This is an important episode. In it, I share 3 Steps to Overcome Overwhelm that will bring you comfort, healing, and peace as you face all that’s happening in the world.
In today’s episode, I tackle a feeling we all know too well: overwhelm. Life can throw so much at us, whether it’s balancing work and family, managing our homes, or staying on top of commitments, and sometimes it just feels like too much. But here’s the good news—overcoming that overwhelming feeling is possible.
Today, I will walk you through three simple, practical steps to comfort your heart, find peace, and focus on what truly matters. Let’s explore these practical steps to help you move from feeling swamped to feeling steady and equipped for whatever life brings.
Step 1: Focus on What You Can Control
In times of global or personal chaos, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by events beyond your control. A key to overcoming this is to focus on the small, manageable actions you can control. This could be establishing a daily routine, managing your time effectively, or even doing something positive for yourself or others. Shifting your attention from what’s outside your control to what you can influence gives you a sense of purpose and direction.
Example: Begin your day with a simple task like making your bed or planning a small, achievable goal. This creates a sense of accomplishment and structure, even when the world feels chaotic.
Step 2: Practice Grounding Techniques to Stay Present
Often, the feeling of overwhelm comes from worrying about an uncertain future. Grounding techniques can help bring you back to the present moment. Mindful breathing, meditation, or even engaging in physical activities like walking or stretching can reconnect you to your body and mind, allowing you to let go of spiraling thoughts about the future.
Example: When feeling overwhelmed, try the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique. Name five things you can see, four you can touch, three you can hear, two you can smell, and one you can taste. This exercise calms your mind by engaging your senses.
Step 3: Limit Exposure to Srreessful Information
In today’s hyperconnected world, constant exposure to stressful news or social media can fuel anxiety. Set boundaries on how much time you spend consuming information that heightens your stress levels. Instead, seek out uplifting content or focus on activities that nourish your mental and emotional health.
Example: Set specific times during the day when you check the news or social media, and limit your exposure outside of those times. Instead, use that freed-up time to read, practice a hobby, or connect with loved ones.
These steps can help shift your perspective, restore a sense of control, and maintain emotional balance amidst chaos.
Scripture to Meditate On
1. Focus on What You Can Control
Proverbs 16:3 “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.”
Matthew 6:34 “Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
2. Practice Grounding Techniques to Stay Present
Isaiah 26:3 “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”
Psalm 46:10 “Be still, and know that I am God.”
Matthew 11:28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”
3. Limit Exposure to Stressful Information
Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
Psalm 55:22 “Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.”
Wrapping It Up: Overcoming Overwhelm is Possible
As we wrap up, remember that overcoming overwhelm is a journey—one you don’t have to navigate alone. Each small step you take to simplify, prioritize, and refocus brings you closer to a life of clarity and calm.
Embrace the changes slowly and celebrate each victory, knowing peace and purpose are possible.
God has equipped us with the tools to rise above the chaos and live each day confidently and intentionally. Take heart, stay hopeful, and know that you have the strength to overcome anything that comes your way.
As parents, we all know what it feels like to be overwhelmed by life’s challenges—work stress, financial pressures, or the chaos of the world around us. We may try our best to shield our children from it, but what many of us may not realize is how deeply our stress affects them. Children are highly attuned to our emotional states, and they often feed off the stress and anxiety we carry.
Let’s talk about how our stress affects our children and how we can help them manage their emotions, especially during difficult times.
Over the years, I’ve learned the better I am at managing my stress during chaotic moments, the calmer my children will be.
Children are Emotional Sponges
First, let me be clear: finding the good doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine when it isn’t. There are real struggles, and it’s important to acknowledge them. I’ve been through my share of storms, literal and metaphorical, and I know how easy it is to feel weighed down by the burdens we carry. Whether it’s dealing with a financial crisis, health issues, or the heartbreak of strained relationships, we all have moments when life feels too heavy to bear. And in those moments, feeling frustrated, exhausted, and even hopeless is okay.
What Happens During Times of Chaos
God has taught me that finding the silver lining requires a shift in perspective. It doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s not always easy. But when we intentionally start looking for the good—no matter how small—we begin to see it. Maybe it’s a lesson we’ve learned through the trial, a new strength we’ve discovered in ourselves, or a moment of kindness from someone who stepped in to help.
In my life, I’ve found that even in the toughest moments, there’s always something I can hold on to—a tiny flicker of hope that reminds me this hardship won’t last forever. It’s not about ignoring the pain or glossing over the challenges but rather choosing to focus on the growth that can come from them.
What Parents Can Do to Help Children During Stressful Times
Step 1: Model Emotional Regulation
One of the most powerful things we can do for our children is to model emotional regulation. Children learn by watching us, so when they see us handling stress in healthy ways—whether it’s through taking a deep breath, going for a walk, or simply talking calmly—they pick up on those behaviors.
It’s okay to admit when you’re stressed, but show them how you manage it. This is often easier said than done, but taking small steps to calm yourself can have a huge impact on your child’s sense of security.
Personal Tip
I know for me, when I feel the tension rising, I like to take a few moments to step outside and breathe. Sometimes that’s all it takes to reset. When my kids see me doing this, they start to understand that it’s okay to feel stressed, but we can also take steps to calm ourselves down.
Step 2: Communicate Calmly and Honestly
Children need reassurance during chaotic times, but they also need honesty. They don’t require every single detail about the situation, but they do need to feel that they are safe. This can be tricky because we don’t want to burden them with adult worries, yet we don’t want to leave them in the dark either.
Find a balance by explaining things in simple, calm terms. Let them know that it’s okay to feel upset or confused, and reassure them that you’re working on things and that they’re safe.
Example of What to Say
You might say something like, “Mom and Dad are figuring out some grown-up things, but you don’t need to worry about that. We’re doing everything we can to make sure everything will be okay.”
Step 3: Maintain Routine and Structure
In times of chaos, one of the best things we can do for our children is to maintain a sense of routine and predictability. Children thrive on structure because it gives them a sense of security. If their world feels unpredictable, they look to their daily routines to anchor them.
Keep mealtimes, bedtimes, and other regular activities as consistent as possible. Even small rituals, like reading a bedtime story, can provide immense comfort in times of uncertainty.
Step 4: Encourage Open Conversations About Feelings
Children need a safe space to express their emotions, especially when the world around them feels confusing. Ask open-ended questions like, “How are you feeling today?” or “Is something bothering you?” This lets them know that their feelings are valid and important.
It can be hard to hear that they’re upset, but giving them the opportunity to voice their concerns can help them process what they’re experiencing.
Example of a Gentle Conversation Starter
If you notice they’re quiet or acting out of the ordinary, you could say something like, “I noticed you seem a little off today. Is there something on your mind?” This invites them to share without pressure.
Step 5: Use Positive Distraction and Play
During chaotic times, children need healthy outlets for their emotions. Engage them in activities like drawing, playing outside, or building with blocks. Play can be an incredibly therapeutic way for children to express themselves and release tension.
These activities don’t just serve as distractions; they allow your child to process their feelings in a non-verbal, safe way. Plus, spending time with them in these moments reinforces your bond and lets them know that, even in chaos, they have your full attention.
Wrapping It Up: Setting the Emotional Temperature of the Home
As parents, we set the emotional temperature of our homes. If we’re constantly anxious, it’s hard for our children to feel calm. But by managing our stress in healthy ways and helping our kids process their emotions, we create an environment where they feel safe and secure—even when the world feels chaotic.
No one expects perfection, and it’s okay to have moments where you’re overwhelmed. What matters most is how we handle those moments and how we guide our children through them.
So take a deep breath, give yourself grace, and know that by simply being mindful of your own emotions, you’re already taking important steps toward helping your child manage theirs.
Finding the Silver Lining: How to See the Good in Tough Moments. Life is unpredictable. As a mom, I’ve come to expect that there will be days (and sometimes whole seasons) when things simply don’t go as planned. From the little disruptions like missed appointments or sleepless nights to the bigger storms that leave you questioning everything, life doesn’t let us coast for long before throwing a curveball. And let’s be real—it’s hard. When you’re deep in the middle of the mess, it’s easy to focus on what’s going wrong, the overwhelming challenges, and the never-ending stress.
As moms, we have an incredible ability to find hope, even in the darkest times. It’s what keeps us going and fuels us to keep showing up for our families daily. And when we find that silver lining, we can move forward with a little more strength, a little more grace, and a lot more faith.
Over the years, I’ve learned something that’s changed how I see these trials. There’s always a silver lining.
So, how do you find the good when you’re in the middle of a tough season? It starts with a simple question: What can I learn from this?Or maybe, How is this changing me for the better? It doesn’t have to be a big, life-altering revelation—sometimes the silver lining is just realizing that you’re stronger than you thought or that you’re not alone in your struggle.
The Power of Acknowledging the Struggle
First, let me be clear: finding the good doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine when it isn’t. There are real struggles, and it’s important to acknowledge them. I’ve been through my share of storms, literal and metaphorical, and I know how easy it is to feel weighed down by the burdens we carry. Whether it’s dealing with a financial crisis, health issues, or the heartbreak of strained relationships, we all have moments when life feels too heavy to bear. And in those moments, feeling frustrated, exhausted, and even hopeless is okay.
Shifting Your Perspective
God has taught me that finding the silver lining requires a shift in perspective. It doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s not always easy. But when we intentionally start looking for the good—no matter how small—we begin to see it. Maybe it’s a lesson we’ve learned through the trial, a new strength we’ve discovered in ourselves, or a moment of kindness from someone who stepped in to help.
In my life, I’ve found that even in the toughest moments, there’s always something I can hold on to—a tiny flicker of hope that reminds me this hardship won’t last forever. It’s not about ignoring the pain or glossing over the challenges but rather choosing to focus on the growth that can come from them.
The Good That Comes Through Trials
When I think about the toughest moments in my life, what stands out isn’t the pain I felt at the time—it’s the strength I gained from walking through it. Every challenge has shaped me into the person I am today. I’ve learned patience, resilience, and, perhaps most importantly, empathy. As moms, we’re often the ones holding everything together, but it’s through the trials that we learn just how strong we are.
It’s also through these trials that we become more compassionate toward others. I’ve found that the struggles I’ve faced have opened my eyes to the pain others are going through, allowing me to connect with them on a deeper level. That connection, that understanding, is one of the silver linings that can come from hardship.
Finding the Silver Lining
So, how do you find the good when you’re in the middle of a tough season? It starts with a simple question: What can I learn from this? Or maybe, How is this changing me for the better? It doesn’t have to be a big, life-altering revelation—sometimes the silver lining is just realizing that you’re stronger than you thought or that you’re not alone in your struggle.
As moms, we have an incredible ability to find hope, even in the darkest times. It’s what keeps us going and fuels us to keep showing up for our families daily. And when we find that silver lining, we’re able to move forward with a little more strength, a little more grace, and a lot more hope.
Wrapping It Up
Life’s trials are never easy, but they don’t have to be our undoing. God always has something good to be found, even if it’s just realizing God is your hope and you can make it through. So, the next time you find yourself in a storm, take a moment to look for that glimmer of light. It’s there, waiting for you to discover it.
Teaching kids to form coherent arguments is a skill children should learn to develop during childhood to become confident and effective communicators when they are older.
As parents, we all want our children to grow into confident, effective communicators who can express their thoughts and beliefs clearly and respectfully. However, learning how to form a coherent argument is a skill that takes time to develop, and it starts with simple, everyday conversations. Whether explaining why they should stay up a little later or sharing their opinion on a school project, teaching kids how to make a case for what they think, using facts and reasoning sets them up for success.
By helping our children think critically and present their ideas clearly, we’re helping them develop a lifelong ability to communicate thoughtfully and respectfully. In this episode, I will share how we can make this habit second nature for our children.
Understand Your Topic
Before starting any argument, ensure you know what you’re talking about. Teach your children to learn about the topic by reading or asking questions so they are not just guessing.
Example: If your children wants you to consider later bedtime, your children need to understand what’s healthy for them at their age and how much sleep is really needed.
Clarify Your Position
Teach your children to be clear about the point or points they want to make. Help them think about and decide what they are trying to prove or change and say it.
Example: “I think I should go to bed at 9:00 instead of 8:30 because I’ve been getting my homework done on time.” This is a clear position.
Gather Supporting Evidence
Don’t just say what you want—back it up with reasons! Find facts or examples that help explain why your point makes sense. Help them gather evidence to support their position.
Example: For the bedtime argument, you could say, “Studies show that kids who are a little older, like me, can stay up later and still get enough sleep if they manage their time well.”
Consider Counterarguments
Encourage your children to consider what someone else might say about their argument and be ready to respond to it. This shows that they’ve considered both sides.
Example: “I know you might think I’ll be too tired for school if I stay up later, but I’ve been waking up easily for a week now, and I’m not sleepy during class.” Model for your children how to address a counterargument.
Structure Your Argument Clearly
Make sure your children learn that an effective argument has a beginning, middle, and end. This will make it easy for them to follow and understand.
Example:
Introduction: “I think I should go to bed later because I’ve shown I can handle it.”
Body: “First, I finish my homework on time. Second, I don’t feel tired in school. Third, I’ve been managing my time well.”
Conclusion: “So, for these reasons, I believe going to bed at 9:00 is a fair idea.”
Use Simple, Clear Language
Teach your children to talk in a way people can easily understand. Don’t use big words or confusing language. Just say what you mean.
Example: Instead of saying, “The situation is rather inequitable,” you can say, “It’s not fair.”
Stay Calm and Confident
When you’re making your argument, don’t get upset or start yelling. Speak in a calm voice, and stand tall.
Example: If your parent interrupts and says, “But you need your rest,” calmly reply, “I understand, but I’ve been getting enough sleep and feel great.”
Teaching Kids to Form Coherent Arguments by Concluding Effectively
When you finish, sum up your main points so it’s clear why your argument makes sense. Ending strongly helps people remember what you said.
Example: “To sum up, I finish my homework, wake up easily, and don’t get tired during the day. That’s why I think I can handle going to bed a little later.” This version uses relatable examples for kids and makes the instructions easy to follow, helping them understand how to make their point clearly and respectfully.”
Wrapping It Up
Ultimately, teaching our children how to form coherent arguments isn’t just about winning debates—it’s about helping them become thoughtful, confident communicators. As they learn to express their ideas clearly, listen to others, and back up their beliefs with facts, they’ll develop skills that will serve them well in every part of life. Whether they’re navigating friendships, school challenges, or future careers, the ability to communicate respectfully and logically is a powerful tool. By investing in this now, we’re preparing them for a lifetime of meaningful conversations and connections.
Have you ever wondered if your hopes and dreams for your child might be more about you than them? It’s a tough question, isn’t it? As parents, we want the best for our children. We want them to succeed, to be happy, and to reach their full potential. But sometimes, in our desire to guide them, we unintentionally place our expectations on their shoulders. This is why rethinking parental expectations that we have for our children offers possibilities for them to follow their God-given bend without damaging our relationship.
But what happens when those expectations don’t align with who our child truly is?
Today, let’s explore how we can rethink our parental expectations and learn to honor the unique, wonderful individuals our children are created to become. It’s about letting go, embracing the unknown, trusting the Lord, and finding joy in the journey of discovering who they are, not who they think they should be.
Why Parents Often Have Expectations and When Those Need to Shift
Parents, we’ve all been there—we set expectations for our kids because we love them so much and want the best for them. Maybe it’s because we value certain things, like a good education or a stable career, or maybe it’s just because we want to see them succeed and be happy. Sometimes, those expectations come from our experiences, the things we’ve learned, or even the dreams we never fulfilled.
It isn’t always easy to examine why we have certain expectations of our kids. But if we focus too much on molding them into our image, we risk stifling their growth and suppressing the qualities that make them unique. It also takes their Creator out of the picture, which is the opposite of what the Lord has planned for our children.
Impact of Expectations on Children
When we set expectations for our kids, it can really shape how they grow and develop. If our expectations are supportive and match who God made our kids to be—their strengths, interests, and personalities—it can boost their confidence and help them feel good about themselves. But when our expectations are too high or rigid, it can make them feel stressed, anxious, or even like they’re not good enough. That’s why it’s so important to find a balance. By being flexible and really listening to who our children are, we can help them grow into confident, resilient individuals ready to face whatever comes their way.
Learning to Honor Your Child’s Unique Nature
Honoring a child’s unique nature means recognizing and appreciating the individuality that each child brings into the world. It’s about seeing beyond the surface, beyond what we might expect or want for them, and truly understanding who they are—what makes them tick, what lights them up, and what makes them feel understood and loved.
When we honor our child’s unique nature, we say, “I see you. I value you for who you are, not for who I think you should be.” It’s about allowing them to explore their interests and passions, even if those paths differ from the ones we might have imagined for them. This approach fosters a sense of security and self-worth in our children. They begin to trust themselves, to believe in their own abilities, and to feel confident in expressing who they truly are.
Reframing Your Expectations
Guiding a child’s path is like being a supportive coach on the sidelines while controlling it, which is more like trying to direct every play in the game. When we guide our children, we’re there to offer advice, share our experiences, and help them navigate choices, but we also give them the freedom to explore, make their own decisions, and learn from their mistakes. It’s about trusting them to find their way, even if it’s different from the path we might have chosen.
On the other hand, controlling a child’s path means trying to dictate every step they take, deciding what they should do, who they should be, and how they should live their lives. It often comes from a place of love and wanting the best for them, but it can feel stifling to a child. It can prevent them from developing their own sense of identity and confidence in their abilities, and if we aren’t careful, it can also keep them from seeking God’s direction for their life.
Think of it this way: guiding is like giving your child a map and teaching them how to read it, while controlling is like holding the map yourself and telling them exactly where to go. Guiding helps them learn, grow, and become independent, while controlling can lead to resistance, frustration, and even a lack of self-confidence. It’s all about finding that balance between offering support and allowing them to be who they are meant to be.
How to Rethink Parental Expectations
Setting expectations that align with a child’s capabilities and interests starts with really getting to know your child—who they are, what they love, and what they’re good at. Here’s how you can do it in a simple, practical way:
Observe and Listen
Pay attention to what your child naturally enjoys doing and where they excel. Notice the activities that make them light up and lose track of time. Listening to their interests and passions is key.
Open Conversations
Talk with your child about their goals, interests, and what they find challenging or exciting. Ask them what they enjoy and what they’d like to try. These conversations can help you understand their dreams and fears, making setting expectations that match their abilities and desires easier.
Set Realistic Goals
Based on what you observe and the conversations you have, set goals that are challenging yet achievable. If your child loves writing but struggles with grammar, encourage them to write stories while gradually improving their grammar skills. The idea is to build on their strengths while gently supporting them in areas where they need growth.
Be Flexible and Discerning
Understand that interests and capabilities can change over time. What your child loves today might not be what they love tomorrow. Be open to adjusting expectations as your child grows and explores new things. It’s okay for goals to shift as your child discovers more about themselves.
Celebrate Effort and Progess, Not Just Outcomes
Focus on your child’s effort rather than just the end result. Praise them for trying hard, learning from mistakes, and showing perseverance. This approach encourages a growth mindset and helps them feel confident in taking on new challenges.
By setting expectations that are in line with who your child truly is, you’re helping them grow in a way that feels natural and empowering. You’re not just guiding them; you’re partnering with them in their journey to becoming their best selves.
Encourage Social Connections
Remind your child that getting involved on campus can help them feel more at home. Joining a club, playing intramural sports, and participating in a study group can be great ways to meet new friends and build a support system. We are created for community and relationships, and getting involved is an excellent way to ease homesickness.
Wrapping It Up
Honoring a child’s unique nature creates a supportive environment where they feel free to be themselves. We give them the room to fail, succeed, grow, and learn in their own ways.
This approach not only helps build a stronger, more authentic relationship between you and your child but also helps raise confident children who can listen to the Lord’s leading. And isn’t that what we all want for our children?
In today’s increasingly connected world, it’s nearly impossible to shield our children from political discourse. As parents, our role is to equip our kids with the tools to navigate Political Conversations with Kids Part 2 respectfully and confidently. In Part 1 of our series, we explored why political conversations matter and how to prepare your child for these discussions. In this second part, I’ll share how to handle political conversations with friends, navigate family gatherings, and encourage ongoing political conversations with your kids in the safety of your home.
Handling Political Conversations with Friends
Respect and Understanding
When it comes to politics, our kids are going to encounter different opinions, especially among their friends. It’s so important for them to learn that while we don’t always have to agree with others, we do need to respect their viewpoints. Encourage your child to listen first and think before responding. This simple approach can make all the difference in keeping conversations friendly and open. Remind them that it’s perfectly okay to say, “I see your point, but I think differently,” rather than brushing off someone else’s opinion. By teaching respect and understanding, we’re helping them build strong, compassionate relationships—even when opinions differ.
Peer Pressure
We all know how impact peer pressure can be, especially when politics enter the mix. We simply must prepare our kids for those moments when they might feel the urge to go along with their friends just to fit in.
When we talk about ways kids can stand firm in their beliefs while still being kind and respectful. Encourage them to use phrases like, “I think we just see this differently, and that’s okay,” to gracefully handle these situations. By building their confidence, we empower them to stay true to themselves, even when peer pressure is at its peak.
Real Life Political Conversations with Your Kids
To make these lessons stick, share a story from your own life or someone you know who successfully navigated a political conversation with a friend.
Real-life examples are powerful—they make the lessons more relatable and show our kids that it’s possible to stand firm in your beliefs while keeping your friendships intact.
Navigating Family Gatherings
Encouraging children to ask questions and think critically about political issues is vital. Teach them to evaluate information, consider different perspectives, and form their own opinions. Provide examples of questions they can ask, such as “Why do people have different opinions on this issue?” or “How does this law affect our community?” Role-playing scenarios where they practice discussing these questions can build their confidence and understanding.
Setting Boundaries for Political Conversations with Children
Family gatherings can be a mixed bag, especially when politics come up. It’s important to talk with your child about setting boundaries for these discussions. You might agree as a family to steer clear of politics during meals or certain family events. Setting these boundaries ahead of time can prevent uncomfortable situations and help everyone enjoy their time together. After all, gatherings should be about connection and fun, not about heated debates.
Dealing with Heated Discussions
Even with boundaries in place, sometimes political conversations can get a little heated. Teach your child how to stay calm and collected if things start to escalate. Practicing how to respond to intense comments can be incredibly helpful. Let them know it’s okay to step away from a conversation if it becomes too much. Simple phrases like, “Let’s agree to disagree,” or “Maybe we should take a break from this topic,” can be lifesavers in diffusing tension and keeping the peace.
Encouraging Ongoing Conversations
One of the best things we can do as parents is create a safe space at home and stay informed about these conversations. Let your child know that your home is a judgment-free zone where they can share their thoughts and questions without fear of being judged. This kind of environment encourages them to explore their ideas and engage in meaningful, thoughtful discussions.
Wrapping it Up
Talking about politics with our kids is an ongoing conversation that requires patience, understanding, and a commitment to open dialogue. By teaching them how to handle political discussions with friends, set boundaries during family gatherings, and keep the conversation going at home, we’re helping them grow into thoughtful, informed, and respectful individuals. Remember, these conversations aren’t just about politics—they’re about preparing our kids to navigate the complexities of the world with confidence and care.
