The holiday season arrives with twinkling lights, long lists, and the pressure to make everything magical. But The Holiday Moments Your Kids Will Remember Most (and How You Can Create More of Them) isn’t about perfection at all. It’s about the small, simple, unplanned moments that imprint themselves on a child’s heart and how you can create more of them without adding to your stress.
As a mom of five, I can promise you this: the things we worry about are rarely the things our kids carry with them into adulthood. They remember the warmth, the laughter, and the feeling of being loved. And the good news? Those things are already woven into your everyday life.
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Kids Remember Atmosphere, Not Perfection
Kids remember the atmosphere you create far more deeply than the decorations you display.
Children don’t remember whether your garland was full enough or whether the wrapping paper matched. They remember how the home felt. When the scent of cinnamon fills the kitchen, or you pause to watch a Christmas light display with them, something inside their heart is being stitched together.
Kids remember the feeling of being welcomed, seen, and included. They don’t forget when you laughed at something silly or pulled them onto the couch for a quick snuggle. Those small, ordinary moments become the extraordinary ones in hindsight.
And as you look closer, you’ll notice that many of these memories are tied to simple, meaningful traditions. Traditions that don’t require perfection at all.
Small Traditions Anchor Kids Emotionally
Simple traditions become emotional anchors that give children a sense of belonging.
Traditions don’t have to be complicated, expensive, or elaborate to be meaningful. In fact, the simplest ones often become the most cherished.
A familiar book read each December.
A drive through a neighborhood covered in lights.
The same cookie recipe you make every year.
A movie your family watches in pajamas.
Kids thrive on repetition and predictable joy. These small traditions anchor them when life feels busy or uncertain, and they give your home a soft place to land. And they work because they’re rooted in connection, not performance, something we often overlook in our pursuit of a “perfect” holiday.
The beautiful part is, traditions don’t have to be elaborate to matter. In fact, the simpler they are, the more room they leave for connection, which brings us to something many moms don’t realize.
What We Think Matters… Usually Doesn’t
The pressure you feel to “do all the things” is rarely what your children value most.
We work so hard to make Christmas memorable, but the things we stress about rarely make the memory list. Kids don’t remember the perfectly set table or the gourmet meal. They remember the laughter around that table, and the way you smiled at them when you finally sat down.
They remember the time something went wrong and everyone laughed, the night the power went out, and you read stories by flashlight, and the joy, not the juggle. Which means you can let go of so much more and enjoy so much more than you think.
And this perspective shift gives us freedom. Freedom to create more of the moments that truly matter.
How to Create More of These Joy-Filled Moments
Creating more meaningful moments doesn’t require more effort—just more awareness.
The best part? You don’t have to chase big moments to make big memories. You simply create the space where connection can happen.
Here are a few simple ways:
Pick 2–3 things that matter and let the rest go
Look for 10-second moments to slow down and connect
Leave room for spontaneous fun
Protect one quiet night each week
Choose laughter over frustration when plans go sideways
Take natural photos, not staged sessions
Lower your pace just enough to see the joy in front of you
When you shift your focus from doing to being, everything about the season softens.
And even if you feel behind, overwhelmed, or exhausted this year, there is hope, because you’re already doing more than you realize.
If you feel behind this season, take a deep breath. Your children aren’t measuring your effort; they’re absorbing your presence. I know social media might make us think they matter, but they don’t.
The warmth in your voice. The way your eyes softened when you looked at them, and the feeling of being loved right where you were.
And friend, that means you are already giving them exactly what they need.
“10 Simple Gratitude Habits for Happy Moms” isn’t just a title; it’s a truth I’ve lived through in my own motherhood. Because if we’re honest, some days feel heavier than others. You wake up already behind, the house is loud before the sun is up, and you’re carrying more mental and emotional load than anyone sees. It’s in those moments, right in the middle of real-life motherhood, that gratitude becomes more than a nice idea. It becomes a lifeline.
I’ve learned over the years that practicing simple gratitude habits can make motherhood feel lighter, calmer, and more grounded. Not because the challenges disappear, but because gratitude shifts the way we walk through them. These small, meaningful habits fit into everyday routines and help you see God’s goodness in ordinary moments.
Below, I’m sharing the ten gratitude habits that have made the biggest difference in my own days, and I believe they can do the same for you.
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“Gratitude isn’t denying the hard moments, it’s discovering where God’s goodness is quietly waiting for you in them.” ~ Connie Albers
1. Start Your Day with One Thankful Thought
How you begin your day shapes the tone for everything that follows.
Before your feet ever touch the floor, pause long enough to whisper one simple thank you. It doesn’t need to be profound. It can be as small as “Thank You for a new morning” or “Thank You for the strength to try again.” These tiny moments of intention shift your heart before the rush of motherhood hits.
This habit isn’t about ignoring the hard things; it’s about giving your heart a soft landing before the day begins. When you start with gratitude, you’re more likely to notice God’s fingerprints throughout your day.
Beginning your day this way opens your heart to small joys, and mealtimes are one of the best places to practice noticing them.
2. Share a “Small Joy” at Each Meal
Mealtimes give you built-in moments to slow down and reconnect with your family. gratitude.
Instead of rushing through food and cleanup, use those few minutes to invite everyone to share one “small joy” from their day. Not big accomplishments, simple, ordinary things that made them smile. Kids learn so quickly when gratitude is modeled for them, and they love being part of a family rhythm.
Maybe someone enjoyed playing outside. Maybe a teen had a good conversation with a friend. Maybe you savored a quiet moment before the house woke up. These small joys help your family practice noticing good things they would normally overlook.
When you begin sharing joys at the table, it becomes more natural to pause with gratitude during stressful moments, leading into the next simple habit.
3. Practice the 30-Second Gratitude Pause
Motherhood is full of moments that can overwhelm you, but a quick gratitude pause can reset everything.
When you feel stress rising, step away for just 30 seconds. Take a slow breath in, release it, and name one thing that is still good right now. It might be the sunshine streaming through a window, a child playing peacefully in the next room, or simply the chance to try again.
This short pause gives your mind space to shift from reaction to intention. It helps you regulate your emotions, calm your nervous system, and approach the situation with more clarity. Over time, these pauses become a grounding practice you can return to again and again.
As these pauses soften your reactions, it’s easier to reframe frustrating moments through gratitude, which brings us right to the next habit.
4. Turn Frustrations into Opportunities
Every mom faces frustrating moments, but gratitude helps you see them with fresh eyes.
Instead of letting irritation take over, try quietly praying, “Thank You, Lord, for helping me grow,” or, “Thank You for guiding me through this moment.” You’re not dismissing the frustration. You’re inviting God into it. This shift helps you respond with more patience and less pressure.
This habit won’t make difficult moments disappear, but it can keep them from taking over your day. Gratitude doesn’t minimize the challenge; it magnifies God’s presence right in the middle of it.
When you reframe frustrations with gratitude, it becomes easier to create shared family practices, like a gratitude jar, that help everyone notice the good.
5. Keep a Family Gratitude Jar
Creating a gratitude jar is one of the simplest and most meaningful ways to help your family see God’s goodness in everyday life.
All you need is a jar, some scraps of paper, and a willingness to pause long enough to write things down. Throughout the week, invite everyone from little ones, teens, and adults to jot down moments they’re thankful for. These don’t have to be big or profound. “I liked playing with my sister.” “I had fun at co-op.” “Mom made my favorite dinner.” Small things matter.
Then, once a month or on a special day like Thanksgiving, gather together and read them aloud. It becomes a sweet reminder that God is at work in your home in ways you may have forgotten or overlooked.
This simple practice helps gratitude become something visible, shared, and celebrated.
As your home becomes filled with these small reminders of goodness, you naturally begin expressing gratitude beyond your four walls—which leads to the next habit.
6. Send One Encouraging Text a Day
One of the easiest ways to cultivate gratitude is by expressing it to someone else.
It might be a friend who checked in on you, a spouse who noticed you needed help, or even one of your children who did something thoughtful. A quick text saying, “I appreciated when you…” or “Thank you for…” can brighten someone’s day and lift your own heart at the same time.
Encouragement doesn’t require long paragraphs or the perfect words. A short, sincere message carries more weight than you realize. And as you make this a daily habit, you’ll start to notice just how many people add goodness to your life.
Send a simple message:
“I appreciate you because…”
“It meant a lot when you…”
“I’m grateful for your friendship.”
This outward expression of gratitude also helps soften your awareness of the small victories happening right in your own home. And when you begin noticing the good around you, it becomes much easier to recognize the “little wins” worth celebrating, which brings us to the next habit.
7. Celebrate “Little Wins” Out Loud
Moms often minimize their progress, but your wins matter. For example, getting everyone out the door on time, responding calmly, and trying again after a hard moment are wins worth acknowledging.
When you practice little wins out loud, your children naturally start noticing your children’s strengths as well. That’s a goal we should strive for.
8. Notice the Good in Your Children’s Strengths
One of the most powerful gratitude habits is choosing to look for the good in your children—and saying it out loud.
Kids may hear correction throughout the day, but they rarely hear the strengths we see in them. When you slow down long enough to notice their character shining through, it speaks deeply to their hearts.
You might consider saying:
“You are so thoughtful.”
“You handled that situation with maturity.”
“You’re learning to be patient. I see it.”
These simple moments of affirmation do more than encourage them; they build confidence, strengthen connection, and remind you that God is at work in their hearts, too. When you practice noticing their strengths, it becomes much easier to create little gratitude cues that shift the atmosphere of your home, leading right into the next habit.
9. Create a Daily Gratitude Cue
Sometimes we need a gentle reminder to slow down, breathe, and notice the good right in front of us.
A daily gratitude cue is simply something in your home that nudges your heart toward calm. It doesn’t need to be elaborate, just a small moment you intentionally choose. They’re small but powerful, especially on days when you feel pulled in every direction.
And as these gratitude cues soften the tone of your home, they make it even easier to end your day with a moment of reflection, which brings us to the final habit.
10. End Your Day with a Gratitude Reflection
Before you fall asleep, take a moment to look back and ask, “Where did I see God today?”
This question doesn’t require a long journal entry or deep emotional work. It’s simply an invitation to notice His presence in the ordinary and unexpected hug, a small moment that made you smile, a bit of energy you didn’t think you had.
This nightly reflection helps your heart settle into peace rather than stress. It reminds you that even on hard days, God is still near, still working, still caring for you. And here’s the good news: you don’t have to do it perfectly. Gratitude is a practice, not a performance.
Ending your day with gratitude closes it with hope and opens the door to a lighter, more grounded tomorrow.
Final Thoughts
Motherhood will always have full days, unexpected moments, and seasons that stretch us more than we ever imagined. But gratitude helps soften the sharp edges. It doesn’t erase the hard things, but it shifts how we walk through them. When you pause long enough to look for God’s goodness—even in the messiest moments—you begin to see your life with clearer eyes and a calmer heart.
And here’s what I want you to remember:
You’re doing far better than you think. You’re growing. You’re learning. You’re showing up in ways your children will remember long after the dishes are done and the laundry is folded.
Every time you choose gratitude, especially on the hard days, you’re teaching your children how to anchor their hearts in what matters most. That is no small thing. That is legacy-building work.
Even as we work to protect our children’s hearts online, many of us are also caring for the people who once cared for us.
So take the pressure off yourself. Start with one little habit. Make one small shift. And trust that God will meet you in each moment, guiding you, steadying you, and giving you the strength you need for today.
You are capable. You are equipped. And you are not walking this journey alone.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re barely keeping up, you’re not alone. Top 5 Struggles Moms Are Facing Right Now shines a light on what so many mothers are quietly carrying. From the endless to-do lists to the unspoken emotional weight, today’s moms are navigating pressures that can leave even the strongest feeling weary.
Motherhood is full of joy, yes. But it’s also filled with unseen challenges. Let’s take an honest look at the top five struggles many moms are facing and how we can begin to find hope, peace, and connection again.
What Moms Are Struggling With Right Now (and Simple Ways to Cope)
The Mental Load That Never Ends
You might not see it, but the heaviest thing most moms carry isn’t in their hands, it’s in their minds. The mental list.
The Invisible Checklist
From the moment your eyes open, your mind starts racing: lunches, appointments, school emails, dinner plans. The mental load is relentless, and most of us feel guilty for ever stopping. According to the American Psychological Association, nearly 70% of mothers report feeling mentally exhausted most days.
Last week, I found myself staring at the same grocery list I’d written three times because I kept misplacing it. That moment reminded me it wasn’t just my schedule that was full; it was my mind.
However, you can breathe again when you stop trying to hold it all together perfectly. One way to manage the load is to write down three tasks you can release or delay this week. When you intentionally remove some of the “to-dos” on your list, your brain is able to focus on what matters most to you and your family.
How to Ease Your Mind
Start by naming what you carry. Write it down, even the small things. Then ask yourself: Does this really have to be me? Let your spouse, teen, or friend share the load. Delegating doesn’t make you weak; it makes you wise.
“I want to remind you of a verse I constantly focus on: Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” — 1 Peter 5:7
Once we quiet the mental noise, we begin to notice another weight pressing in on us that hits our hearts every time we look at our calendar. How do we do this? Create margin.
The Constant Exhaustion and Overwhelm
It’s not just being tired; it’s being tired of being tired.
Why Moms Feel So Drained
Modern motherhood rarely pauses. Between work, activities, and household demands, rest feels like a luxury. When we run on empty, patience and joy are the first to disappear. The cycle continues, leaving us feeling like we’re never enough.
A friend recently told me, “I wake up tired, I go to bed tired, and somewhere in between I forget to breathe.” Many moms echo that same quiet confession.
Creating Margins for Rest
Give yourself permission to rest before you break. Protect one pocket of time each day: no screens, no chores, just a deep breath and quiet. You can’t pour from an empty cup, no matter how much love you hold. We all have limitations.
Ask yourself: What would change if you scheduled rest the same way you schedule responsibilities?
One way to help you get rest is to memorize this verse: “Come to Me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.“— Matthew 11:28
And while exhaustion wears us down, another stress often looms over every decision we make—finances and the pressure to make life run smoothly.
Financial Pressure and Budget Stress
When prices rise but expectations stay the same, moms feel the squeeze most.
The Money Tug-of-War
Groceries, gas, tuition, gifts—the list never ends. Many mothers quietly shoulder the financial stress for their families, trying to stretch dollars and keep smiles on faces. It’s exhausting and isolating.
Recent data from the Federal Reserve indicate that household costs continue to rise faster than wages, leaving families with less financial breathing room and increased emotional tension.
Finding Peace in Practicality
Instead of chasing “bigger and better,” focus on “meaningful and memorable.” A picnic in the park or breakfast-for-dinner builds a connection that money can’t buy. The memories your children carry forward have little to do with price tags.
While money weighs heavily on our minds, another recent challenge that competes for our attention and our children’s hearts is screen usage.
Screen Battles and Social Media Overload
Technology promised to make life easier, but for most families, it’s made parenting harder. At least it has for most families.
When Screens Steal Our Peace
Between kids’ devices, constant notifications, and our own scrolling habits, it’s hard to find quiet moments. A recent Pew Research study found that teens spend an average of 6.5 hours a day on screens outside of school, leaving parents anxious and unsure how to set limits.
One mom shared with me, “I used to think silence meant peace, now it means everyone’s staring at a screen.” That’s the digital reality we’re all learning to navigate. But it doesn’t have to be. As parents, we can limit the amount of time our children spend on screens.
Connection Over Control
The goal isn’t to get it perfect; it’s to create a healthy connection. Ask your child what they enjoy online. Understanding why is crucial in comprehending your child’s motivations and their desire for screen time. I encourage you to listen carefully before addressing this topic. When kids feel seen and safe, they’re more likely to share what’s happening in their digital world.
Something that has helped other moms is to share your screen habits with your child. Remember, our children are learning from us in how we use devices.
Even as we work to protect our children’s hearts online, many of us are also caring for the people who once cared for us.
Caring for Parents While Raising Kids
You never expected to be parenting your parents while still raising your children, but here you are.
The Two-Sided Pull
The sandwich generation is growing, and many mothers find themselves stretched between caring for aging parents and raising their children. You want to be present for both, and still have something left for yourself.
A listener recently told me, “I feel like I’m always leaving someone waiting: my mom, my kids, or myself.” That tension is real, and it’s heavy.
How to Find Balance and Grace
Set gentle boundaries and accept that you can’t meet every need. God doesn’t ask you to be everything for everyone. He asks you to be faithful with what’s before you. Rest in knowing He sees your unseen sacrifices.
When you look at all these pressures together, it’s no wonder so many moms feel weary. Yet within every struggle lies an opportunity for renewal.
Finding Hope in Hard Seasons
Motherhood has always been demanding, but the pace and expectations of today’s world have magnified the weight. You don’t have to fix everything to be a good mom. You just have to keep showing up with love, grace, and a willingness to start again tomorrow.
This week, choose just one area to lighten. Maybe it’s saying no to a commitment, logging off early, or asking for help. Small shifts restore big peace.
Take heart, friend. You’re not failing—you’re faithfully doing one of the hardest, holiest jobs there is.
Avoid Mom Burnout—three little words that hold so much weight for every mother who’s ever felt like she’s running on empty. Whether you’re juggling homeschool lessons, managing household demands, working a job, or simply trying to hold it all together, burnout can creep in quietly and settle deep. It often begins with good intentions: caring, giving, doing. But when your energy is constantly poured out and never refilled, exhaustion takes over. Trust me, I have to constantly work to avoid burnout.
If you are like me, you’ve found yourself weary, irritable, or questioning if you can keep going like this; you’re not alone. There are steps you can take today to begin finding rest and renewal. Let’s talk about it.
Burnout isn’t just about doing too much; it’s about giving your best and feeling like it doesn’t matter. It might surprise you to learn that burnout comes from two major contributors that often get overlooked:
Lack of Progress – Working hard but seeing little to no results.
Being Undermined – Feeling like your efforts are ignored, devalued, or dismissed.
Both of these can drain you faster than overwork alone. Let me show you why and what you can do to avoid burnout.
Avoiding Burnout Can Keep You Refreshed
“Burnout doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’ve been faithful for a long time without giving yourself permission to rest. Your well-being matters, too.”~ Connie Albers
If Burnout Comes from Lack of Progress
Reframe and Redirect Your Efforts
Track Progress Differently: Sometimes progress isn’t obvious. Find a new way to measure small wins.
Example: A mom feeling like she’s failing at homeschooling can look at how much her child has learned over the last six months instead of just this week.
Set Smaller, Achievable Milestones: Big goals can feel overwhelming. Create checkpoints.
Example: Instead of “I need my business to be successful,” set a smaller milestone like “I’ll gain three new clients this month.”
Detach from Immediate Results: Some work (parenting, leadership, creativity) has a long runway before success appears. Trust the process.
Adjust the Timeline, Not the Goal: If something isn’t working as fast as you want, allow more time instead of quitting.
If Burnout Comes from Overworking Without Rest
Priotize Recovery and Sustainability
Schedule Rest Like an Appointment: If rest isn’t intentional, it won’t happen.
Example: A business owner sets non-negotiable “off” hours just like she would schedule client meetings.
Work Smarter, Not Harder: Look for low-effort, high-impact actions instead of just adding more to your plate.
Example: A homeschool mom could focus on teaching fewer things well instead of trying to cover every subject perfectly.
Batch Similar Tasks: Minimize switching between tasks to conserve energy.
Example: Instead of answering emails all day, do them in one block.
Embrace the Power of Saying ‘No’: Burnout often comes from overcommitment.
Example: Instead of agreeing to volunteer for another event, recognize your limits and say, “I’d love to help, but I can’t commit right now.”
If Burnout Comes from Emotional Exhaustion
Priotize Recovery and Sustainability
Reduce Emotional Overload: Limit your exposure to negative news, stressful relationships, and social media comparison traps. It sounds simple, but it works.
Find Emotional Outlets: Keeping everything bottled up makes it worse.
Example: Journaling, therapy, or deep conversations with a trusted friend.
Let Go of What You Can’t Control: Holding onto things you can’t change increases emotional exhaustion.
Example: A mom worrying about her adult child’s choices can shift focus to prayer, support, and personal peace rather than anxiety.
Schedule Joyful Activities: When was the last time you had fun?
Example: Plan something that brings pure joy, even if it seems unproductive.
If Burnout Comes from Spiritual Depletion
Release and Recharge
Spend Time in Prayer, Worship, or Scripture: Spiritual renewal counters burnout like nothing else.
Example: Reading Psalms, reflecting on God’s faithfulness, or worship music can shift perspective.
Refocus on Why You Started: Reconnect with your original passion and purpose.
Example: A tired entrepreneur remembers why she started—helping others, achieving financial freedom, and expressing creativity.
Engage in Life-Giving Conversations: Talk to people who inspire and strengthen your faith.
Serve in a Way That Restores You: Sometimes, serving in a different capacity (one that fills rather than drains you) helps.
Scripture to Rest in God’s Presence
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. ~ Matthew 11:28-30 (NIV)
“The Lord replied, ‘My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.’” ~ Exodus 33:14 (NIV)
“Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.” ~ Psalm 46:10 (NIV)
Scripture for Physical & Spiritual Renewal
“The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he refreshes my soul.” ~ Psalm 23:1-3 (NIV)
“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”Isaiah 40:29-31 (NIV)
“Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, ‘Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.’” ~ Mark 6:31 (NIV)
Scripture for Trusting God Instead of Striving
“In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat— for he grants sleep to those he loves.” ~ Psalm 127:2 (NIV)
“There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from their works, just as God did from his.” ~ Hebrews 4:9-10 (NIV)
“When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet.” ~ Proverbs 3:24 (NIV)
Scripture to Encourage Your Heart
“I will refresh the weary and satisfy the faint.” ~ Jeremiah 31:25 (NIV)
“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” ~ 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV)
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” ~ Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)
Final Encouragement
If you’re feeling burned out, it doesn’t mean you’re not strong; it means you’ve been strong for too long without enough rest. You’ve shown up, poured out, and carried more than most people will ever know. But even the most loving, dedicated moms need space to breathe.
You are allowed to rest. Not because you’re weak or falling behind, but because your well-being matters just as much as the people you care for. God doesn’t ask you to do it all—He asks you to trust Him, to lean in, and to let Him carry the weight you were never meant to bear alone.
You don’t have to keep going at this pace. You can pause. You can reset. You can recover. And when you do, you’ll find that you have more to give—not because you pushed harder, but because you made space to be filled again.
So today, take one small step toward rest. Breathe in grace. And remember—you are not alone in this.
Rest Before the Rush: How to Prepare Your Heart for What’s Ahead is a message I’ve lived, not just learned. Every time a busy season approaches, whether it’s the holidays, a new project, or a demanding family schedule, I feel that familiar pull between wanting to do it all and knowing I need to slow down. Over the years, I’ve discovered that true preparation doesn’t begin with another to-do list. It starts with rest.
As a wife, mom of five, and grandmother who’s weathered more than a few hectic seasons, I’ve learned that rest isn’t weakness, it’s wisdom. When we pause long enough to restore our souls, we gain clarity, peace, and the ability to pour into others from a full heart, not an empty one.
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“Rest isn’t wasted time; it’s the sacred pause that makes room for what matters most.” ~ Connie Albers
The Calm Before the Rush: Why Rest Feels Hard
Before every new season, there’s that moment when you sense life speeding up again. You can almost hear the gears shifting, commitments multiplying, calendars filling, energy thinning. I’ve been there, sitting at my desk surrounded by speaking notes, emails, and laundry piles, realizing I was already exhausted before the rush even began.
Rest feels hard because our culture prizes productivity over peace. We believe if we slow down, we’ll fall behind. But what I’ve discovered is that rest doesn’t pull you backward; it prepares you to move forward with purpose and grace.
Rest is readiness. It’s the sacred pause that allows your spirit to breathe before you give again.
Once we begin to see rest as preparation instead of indulgence, we can start recognizing the subtle signs that our hearts are running on empty.
How to Know When You’re Running on Empty
It’s easy to miss the warning signs of depletion until they spill out in frustration or tears. If you find yourself short-tempered, forgetful, or unable to rest even when you stop moving, that’s your heart waving a white flag. You may crave quiet but feel guilty for wanting it.
I’ve lived that pattern, pushing through exhaustion, convincing myself I could handle it. But the truth is, when we ignore our need for rest, we eventually pay for it in our relationships, our health, and our joy.
Listen to your life. God often whispers through weariness, inviting you to come away and rest in Him.
Once you can name your weariness, you can begin to uncover what’s draining you and start refilling your soul.
Identify What Drains You
Every mom has her unique energy leaks. For some, it’s constant noise or comparison. For others, it’s unrealistic expectations or overcommitting out of guilt.
Take a moment to create an easy Peace Inventory. On one side, list what restores your peace: morning quiet, worship music, time outdoors, laughter with your children. On the other side, list what steals your peace: scrolling social media, clutter, criticism, or trying to control what isn’t yours to carry.
When you see it on paper, the patterns become clear. Awareness helps you protect your peace before it’s gone.
Once you’ve named the drains, it’s time to refill what’s been poured out.
Restore What’s Been Depleted
Restoration isn’t about running away from life; it’s about returning to it renewed. There are many kinds of rest: physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual. Each one matters deeply.
Take short pauses throughout your day—five minutes to breathe, pray, or walk. Protect one evening a week from screens. Say “no” to something so you can say “yes” to peace. Spend time with God without an agenda.
Jesus modeled this for us. Luke 5:16 says, “But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” If even He needed time to withdraw and refocus, how much more do we?
As you begin to restore your heart, you can also prepare your home and routines to reflect that peace.
Preparing Your Heart and Home for the Season Ahead
Preparing for what’s ahead doesn’t mean doing more—it means doing what matters most. Start with prayer. Ask God to show you where to simplify, what to release, and how to make space for peace.
This might mean saying no to extra activities, letting go of perfection, or slowing down long enough to enjoy those around you. When your heart is calm, your home follows.
When you rest before the rush, you show up differently. You respond with patience, lead with gentleness, and bring peace into every room you enter. You become the calm your family needs.
The key is to make rest more than an occasional retreat. It should become a lasting rhythm.
Building Rest Rhythms That Last
Rest isn’t a one-time reset; it’s a rhythm. When you create consistent habits of stillness, your life takes on a steadier, more peaceful flow.
Try building rest rhythms into your days, weeks, and seasons:
Daily: Five quiet minutes to breathe, pray, or reflect.
Weekly: A tech-free night to connect with your family or enjoy solitude.
Seasonally: A weekend of reflection or a simple getaway to reset.
You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight. Small rhythms practiced consistently create big transformations over time.
Once you begin living in rhythm, you’ll naturally create space to reflect and realign with what truly matters.
Final Encouragement: A Season of Renewal
Rest isn’t selfish! It’s sacred. It’s where God restores your strength, renews your vision, and refines your heart for what’s ahead.
Before you move into the next busy stretch, take one small action that restores peace: sit in stillness, pray, or laugh with your family. Remember, you’re not preparing just for tasks, you’re preparing your heart.
Because when you rest before the rush, you don’t just survive the season, you walk through it with grace, peace, and strength that overflows.
Motherhood is a mix of laughter, tears, and everything in between. But sometimes, what weighs us down isn’t just the laundry, the dishes, or the endless to-do lists. It’s the quiet lies that whisper when no one else is around. The Lies Moms Believe and the Truth That Sets Us Free is more than a catchy phrase: it’s the reality many moms carry every day. Lies like, “I’m not enough. Other moms have it all together. If I were stronger, I wouldn’t feel so overwhelmed.”
I’ve believed them too. Maybe you have as well. But here’s the good news: those lies don’t get the final say. God’s truth cuts through the noise, lifting the weight and offering the freedom we desperately need.
Lies Moms Believe and the Truths That Set Us Free
“Motherhood was never about being perfect; it’s about being present. Your presence is enough, because God is with you in it.” —Connie Albers
Lie #1: “I’m Not Enough
Many mothers struggle with the profound fear that they aren’t enough for their children. This lie often surfaces when we scroll social media or watch another mom juggle responsibilities with what seems like effortless grace. The comparison trap convinces us that our shortcomings disqualify us.
The truth is, God has already equipped you for the children He entrusted to you. “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). That verse is not just about your children. It is true of you! Your role as a mom isn’t about perfection; it’s about faithfulness. You don’t need to be everything to everyone; you only need to be present, willing to learn, and love your family with the gifts God has given you.
Here’s what I’ve learned: Motherhood was never about being perfect; it’s about being present. Your children don’t need a flawless mom—they need you.
When you stop believing the lie that you’re not enough, you can rest in the truth that God’s design for you is already sufficient. And that truth leads directly into the next lie we often fall for.
Lie #2: “Other Moms Have It All Together”
I remember standing at a co-op years ago, watching another mom glide in with homemade snacks, a tidy bag, and children who didn’t seem to argue. And there I was, barely holding it together with mismatched socks and a car that looked like a snack graveyard. I thought, Why can’t I be more like her?
But the truth is, every mom has her own hidden struggles. What looks effortless on the outside may be held together by late nights, tears, or a prayer whispered on the way over. Paul’s reminder rings true: “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9).
Comparison robs us of joy and blinds us to the grace God has already given us. Your story, your family, your strengths—they’re designed by Him. Instead of striving to look like another mom, lean into the truth that His grace fills every gap.
And when we stop comparing, we can finally deal with another heavy lie: the belief that our stress means we’re failing.
Lie #3: “If I Were Stronger, I Wouldn’t Feel Overwhelmed”
Many moms assume that feeling stressed means they aren’t strong enough. This lie tells us that a “good mom” should manage it all without breaking a sweat. However, the truth is that even the strongest moms sometimes feel overwhelmed. That doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human.
Jesus invites us to lay our burdens down: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28). True strength doesn’t come from pushing harder; it comes from leaning on Him.
The next time you feel like your strength is slipping, reframe the moment. Instead of thinkingI should be stronger, I should whisper, ‘This is where God’s strength can show up in me.‘ There is freedom in letting go of the lie and embracing His truth.
This shift also paves the way to address one last lie that many moms hold onto—that taking care of yourself is selfish.
Lie #4: “Taking Care of Myself Is Selfish”
Moms are pros at running on empty. We put ourselves last, thinking that’s what “good” moms do. But the truth? A burned-out mom can’t pour love, patience, or joy into her family.
Even Jesus modeled rest. “But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed” (Luke 5:16). If He needed time to pause and reconnect with the Father, how much more do we? Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s a form of stewardship. A well-rested, renewed mom can show up with patience, joy, and love.
Taking care of yourself isn’t indulgent; it’s a form of stewardship. It allows you to serve your family from a place of strength instead of depletion. A mom who rests and refuels shows her children what it looks like to live with wisdom and balance.
Giving yourself permission to pause is one of the most loving things you can do for your family. And that truth brings us full circle: lies will always try to creep in, but God’s Word offers the freedom and perspective we need.
Final Thoughts: The Lies Moms Believe and the Truths That Set Us Free
The lies moms believe are sneaky. They whisper in the middle of messy mornings and long nights. But the truth is stronger. You are enough because God says you are. You don’t need to compare, because His grace is sufficient. You don’t need to carry every burden alone, because His strength is made perfect in your weakness. And you can rest without guilt, because Jesus modeled it for us.
So the next time those lies creep in, pause and ask: What is the truth God says about me? Write it down. Speak it out loud. Share it with someone who will remind you when you forget.
Because here’s what I know: The lies may be loud, but God’s truth always sets us free.“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free” (John 8:32).
