum or your teenager is rolling their eyes at you, a well-timed joke or playful response can completely shift the mood.

Example: Your preschooler refuses to put on their shoes and plants themselves firmly on the floor. Instead of escalating, you grab the shoes, hold them up like they’re puppets, and say in a funny voice, “Uh-oh! These shoes are sad because they want to go on an adventure! Who’s going to take them out to explore today?” Before you know it, your child is giggling, and those shoes are on faster than you expected.

Humor Model Emotional Regulation

When you use humor to handle tense moments, you’re showing your children a positive way to deal with frustration. Instead of reacting with anger or stress, you’re demonstrating calm and creativity. Kids learn by watching, and your approach teaches them that it’s okay to pause and look for a lighter perspective.

Example:
Your teenager sarcastically says, “Ugh, you’re so embarrassing.” Instead of taking offense, you reply with a smile, “Oh, just wait—my dance moves at soccer drop-off tomorrow will really seal the deal!” Cue laughter (and maybe a little cringing), and the tension melts away. 🙂

Humor Strengthens Parent-Child Bonds

When you laugh with your children, you’re creating shared moment that bring you closer. Those funny, silly moments remind your kids that you’re on their side, even when things get tough.

Example:
Your child struggles with math homework and starts to get upset. You say, “I could help, but last time I tried, I think I broke the calculator!” Your lighthearted comment shifts the energy, and suddenly, tackling math doesn’t feel so overwhelming. Use something that your child can relate to.

Humor Redirects the Focus

Sometimes, all children need is a little distraction to help them reset. Humor offers a gentle way to redirect their attention away from frustration and toward something positive.

Example:
Your toddler refuses to eat broccoli. Instead of forcing the issue, you say, “Did you know broccoli makes you run faster? Let’s see if it works!” Suddenly, the broccoli becomesI exciting, and dinner just got a whole lot easier.

Humor Helps You (the Parent!) Stay Calm

Let’s be honest: parenting can be tough. Humor doesn’t just help your kids—it helps you. Laughing at a challenging situation gives you the emotional distance to handle it with more patience and grace.

Example:
Your toddler colors on the wall with crayons. Instead of panicking, you laugh and say, “Wow, you’ve got a real Picasso vibe going here! But let’s save the masterpieces for paper, okay?” Now, instead of spiraling into frustration, you’ve turned the moment into a manageable situation.

Tips for Using Humor Defuses Tense Parenting Moments

  • Read the Room: Not every moment calls for a joke. If your child is upset, validate their feelings before using humor.
  • Keep It Playful, Not Sarcastic: Avoid humor that could feel critical or mocking to your child.
  • Match Their Age and Personality: What makes a toddler laugh might not work for a teenager—adjust your humor accordingly.
  • Celebrate the Funny Moments: Keep a journal of funny things your kids say or do. These memories will bring joy for years to come.

Wrapping It Up: It’s Okay to Laugh:

Parenting is full of messy, frustrating, and downright ridiculous moments—but those moments are what make the journey so memorable. By using humor, you can navigate the chaos with a little more grace and a lot more joy.

So the next time your toddler refuses to wear pants, or your teenager gives you attitude, remember: it’s okay to laugh. In fact, it’s necessary. Because sometimes, laughter is the only thing keeping you sane—and it’s the glue that holds your family together.

What’s the funniest parenting moment you’ve had recently? I’d love to hear your stories—share them in the comments or send me a message! Let’s laugh together and celebrate the beautiful chaos of parenting.

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How Stress Affects Children

As parents, we all know what it feels like to be overwhelmed by life’s challenges—work stress, financial pressures, or the chaos of the world around us. We may try our best to shield our children from it, but what many of us may not realize is how deeply our stress affects them. Children are highly attuned to our emotional states, and they often feed off the stress and anxiety we carry.

Let’s talk about how our stress affects our children and how we can help them manage their emotions, especially during difficult times.

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Over the years, I’ve learned the better I am at managing my stress during chaotic moments, the calmer my children will be.

Children are Emotional Sponges

First, let me be clear: finding the good doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine when it isn’t. There are real struggles, and it’s important to acknowledge them. I’ve been through my share of storms, literal and metaphorical, and I know how easy it is to feel weighed down by the burdens we carry. Whether it’s dealing with a financial crisis, health issues, or the heartbreak of strained relationships, we all have moments when life feels too heavy to bear. And in those moments, feeling frustrated, exhausted, and even hopeless is okay.

What Happens During Times of Chaos

God has taught me that finding the silver lining requires a shift in perspective. It doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s not always easy. But when we intentionally start looking for the good—no matter how small—we begin to see it. Maybe it’s a lesson we’ve learned through the trial, a new strength we’ve discovered in ourselves, or a moment of kindness from someone who stepped in to help.

In my life, I’ve found that even in the toughest moments, there’s always something I can hold on to—a tiny flicker of hope that reminds me this hardship won’t last forever. It’s not about ignoring the pain or glossing over the challenges but rather choosing to focus on the growth that can come from them.

What Parents Can Do to Help Children During Stressful Times

Step 1: Model Emotional Regulation

One of the most powerful things we can do for our children is to model emotional regulation. Children learn by watching us, so when they see us handling stress in healthy ways—whether it’s through taking a deep breath, going for a walk, or simply talking calmly—they pick up on those behaviors.

It’s okay to admit when you’re stressed, but show them how you manage it. This is often easier said than done, but taking small steps to calm yourself can have a huge impact on your child’s sense of security.

Personal Tip

I know for me, when I feel the tension rising, I like to take a few moments to step outside and breathe. Sometimes that’s all it takes to reset. When my kids see me doing this, they start to understand that it’s okay to feel stressed, but we can also take steps to calm ourselves down.

Step 2: Communicate Calmly and Honestly

Children need reassurance during chaotic times, but they also need honesty. They don’t require every single detail about the situation, but they do need to feel that they are safe. This can be tricky because we don’t want to burden them with adult worries, yet we don’t want to leave them in the dark either.

Find a balance by explaining things in simple, calm terms. Let them know that it’s okay to feel upset or confused, and reassure them that you’re working on things and that they’re safe.

Example of What to Say

You might say something like, “Mom and Dad are figuring out some grown-up things, but you don’t need to worry about that. We’re doing everything we can to make sure everything will be okay.”

Step 3: Maintain Routine and Structure

In times of chaos, one of the best things we can do for our children is to maintain a sense of routine and predictability. Children thrive on structure because it gives them a sense of security. If their world feels unpredictable, they look to their daily routines to anchor them.

Keep mealtimes, bedtimes, and other regular activities as consistent as possible. Even small rituals, like reading a bedtime story, can provide immense comfort in times of uncertainty.

Step 4: Encourage Open Conversations About Feelings

Children need a safe space to express their emotions, especially when the world around them feels confusing. Ask open-ended questions like, “How are you feeling today?” or “Is something bothering you?” This lets them know that their feelings are valid and important.

It can be hard to hear that they’re upset, but giving them the opportunity to voice their concerns can help them process what they’re experiencing.

Example of a Gentle Conversation Starter

If you notice they’re quiet or acting out of the ordinary, you could say something like, “I noticed you seem a little off today. Is there something on your mind?” This invites them to share without pressure.

Step 5: Use Positive Distraction and Play

During chaotic times, children need healthy outlets for their emotions. Engage them in activities like drawing, playing outside, or building with blocks. Play can be an incredibly therapeutic way for children to express themselves and release tension.

These activities don’t just serve as distractions; they allow your child to process their feelings in a non-verbal, safe way. Plus, spending time with them in these moments reinforces your bond and lets them know that, even in chaos, they have your full attention.

Wrapping It Up: Setting the Emotional Temperature of the Home

As parents, we set the emotional temperature of our homes. If we’re constantly anxious, it’s hard for our children to feel calm. But by managing our stress in healthy ways and helping our kids process their emotions, we create an environment where they feel safe and secure—even when the world feels chaotic.

No one expects perfection, and it’s okay to have moments where you’re overwhelmed. What matters most is how we handle those moments and how we guide our children through them.

So take a deep breath, give yourself grace, and know that by simply being mindful of your own emotions, you’re already taking important steps toward helping your child manage theirs.

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Feeling Inadequate

Parenting can be overwhelming, especially when we experience feeling inadequate or judged by others. In today’s episode, I’ll discuss how to overcome those feelings of inadequacy that many of us struggle with. If your teen is acting out or being influenced negatively, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed as a parent—it means you’re on a journey like the rest of us.

Drawing from biblical truths and practical examples, I’ll provide specific ways to reframe these struggles and embrace the challenges of raising children. I’ll also share fundamental tools and encouragement to confidently help you navigate this season.

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Parenting can be overwhelming, especially when we start to feel inadequate or judged by others. If your child is acting out or being influenced negatively, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed as a parent—it means you’re on a journey like the rest of us. While it is common to feel inadequate, those feelings aren’t true. You can confidently navigate this season with a few tools and leaning on God’s Word.

Feeling Inadequate Key Takeaways

Many parents, even those with the strongest faith, face struggles when their teens begin to assert independence or fall under negative influences.

Acknowledge that Parenting is Hard for Everyone

You’re not alone in your struggles. Many parents face feelings of inadequacy, but these challenges are a part of the growth process for you and your child. Reframe your mindset. Accept that challenges don’t mean failure but rather an opportunity for growth for you and your teen. Proverbs 22:6 encourages us to “train up a child in the way he should go,” but that doesn’t guarantee an immediate return or perfect behavior. Trust the process.

Combat Judgment

It’s easy to feel judged by peers, family, or society. But remember, your worth as a parent isn’t measured by others’ opinions. We’ll talk about how to lean on God’s grace and approval.

Reframe “Failure”

Moments when your child is acting out can be seen as learning opportunities for both of you. Take time to connect with your child and show them the love of Christ through the difficulties.

Practical Steps When You Feel Inadequate

From daily prayer to finding community support, explore tangible steps you can take to shift your perspective and handle challenges with grace.

Fostering a Supportive Relationship to Reduce Feeling Inadequate

Building a connection with your child is more important than fixing behavior. Learn how empathy, love, and patience can open the door to positive change. Based on what you observe and the conversations you have, set challenging yet achievable goals.

If your child loves writing but struggles with grammar, encourage them to write stories while gradually improving their grammar skills. The idea is to build on their strengths while gently supporting them in areas where they need growth.

Feeling Inadequate Highlights

  • Understanding the reality: Parenting teens is one of the hardest seasons for any parent. No one has it all figured out.
  • Replacing self-criticism with self-compassion: I’ll talk about why it’s crucial to stop comparing yourself to other parents and how to embrace God’s grace.
  • Real-life examples: Hear stories from parents who’ve walked this road and found hope through faith and practical steps.

Scripture Focus

Throughout this episode, I’ll refer to key scriptures like Proverbs 22:6 (“Train up a child in the way he should go…”) and James 1:2-4 to remind us that God is with us in every season of parenting, refining us and our children through these trials.

Feeling Inadequate Wrap Up

As you navigate your parenting journey, remember that perfection isn’t required—faithfulness is. God sees your efforts and is equipping you every day. You are enough for your child, and with God’s help, you’ll continue to grow as the parent He’s called you to be.

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Rethinking Parental Expectations

Have you ever wondered if your hopes and dreams for your child might be more about you than them? It’s a tough question, isn’t it? As parents, we want the best for our children. We want them to succeed, to be happy, and to reach their full potential. But sometimes, in our desire to guide them, we unintentionally place our expectations on their shoulders. This is why rethinking parental expectations that we have for our children offers possibilities for them to follow their God-given bend without damaging our relationship.

But what happens when those expectations don’t align with who our child truly is?

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Today, let’s explore how we can rethink our parental expectations and learn to honor the unique, wonderful individuals our children are created to become. It’s about letting go, embracing the unknown, trusting the Lord, and finding joy in the journey of discovering who they are, not who they think they should be.

Why Parents Often Have Expectations and When Those Need to Shift

Parents, we’ve all been there—we set expectations for our kids because we love them so much and want the best for them. Maybe it’s because we value certain things, like a good education or a stable career, or maybe it’s just because we want to see them succeed and be happy. Sometimes, those expectations come from our experiences, the things we’ve learned, or even the dreams we never fulfilled.

It isn’t always easy to examine why we have certain expectations of our kids. But if we focus too much on molding them into our image, we risk stifling their growth and suppressing the qualities that make them unique. It also takes their Creator out of the picture, which is the opposite of what the Lord has planned for our children.

Impact of Expectations on Children

When we set expectations for our kids, it can really shape how they grow and develop. If our expectations are supportive and match who God made our kids to be—their strengths, interests, and personalities—it can boost their confidence and help them feel good about themselves. But when our expectations are too high or rigid, it can make them feel stressed, anxious, or even like they’re not good enough. That’s why it’s so important to find a balance. By being flexible and really listening to who our children are, we can help them grow into confident, resilient individuals ready to face whatever comes their way.

Learning to Honor Your Child’s Unique Nature

Honoring a child’s unique nature means recognizing and appreciating the individuality that each child brings into the world. It’s about seeing beyond the surface, beyond what we might expect or want for them, and truly understanding who they are—what makes them tick, what lights them up, and what makes them feel understood and loved.

When we honor our child’s unique nature, we say, “I see you. I value you for who you are, not for who I think you should be.” It’s about allowing them to explore their interests and passions, even if those paths differ from the ones we might have imagined for them. This approach fosters a sense of security and self-worth in our children. They begin to trust themselves, to believe in their own abilities, and to feel confident in expressing who they truly are.

Reframing Your Expectations

Guiding a child’s path is like being a supportive coach on the sidelines while controlling it, which is more like trying to direct every play in the game. When we guide our children, we’re there to offer advice, share our experiences, and help them navigate choices, but we also give them the freedom to explore, make their own decisions, and learn from their mistakes. It’s about trusting them to find their way, even if it’s different from the path we might have chosen.

On the other hand, controlling a child’s path means trying to dictate every step they take, deciding what they should do, who they should be, and how they should live their lives. It often comes from a place of love and wanting the best for them, but it can feel stifling to a child. It can prevent them from developing their own sense of identity and confidence in their abilities, and if we aren’t careful, it can also keep them from seeking God’s direction for their life.

Think of it this way: guiding is like giving your child a map and teaching them how to read it, while controlling is like holding the map yourself and telling them exactly where to go. Guiding helps them learn, grow, and become independent, while controlling can lead to resistance, frustration, and even a lack of self-confidence. It’s all about finding that balance between offering support and allowing them to be who they are meant to be.

How to Rethink Parental Expectations

Setting expectations that align with a child’s capabilities and interests starts with really getting to know your child—who they are, what they love, and what they’re good at. Here’s how you can do it in a simple, practical way:

Observe and Listen

  • Pay attention to what your child naturally enjoys doing and where they excel. Notice the activities that make them light up and lose track of time. Listening to their interests and passions is key.

Open Conversations

  • Talk with your child about their goals, interests, and what they find challenging or exciting. Ask them what they enjoy and what they’d like to try. These conversations can help you understand their dreams and fears, making setting expectations that match their abilities and desires easier.

Set Realistic Goals

  • Based on what you observe and the conversations you have, set goals that are challenging yet achievable. If your child loves writing but struggles with grammar, encourage them to write stories while gradually improving their grammar skills. The idea is to build on their strengths while gently supporting them in areas where they need growth.

Be Flexible and Discerning

  • Understand that interests and capabilities can change over time. What your child loves today might not be what they love tomorrow. Be open to adjusting expectations as your child grows and explores new things. It’s okay for goals to shift as your child discovers more about themselves.

Celebrate Effort and Progess, Not Just Outcomes

  • Focus on your child’s effort rather than just the end result. Praise them for trying hard, learning from mistakes, and showing perseverance. This approach encourages a growth mindset and helps them feel confident in taking on new challenges.

By setting expectations that are in line with who your child truly is, you’re helping them grow in a way that feels natural and empowering. You’re not just guiding them; you’re partnering with them in their journey to becoming their best selves.

Encourage Social Connections

Remind your child that getting involved on campus can help them feel more at home. Joining a club, playing intramural sports, and participating in a study group can be great ways to meet new friends and build a support system. We are created for community and relationships, and getting involved is an excellent way to ease homesickness.

Wrapping It Up

Honoring a child’s unique nature creates a supportive environment where they feel free to be themselves. We give them the room to fail, succeed, grow, and learn in their own ways.

This approach not only helps build a stronger, more authentic relationship between you and your child but also helps raise confident children who can listen to the Lord’s leading. And isn’t that what we all want for our children?

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